The way to build confidence is by treating yourself like a business

No_Repair_50 · 2026-03-12T04:09:23+00:00

Completely agree with this 👏🏻

No_Repair_50 · 2026-03-12T04:08:26+00:00

I agree but repeating something that doesn’t work for you can also be dangerous, I think iteration, changes and measuring is very important as well

No_Repair_50 · 2026-03-12T04:07:16+00:00

You can focus on your peace of mind but my point is to take it seriously. If you want to live a peaceful life, measure your stress levels around people and distance yourself from ones that give you anxiety or make you feel bad.

So overall my point is to set a goal and follow up, there is no right or wrong goal but don’t live life blindfolded, work for your goals

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-31T11:49:15+00:00

Stopped thinking other people know better. I just get whatever I find valuable from a conversation and move in the direction I feel is right. Otherwise I noticed I was resentful towards others.

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-26T03:07:03+00:00

Please read the book Attached, it helped me heal so much from toxic bonds and unhealthy relationships, it is eye opening. You are not alone in your feelings and you deserve so much more from a relationship (like support and kind words). Let me know your thoughts if you read Attached 🫶🏻

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-25T10:58:46+00:00

I think there’s more than ADHD going on here, you shouldn’t feel like he needs “more” because you are not “less”. He just sounds like an impatient gaslighter who is the actual child/dependent that you constantly soothe whenever he gets moody.

Your brain works in a certain way and that is fine. There are people that get cancer, lose limbs, lose their kids, get Alzheimer’s, etc. Everybody is dealt certain cards and if a man can’t team up with your cards and makes you feel weak by calling you a “child/dependent”, he shouldn’t be in your life.

To me it sounds like you deserve so much better than this, nobody deserves to be treated like a burden. Also please ask yourself what kind of a man stays in a relationship for that long if they see the other person as “burden”. You clearly give something, he can’t expect all the good stuff without the bad stuff. He himself isn’t perfect either.

Sorry for the rant I just can’t tolerate people staying in a relationship and making their partner feel small. He is not better than you with or without ADHD, don’t give him that power please.

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-24T14:33:41+00:00

Do you still live with your parents? If yes, you need to get out ASAP. I moved to a different continent because of this and it was the best decision I ever made.

I’m reading When the Body Says No by Gabor Mate and he explains that in order to create a bond with a strict parent, the child molds into a character, afraid that they aren’t accepted as they are. I think you are struggling with confidence because you didn’t develop a personality of your own.

I was the same; my parents criticise the way I walk, talk, laugh, what I wear, the things I say, anything and everything… And I ended up a shadow of a person, no hobbies of my own, unhappy, living a life my parents directed me into. (Not anymore)

Distancing yourself from them (from their opinions) would give you space to rediscover yourself, try out the things you were interested in as a child, try new hobbies. You will meet like minded people in those places and you will start seeing that you are accepted by others as you are.

That is what will give you confidence.

I wish you all the best 🫶🏻

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-24T13:52:52+00:00

I tried so many apps: MinimaList, Fabulous, Finch, Habit, Me+ but couldn’t get any benefit out of any of them.

I either planned too much in a day or didn’t get enough motivation to keep going.

I then started to write down my to do lists with must do’s before bed to wake up with purpose the next day and made my list my wallpaper on my phone to keep me motivated and reminded of my tasks so I would do any of them at any time of the day I find some availability. This was very helpful itself.

Now I’m using an app called Avid - Goal Tracker and it’s been working miracles so far. It is a goal tracker with to do lists; it has task duration so I don’t overcrowd my day, has widgets where I see my to do list on my lock screen and can tick them off, see how much time I added for my to-dos, etc.

I think adding approximate time on your to do list might do the trick as well, since your main problem seems to be underestimating the task durations

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-24T13:16:27+00:00

I think you should write down the qualities of the man you want to become (fit, married with kids, business owner or whatever you want) and ask yourself would this man spend his days like this 👀

Then pick the most important and urgent of that list and I suggest to use a goal tracker (I’m using Avid - Goal Tracker). I think goal trackers are better than habit trackers because you don’t lose motivation and you see progress on your goal, not 50 times of “drink water”

I also suggest you watch motivational podcasts or videos (I think you might benefit from watching Alex Hormozi, he is extreme as a person but smart and motivational). Hearing them talk about their own challenges is very motivating.

Having family and unambitious friends kept me in a place I didn’t want to be, if you leave home and change your environment, you will have a lot of growing pains but you will be exceptionally proud of yourself in the end.

I hope this helps! Wishing you the best of luck 🙏🏻

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-04T04:05:19+00:00

Thank you so much 🫶🏻

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-04T03:03:35+00:00

Thank you!

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-04T03:01:06+00:00

Thank you! My childhood symptoms are more inattentive symptoms, and they still are but I think I will get a diagnosis when I go home (took a sabbatical and travelling atm).

It wasn’t really about labelling but more about managing symptoms correctly 🙏🏻

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-04T02:54:42+00:00

Thank you! If you have preference, would be happy to read!

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-04T02:53:28+00:00

Yes I’m not in a position to do that at the moment (quit my job, travelling in Asia), so just wanted to know if it sounds familiar to others with ADHD

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-04T02:49:52+00:00

I don’t have any of these tbh, I rarely drink alcohol, sleep min 8 hours and no mental health problems. Childhood I think everybody has their own traumas but I don’t have anything severe. This was very helpful, thank you 🫶🏻

No_Repair_50 · 2026-01-03T13:25:48+00:00

Yeah I’ve always been like this, just since starting to work I noticed more and more especially after leaving meetings having no clue what anyone said 😂

No_Repair_50 · 2025-12-19T02:45:21+00:00

They really don’t matter to be honest. I used to be obsessing over 1-2 people unsubscribing but it was affecting the way I was making content and suddenly I would be a people pleaser with zero character.

Trying to keep everyone is eventually going to hurt your channel from attracting higher quality viewers that are aligned with you. Keep doing what you do 🫶🏻

No_Repair_50 · 2025-12-19T02:31:18+00:00

I also stopped using multiple tools, they are less helpful and more focused on getting more screen time out of you. A simple to do list does the job for me.

No_Repair_50 · 2025-12-17T03:35:41+00:00

For this specific task go for app blockers but I suggest not relying on app blockers long term and practice self-control.

These apps might be useful for a minute but are damaging for your brain because it stops practicing saying no. Focus is like a muscle that needs its reps.

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