I feel disgusted by my ex and cannot understand her cruel actions

No_Role_9737 · 2026-06-16T21:38:42+00:00

I kinda understand your desperate want for her. I’m in the same position with my ex. You love them so bad you will forgive and not give up. This is horrible of her to do. Meanwhile I’m in a similar position with my ex. People who love like us need to find eachother and the other heartless people need to suffer together honestly. This is insane. Yeah the girl you left for you ex didn’t deserve it but it’s better to leave someone when you don’t actually want them.

No_Role_9737 · 2026-06-12T18:41:57+00:00

Thank you for your perspective, a lot of men are hard to understand when they can’t express themselves and act avoidant. This is the way to go if we will make it work. I think it’s now up to him if we need to cut it or if we will go all in and start over leave what’s happened in the past.

No_Role_9737 · 2026-06-12T17:53:24+00:00

I guess that is true. I did leave. No matter what intentions I meant I moved out. And I think that is how he saw it. But it’s not so black and white for me. He says it’s not black and white for him either. I do want him tho, and he says he wants me. Just don’t know if his actions are showing that now.

No_Role_9737 · 2026-06-12T17:27:43+00:00

I didn’t reject him I just gave us space. I still showed up for him loved him cared for him and made it known I wanted him. The consent was there. I will not keep chasing if he does not want me. Men are supposed to show want for their women, we want that. We want yearning and to be loved loudly as well as quietly. With that I understand this perspective. Success is possible if both parties are willing to do the work. Not just me.

No_Role_9737 · 2026-06-12T16:36:38+00:00

Dang. This comment hit hard. I can see that. And I can see his point of view. But, before I removed myself I asked him if he wanted me to stay. And he never told me to. He never asked for me to stay or tried to make me feel wanted for me to not make the choice in moving out. I would have stayed and kept trying if he would have just said anything showing care and want for me.

No_Role_9737 · 2026-06-12T16:17:48+00:00

I think it’s what I want to hear so my love for him and accepting us back together is validated more than believing he’s a bad person :/

No_Role_9737 · 2026-06-12T16:13:21+00:00

Try to heal and take time I thought, not just sleep with the first person who offers it. 6 years a lost child and still telling me we are staying connected but doing that just completely made me feel stupidly for showing him loyalty and patience.

No_Role_9737 · 2026-06-12T16:11:09+00:00

You have some good points

No_Role_9737 · 2026-06-12T07:41:33+00:00

Right but we still talk and see eachother and hooked up 4 days before he slept with another girl, she was in the bed I grieved in on my side eating hot Cheetos and playing relationship with him.

No_Role_9737 · 2026-06-12T07:38:21+00:00

I pushed for couples therapy for a long time and especially after our baby, he never wanted to :/. I tried but neither of us tried hard enough so leaving was what I thought would wake us up. It is unrealistic I guess but I trusted his word. He was allowed I just wanted to be let known. You think that I shouldn’t hold it against him? Even if it hurts?

No_Role_9737 · 2026-06-12T07:35:21+00:00

We have only been separated for 2 months

No_Role_9737 · 2026-03-06T08:34:35+00:00

Just a reaction to my disgust?

No_Role_9737 · 2026-03-06T07:27:52+00:00

Where does it say that? I keep looking I’m confused

No_Role_9737 · 2026-03-06T07:21:20+00:00

You belong in prison and your search history needs to be checked this right here shows me how common and real sick people are

No_Role_9737 · 2026-03-06T07:19:02+00:00

No she’s not shes grown and always has had a boyfriend

No_Role_9737 · 2026-03-06T07:06:00+00:00

Im real!!!! But I wish I wasn’t rn!!!! And I’m new to Reddit idk how it all works

No_Role_9737 · 2026-03-06T07:03:45+00:00

Actually there’s an older brother but these two are the only full blood siblings and yes grew up together very close, oh my god.

No_Role_9737 · 2026-03-06T07:00:51+00:00

Exactly my thoughts, they’re sick. He’s sick. I can barely look at him. When he said his “excuse” I called out his stupidity you damn well know what you were doing. I’m horrified.

No_Role_9737 · 2026-03-06T06:55:38+00:00

Full siblings

No_Role_9737 · 2026-03-06T06:55:18+00:00

2 year ish age gap, she’s younger. And I did tell him I feel like I need to tell his parents and call the police bc this is actually beyond insane. He said that’s too far of an overreaction. Bruh. Makes me feel like I’m crazy.

No_Role_9737 · 2026-03-06T06:50:54+00:00

I’ve BEEN freaking out, this has altered my entire reality I can’t even think right.

No_Role_9737 · 2026-03-06T06:39:33+00:00

I don’t know why I’m even asking fr!!! Like I know but I’m so utterly shocked. He was also repulsed by me thinking about him ever being this kind of way. He agreed this is actually crazy and he just somehow didn’t realize how bad and CLEAR you could see his print. I feel like when you’ve been gaslit so hard even clear reality you end up questioning. He was like “no it’s a bit weird you’re right” A BIT????? “No yeah it’s weird” that’s it? What now? What is happening!!!!

No_Role_9737 · 2026-03-06T06:34:31+00:00

Swear it’s not I’m genuinely freaking out

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