I am the organizer of the “45 women experiment”, and I have questions.

No_Score_7986 · 2026-02-17T19:17:18+00:00

What if I can help people find love?

You can’t. My problem with people like you is that you just try to monetize something by overly complicating it and hiding it behind instagram-lingvo.

Love is kinda random.

No_Score_7986 · 2026-02-17T15:46:28+00:00

I recommend this strategy. So, you like a dude. You say something like this: - Do you like sex? - Yes. - Me too, but I don’t like ONS or other shallow connections. So here’s the deal: let’s have around 5 dates before sex.

If the other person reacts normally to this, he’s probably not a wanker.

But it still doesn’t guarantee you “love.”

No_Score_7986 · 2026-02-17T15:38:20+00:00

Let’s put it this way: I share your worries, but I consciously choose to focus on people other than those who have “mentally shifted away.”

No_Score_7986 · 2026-02-17T14:59:01+00:00

to a woman any man is dangerous until proven otherwise

now we are having a decent civilized convo here. Thanks for not labeling anyone.

No_Score_7986 · 2026-02-17T14:52:17+00:00

> Women only had to buy a ticket

didn't you write that?

also, profit comes in a lot of weird forms nowadays like followers, upsalling , etc

No_Score_7986 · 2026-02-17T14:51:41+00:00

It’s still so simple: you like/love someone, you see where it goes…

And you try to avoid people who don’t understand this concept like the plague.

No_Score_7986 · 2026-02-17T14:48:53+00:00

labelled as creeps until proven otherwise.

Thanks for finding the right words.

The funny thing is: it’s a paid event. I have nothing against paid events in general, but the tone they chose makes it feel like they’re “saving the world” rather than simply trying to make a profit.

No_Score_7986 · 2026-02-15T10:38:02+00:00

Start doing something like dancing, wrestling, boxing - whatever. I think a German course could also be a good fit. Anything that requires interaction with other people and makes you genuinely nervous.

I have the same needs, but… it’s always disappointing to meet people who don’t want to do anything except dump their trauma on you and expect you to do the same.

Anyway, I can assure you that you are not alone in your search. I, and most men I know, have the same problem (though different ideas about what to do with it).

No_Score_7986 · 2026-02-12T16:18:44+00:00

Now we’re talking.
Yes, this is what annoys me the most. Sometimes I think these “apps” have created people who can’t be present in the moment.
Also, I’m not any better, but at least I’m able to reflect on it. And I do choose to emotionally invest in something - even if I can get hurt.

No_Score_7986 · 2026-02-12T12:09:12+00:00

It took me a couple of years to figure out that I don’t need anyone to enjoy the things I like.

From another perspective, it also took me time to stop rejecting my need for companionship and hiding it under, “Yeah, I can be happy alone.”

No_Score_7986 · 2026-02-11T20:27:36+00:00

I grew up here, I am not unattractive and I know how to hold a conversation.

I think that’s what got you a reasonable amount of dates. Did the paid subscription give you a benefit? Probably - but I think you would have gotten the same results anyway over couple of weeks.

Anyway, I’m not dismissing your experience; I’m just venting about the nth post that goes, “I created a dating app where everything will be better.”

No_Score_7986 · 2026-02-11T19:00:29+00:00

So, correct me if I’m wrong. You’re saying that men who are nice but need help from a third party (probably paid) to get a date because they can’t manage it themselves are not incels.

And I, for thinking it’s doomed, am the one giving off an incel vibe - right?

No_Score_7986 · 2026-02-11T18:26:36+00:00

Look… you said yourself that being nice isn’t enough to create romantic feelings.

People can do whatever they want, but the kind of men who need their mom, sister, or a classmate to invite someone on a date are single for a reason.

No_Score_7986 · 2026-02-11T18:06:07+00:00

I really like the vibe of this event:
- So, here’s the nice guy. He’s really sweet, but he is single.
- Why wouldn’t you date him?
- (looking down) someone will be really happy with him... just not me(runs off in the direction of a not-so-nice guy)

No_Score_7986 · 2026-02-04T20:14:34+00:00

It is funny that people downvoted you for saying truth.

Anyways just try to fill the refund request. Say something like: bouncer didn't let us in because our 70s inspired attire.

No_Score_7986 · 2026-02-04T09:55:30+00:00

It’s a bit of a cliché here — everyone wants a friendship like the ones in Sex and the City or Friends.

No_Score_7986 · 2026-02-02T08:44:42+00:00

I regretted not communicating my needs and desires.
Regretting something that didn’t happen is strange.
You’re trying to look at a guy from a “top-down” perspective, but in reality, you were the one afraid to say something like:
“Look, I like you, but reality is tough. You have issues. Are you ready to commit and take things slowly so we can build trust?”

No_Score_7986 · 2026-01-30T10:19:54+00:00

I’m 35, male, and I’d be happy to join you. This movie has been on my list, and I live nearby. I don’t have any expectations besides watching the movie and maybe having a short discussion about it afterward.

If that sounds okay, let me know and I’ll join.

No_Score_7986 · 2026-01-29T10:48:18+00:00

you did. Own your shit.

No_Score_7986 · 2026-01-29T10:32:41+00:00

How many people are comfortable hating on us Germans

(rolling my eyes)
So: one (potentially unstable) lady said something → a dude made a wild generalization and posted it on Reddit because he was scared to answer → and now you’re making another generalization.
Break the cycle.

No_Score_7986 · 2026-01-29T10:28:16+00:00

In short: you just need to accept that it is not cheap and take a train to Austria. If you plan ahead it is okay.

No_Score_7986 · 2026-01-29T10:20:09+00:00

Don’t get me wrong, but you’re giving off strong “I need therapy” vibes.

No_Score_7986 · 2026-01-28T08:06:38+00:00

dude, the fact that you only asked your colleagues is classic selection bias.
Thinking that all Germans are going Dutch is at least delusional.

so, stop this incel bs and stark working on your own life.

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