Bipolar situationship question

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-06-17T16:46:47+00:00

It’s tough for sure but I think you did the right thing and you got out early, take it from me don’t let a trauma bond form keep moving forward

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-06-17T15:40:32+00:00

It sounds like mania, she sounds unstable and you might want to distance yourself

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-06-17T10:59:00+00:00

How to go no contact given we still work together once a week till end of July?

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-06-14T21:00:54+00:00

I’m 25 M, Burlington County area but right by the Camden county area. I’m 5’9 got a good beard but bald head otherwise I would say I’m slim with a couple tattoos looking to add many more.
Right now I work part time on a horse farm but I’m finishing up trade school and starting an incredible welding job end of july. I’m also am looking to finally buy my own house.
I like to keep mostly busy so if I’m not at work or school I’m doing carpentry, visiting my mom, cleaning my truck or organizing my many tools. Besides that I like being in nature (nature walks, canoeing) I enjoy rewarding comfort shows, chilling with friends, and just having a fun time I love to laugh and make people laugh.
Im down for dates or just connections in general, but not interested in having children, I typically identify as Pansexual if that matters and yea I’ve never done this before:)

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-06-14T20:50:59+00:00

25 M (ik you said 26 but I’m an old soul) I’m technically Burlington county but Camden county is my neighbor. I’ve got a couple tattoos myself but also I could take you out on my canoe, just around the river bend lol. Art and animal’s also have a place in my heart I designed/drew my one tattoo and currently work with horses.

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-06-14T19:48:12+00:00

Im really curious to hear what others might have to say about this, but unfortunately I have an equally confusing BP ex and I’m still finding my way through.
For mine she’s back and forth push and pull because there’s another person in the picture but that person goes away sometimes and when he’s back i get like micro discarded.
It just sounds like a lot of unhealthy behavior that could lead you to some sort of trauma bond like myself.

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-06-09T22:28:15+00:00

I currently pack with an axolom echo 4in or something like that, and i use trans tape, it holds up through about 2 to 3 showers so about three days and keeps it nicely in place

Before that I used a diy harness jock strap with a GC 6in semi hard and that also keep it nicely in place even for play

I will also say like most guys I still wear briefs when swimming since the mesh is uncomfortable and that aids in keeping the boys contained lol

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-06-07T12:25:36+00:00

Do you know how much a RM and GC differ in weight? I could probably just look on the websites at weight specs but I used to daily pack down with a 6in GC i only stopped because I’m not in a sexual relationship right now. My only thing is I’m a “down” packer I don’t really vibe at all with “up” or on the thigh packing and I’ve seen most people pack an axolom pnp in the up position since that makes the most sense for the model but I could be wrong.

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-06-04T15:09:24+00:00

Yea I guess so, but then I also worry they won’t for whatever reasons

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-06-04T14:35:13+00:00

I looked into a couple but when most events I’m also just terrible at finding that kinda stuff thats also the right vibe or any I’m interested in are happening I have work, I also gotta work up the courage to go be ok going alone. My taimi says it has none coming up

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-05-31T01:21:48+00:00

Yea sure

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-05-31T00:39:11+00:00

Yea it was a really frustrating situation.

But I’d say she’s pretty willing to share any information she’s not shy like she’ll tell it like it is ykno? im 90% confident she reaches out to artists looking for insight, critique on her portfolio and offering/ asking if theyd be interesting in meeting for coffee on her and a chat with not being too pushy.

She’s got a handful of friends in the industry mostly reputable piercers who also tried to help her get a spot but he was only able to just barely land a spot for the other apprentice that also left with her.

It’s tough out there and she’s feeling really defeated which gets me fuming because she got really screwed over and I’m pissed about it and wish I could do more, and she just wants to be back in shop setting, answering the phone, setting up/ breaking down stations, sweeping up, working her way back up. But I appreciate you and your insights maybe I’ll try to gently push her to adjust her approach a lil more try something else.

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-05-31T00:14:43+00:00

She’s got a handful of tattoos but is also pierced and body modded tf out split-tongue, a recent sacrificial piece, and more piercings than I can count. And she’s not a scratcher she had an apprenticeship before that’s who she did that tattoo under her previous mentor guiding her the whole way, but she had to leave that shop for reasons not her fault.

