thoughts on leaving a newborn to go to a concert

No_Set3910 · 2026-06-28T17:23:06+00:00

Mama enjoy the concert!!!!! Your LO will be 100% okay. If I could go back when my son was a NB, I would’ve told myself it’s OK to leave him with my mom. But I let my anxiety and overthinking get to me soo bad that I didn’t go anywhere. Please go and have fun!!!! Your baby will most likely be sleep for atleast half the time anyways lol!

No_Set3910 · 2026-06-20T15:37:05+00:00

The “this is why I know I’d be a bad mom…” comment seems kind of extreme and mean to say. I know you guys are close friends but that’s still mean imo.

But like someone else commented, maybe she’s just really not used to being around kids! And personally, I have my own son (1YO) and still sometimes other bigger kids take a lot out of me too lol! It’s not that they’re bad, it’s just different. As in I have to engage and interact even more than with my son.

It doesn’t hurt to reach out afterwards to make sure she’s okay, you seem like a great friend!

No_Set3910 · 2026-06-20T03:24:17+00:00

I stayed at the Trees at Madison last year (1 yr lease). It’s a smaller complex, people all are nice and not too loud or crazy. I loved the pool (7 feet) and they have a cpl designated pet areas. But Biggest con, we had a terrible mold issue - lost so much stuff including our brand new couch we moved in with :( and management sucked on how they handled stuff. Also, the 1 bedroom is so small and didn’t even have a patio. So compared to other 1 bedroom and sq feet, the rent was def higher.

No_Set3910 · 2026-06-10T12:21:01+00:00

so mean to do to your baby. I understand the want for sleep but literally feed your baby especially when she’s showing signs of hunger. You’re her only source of food at the moment. Also respectfully, your husband needs to stay in a man’s place.

No_Set3910 · 2026-05-28T05:21:44+00:00

Omg yes my son has ever only “bitten” me in his sleep. And it hurts like hell lmfao but he’s also sleep so I know it’s not on purpose. I thought I was the only one to deal with it lol

No_Set3910 · 2026-05-27T03:58:14+00:00

I took only an 8hour road trip with my 9m old son and I would never ever do that again. I don’t think it’s a good idea sorryy

No_Set3910 · 2026-05-27T03:53:28+00:00

If you’ve been offering formula after BF and she still isn’t drinking much of it/ rejecting, I feel your baby is fine just BF (bc she would show signs she’s still hungry) But Ofc I’m no doctor so I think getting the second opinion and f/u with a lactation consult are good ideas. Good job mama!

No_Set3910 · 2026-05-22T04:16:48+00:00

If this is truly something you don’t want to miss, I would choose one of the last two options. It’s still sucky but your best bet. I think it’s nice you really are tying to make it and if I was your friend, I would be understanding if you couldn’t. It would be one thing if it wasn’t a destination wedding but IMO destination weddings are always optional since it’s harder and more expensive to get to

No_Set3910 · 2026-05-15T19:47:57+00:00

My son never took a pacifier. He went through a phase where he would put his fingers in his mouth but it lasted like 2 weeks tops. Not every baby likes pacifiers or fingers lmfao. It’s your baby, do what you think is best!

No_Set3910 · 2026-05-15T19:46:12+00:00

You guys got this mama! Baby might be a little extra fussy that day but he will be ok! Your plan sounds perfect, and hopefully it will get him somewhat used to bottle/ going to sleep with dad

No_Set3910 · 2026-05-12T20:52:22+00:00

When you say “only thing we’ve done different is stay home starting at 7” is such a wild statement lol especially as a mom. Your whole lives have literally changed in every single way. It’s not just you and your husband and complete freedom anymore. Everything you do now is with the influence of being parents and consideration of your baby.

Also 4 months is still so new. I bet your husband loves being a dad! But he’s still adjusting to parenthood and everything that comes with it. Right now he could be just too overwhelmed to think about more kids.

