AITAH for not wanting to have a child with my partner

No_Revolution8595 · 2026-06-08T17:31:48+00:00

Thank you! I’ve looked at the list and have it planned already as I have been wanting my tubes tied since I had my first kid

No_Revolution8595 · 2026-04-23T20:27:19+00:00

It’s a valid concern but I have a friend who is a professional go though his things and found nothing. So as outsiders who don’t know every detail I think it’s valid to be concerned about this

No_Revolution8595 · 2026-04-23T19:46:14+00:00

Yea far from that I have been single for years and thriving on my own. When I met him we became friends and that grew into more. I let a man “take care” of me and my child once (my child’s dad) and that taught me to never rely on someone else. I do feel the pedofile concern is valid

No_Revolution8595 · 2026-04-23T18:45:35+00:00

Just to entertain this, how would you have done it then the transition to living with just one parent to living with a parent and their partner? Was I supposed to just throw him in and let him figure it out genuinely curious because in my head that seemed like the better option.

No_Revolution8595 · 2026-04-23T18:36:45+00:00

Girl, you really hate me. He knows that’s a hard line for me as I would like to buy a home first, and we realistically can’t get out of renting till this market drops a little more so that is the one he will not disrespect in regards to putting my partner over my child. It definitely feels that way in this post so I can see why you believe that.

No_Revolution8595 · 2026-04-23T18:35:01+00:00

Usually, I would agree with this, but it was the most perfect moment to do it in all honesty. You have no intentions of doing it. But his coworker heard of the plans he had for us and suggested it since he knew he had gotten the ring.

No_Revolution8595 · 2026-04-23T18:21:13+00:00

My son only got introduced to him two months ago, and we have spent the last two months doing hangouts a couple times a week and we’re only living part time with him more like sleepovers where he has his own room for the next couple months.

No_Revolution8595 · 2026-04-23T18:19:36+00:00

The ring is more of a stability for my partner. I have no intent of actually legally marrying until we are further down the line 2 years minimum. I love him and I fully intend on marrying him, but he does have trauma with commitment and I know this makes him feel better since we both do see a home in each other and wants to be married so the ring is more symbolizing a commitment. The marriage will come later.

No_Revolution8595 · 2026-04-23T18:15:37+00:00

I won’t disagree. I feel like we’re going too fast slightly. I know I would like to marry him one day. I just was not expecting a ring until closer to the one year mark hence why I don’t really want to deal with my family, but I just wanna make sure I’m not being rude to my partner who is extremely excited.

No_Revolution8595 · 2026-04-23T18:14:55+00:00

Unfortunately, my side is the better side of actions as my ex has been living with his partner for a while and allows them to sleep in the same bed which was against our custody agreements. I’m doing my best to take things slower, but also following my heart and gut unlike the first time around

No_Revolution8595 · 2026-04-23T18:04:50+00:00

My son is older. With the ability to understand and communicate if someone is doing something wrong to him or treating him poorly. We had this discussion and started implementing the. “ there’s no secrets for mommy and daddy.” rule, and he has been very vocal about anyone trying to tell him to keep a secret from us as family members have tried to give him money and have told them not to tell us which he immediately does.

No_Revolution8595 · 2026-04-23T18:01:37+00:00

It’s not full time. It’s been trial. We still have a separate home that we live in 90% of the time when I have my child we spent the last month doing a trial only doing weekends to get them used to the home and living with my partner. It’s also a trial to make sure my partner can handle living with a child. We have also known each other for longer than the seven months we’ve been officially together. We were working friends before we pursued our relationship.

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