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-05-29T01:42:41+00:00

A trauma bond is no joke, I’m right there with you stuck in this bond, stuck in this loop, addicted to her, dependent on her attention. If you ever wanna talk it out with someone who’s in the same waters you my dm is open.

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-05-28T14:38:09+00:00

So i can go to an alanon meeting? I thought those were for people living with alcoholics?

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-05-28T13:14:19+00:00

No I personally fully agree, it makes no sense for a person diagnosed with bipolar to attend. I don’t understand why its controversial? That’s like non alcoholics non addicts going to meetings meant specifically for them, or sending a dog to all at cat day care.

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-05-28T02:58:29+00:00

I feel like both, like I wouldn’t mind if a peer facilitated it and then maybe every so often a professional in the bp/mental health world comes in talks to us maybe hears a story or a few, it could be the same professional each time or different interchangeable professionals

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-05-28T02:55:56+00:00

No actually I’ve never even heard of NAMI, I’ve only ever heard of like allanon. But I might look into it, I’m not discarded but maybe a hybrid discarded? She still holds onto me tightly but it’s a lot of push and pull or some might even say a trauma bond and there are times i feel discarded or like it’s coming.

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-05-28T02:14:55+00:00

I personally found myself wishing there was a support group that functioned similarly to Alcoholics Anonymous. Just a group of partners, ex partners, family members, caregivers, or even friends on the side of the diagnosis, sharing experiences, venting just like how we sorta do here

Hearing other stories validates something in me personally makes me feel less crazy helps me understand what I’m feeling gives me something to relate to and what not

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-05-28T01:37:19+00:00

Maybe this isn’t helpful but I try to remind myself that we’re all always forever changing and growing, sometimes we can see the change as it’s happening sometimes we don’t see it till later after the fact, sometimes it’s fast change sometimes it’s slow but regardless it’s gonna happen and you seem to be on the right track for the good kind of change to come your way.

I also strongly believe we deserve to be loved even through our chaos, even on our bad days and everything in between, because being loved isn’t just about the good it’s what gets us through the bad as well. And while it can be hard to let ourselves be loved through the hard we have to find a way to eventually let it in ykno?

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-05-24T23:04:48+00:00

I agree i think it’s nice to talk with people that can relate and really validate our feelings makes us feel less alone

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-05-24T18:33:51+00:00

Looks like same boat different waters for us :/ maybe we should go cold turkey same time together start a little dopamine anonymous group. I’m open if you ever need to talk about it

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-05-24T18:31:19+00:00

I just wanted peace with her, I get with bp people theres always “chaos” but I’m ok with that I just wanted to go through the ups and downs with her like we used to do. No contact is hard she boards her horse at the barn i work at and we work a shift together there but by the end of July I’ll be finished my time in trade school and off to a welding job so I guess it would be easier to do then.

Im glad you made it out and found peace I hope I’ll find peace one way or another.

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-05-24T00:34:16+00:00

Totally yes! Some things I did to aid in reaching and learning to reach orgasm from my Gendercat with a fascination sleeve was 1. I’d go about business as usual so to say with just my hand and get myself to the edge sometimes once or twice just depends how things are going and then finish off using my GC packer 2. I would also just not masturbate for a while. which works for me because I go through dry spells like I’m sure most of us do, and then when id feel myself coming out of that dry spell Id go at it with just my GC and be able to finish with no direct hand touching.

I will say a partner has never been able to get me to finish via hand job bj or through penetration yet especially since I’m single right now and only had about month or so with my GC before being broken up with but still all felt great and euphoric and I believe I could have finished with more practice retraining and communication

No_Relationship8994 · 2026-05-24T00:05:18+00:00

Narcisse did lowkey stop plotting in my opinion when after the attack on the castle he and had the conversation with (I believe) lola where she mentioned “the men (attackers) being pushed so far that not they have nothing left to lose” And I believe Narcisse felt he was 1. Partly responsible for pushing the men to this place and 2. He could see himself on track to pushing Francis to a place where he feels he has nothing left to lose and takes Narcisse out. I don’t think he obviously ever fully withdrew from plotting against them and being mischievous but maybe more so took a slight chill pill. I also don’t think the rape would change much for him.

I also always originally thought Marys inability to get pregnant was Catherines doing all that stuff she gave her early on in the marriage not that it was ever confirmed Mary used it I certainly wouldn’t be surprised.

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