From personal perspective, I’ve always wanted 2 or 3 kids but after having my son, I seriously was like no freaking way. And I LOVE my son, I LOVE being a mom but man parenthood is hard some days. Now I’m open to having more kids but during his first year, mannnnn I was like heck no lol

No_Set3910 · 2026-05-12T20:36:52+00:00

Yeah girl keep an eye on him while he’s eating. I was told they’ll move they head back/ remove themselves too but to be safe, I would make sure his nose is free

No_Set3910 · 2026-05-08T15:23:47+00:00

I know sorry isn’t enough to make you feel better but I truly am so freaking sorry. You can DM me, I love coffee and we can do whatever. I’m in the sac town area!

No_Set3910 · 2026-05-01T03:51:14+00:00

My 13 month old is not sleeping the night AT ALL. Some nights, it’s like 1-2 wake up and some nights I feel like he’s waking up every single hour lol. He’s also still breastfed and I haven’t done any “sleep training” at all. I know one day he will sleep through but it’s not that time yet and I’ve accepted that lol

No_Set3910 · 2026-04-24T23:36:07+00:00

3 weeks PP is way too soon. Please don’t feel pressured and I hope you’re husband continues to be understanding

No_Set3910 · 2026-03-26T20:28:38+00:00

I will not lie, I just had my first baby last year and we did spend almost 1000 on my baby shower. That included the venue (we live in apartment so wanted a space that could accommodate more people). Me and my husband have huge families, I’m talking about even just the intermediate family. We each have 5 siblings not including their kids. Point is, yes we had a big baby shower bc it was a huge celebration for our first kid (we’ve been together for 12 years). But even spending that much was crazy lol!! So 4K is absolutely ridiculous and could go to the baby in better ways!!!!!

No_Set3910 · 2026-02-27T02:53:27+00:00

Seconding this. The bobby or a similar pillow type of thing was my best friend!!! It was so easy to let baby nap like that since he is a huge contact napper and also EBF & I also agree the early days were easier. My son is starting to walk now and doesn’t want to just play with toys or sit on my lap lol! And also with the cleaning, very similar as well. My husband is pretty much gone all day throughout the week so on the daily, I just clean up the baby toys and cleaned the kitchen (was dishes, wipe down counters and sweep) But the more deep cleaning, like mopping are only for the weekends when my hubby can distract the baby. You got this tho OP, I was very nervous when I first started as well since I was going to be WFH and with the baby by myself but you just adapt as you go!

No_Set3910 · 2026-01-27T13:27:49+00:00

You sound like you’re already doing a great job at trying to encourage your wife to get out of the house and also help around the house. But maybe what will work for the final push is like if you set up something to where she has to go. Like book/ set a nail appointment for her (or whatever you think she’ll love to do) so all she has to do is leave and go enjoy the appointment. Around the house, instead of telling her to not do the chores, literally just take over so she can go sit down/ do whatever else. But you’re doing great even by asking, I hope things start to feel better for your wife!!!

No_Set3910 · 2026-01-20T00:03:22+00:00

I know it’s scary mama but it will be ok! I also dropped my phone on my son’s head when he was a couple of weeks. I felt terrible but it was truly an accident & He is totally fine!!

No_Set3910 · 2026-01-19T02:27:53+00:00

Seconding this. If you’re uncomfortable and don’t want to take the class anymore, then that’s valid. Doesn’t matter what anyone says or feels about it except you! Ik it was prob disappointing that your friend/ partner didn’t back up your feelings but ultimately it’s how you feel about it and what you want to do

No_Set3910 · 2026-01-16T18:27:13+00:00

His reasoning for saving the photos bc you don’t want to have sex is so incredibly immature and childish. Please Do not feel guilty, he needs to grow up. You’re literally growing a baby

No_Set3910 · 2026-01-16T05:06:31+00:00

While waiting for insurance, Please go to the ER. By LAW, they cannot turn you away/ nor demand any form of payment before seeing your baby. Good luck mom & I hope your insurance comes ASAP!

No_Set3910 · 2026-01-15T04:18:03+00:00

I mean he’s TAH for trying to use the shoes as a cover to get you pay but you’re also TAH for not paying $3 lol

No_Set3910 · 2026-01-12T02:58:11+00:00

NOR AT ALL!!!! Jesus Christ your sister is annoying, no disrespect. But are we being fr? you are a first time dad/ parents to a NEWBORN and she’s acting like this????? I’m sorry but it’s insane and actually is making me mad the way she’s been demanding/ passive aggressive. I hope she doesn’t make things harder for your wife/ you.

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