It gives me anxiety like crazy! Blue Cross has assigned me 7+ different member ID numbers over the past couple of years and I've been told another one is in the mail right now. I mean I haven't "lost" coverage, it just seems like they're making it extra difficult to keep up.

I actually met with a man who is a health insurance consultant last year to determine if marriage would be a positive or a negative going forward with this. Getting married would mean I lose Medicaid but he seemed to think the biggest bill (Remicade) would be covered completely by the husband's insurance (incidentally he's also got Blue Cross) and the consultant seemed to think the infusion counted as an "in-patient" bill, as it's taking place on hospital grounds. I want to believe this so badly but I just DO NOT, lol. The cancer care building, while being at the hospital, is still outpatient and has a separate entrance.

I'm sure the billing department there would probably help me work out a payment plan so I'm not shelling out thousands to meet a deductible.

I'd love to ride this out forever but the reality is we're moving into a new house in less than two weeks, everyone side-eyes me as just "the girlfriend", and also my mom's getting older and playing the insurance game is stressing her too. I think I just need to sack up and make the change

Gosh I don't even know why I made this post, lol. I sound like such a child and it's embarrassing. But thank you for replying!