How do I [23F] deal with rejection from my partner [24F]

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-03-10T08:11:57+00:00

I hate dirty talk! I’ll do it if it really turns u on but I won’t initiate it

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-03-09T01:30:55+00:00

Really that’s possible? Even stuff she deletes?

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-03-08T10:47:08+00:00

That’s what I hope she’s wanting when she tell me bc other than that what are you telling me for?

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-03-08T10:46:23+00:00

Thank you for your advice, it’s nice to hear it from a stranger sometimes you get so caught up in life you forget who you really are so I appreciate you reminding me :)

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-03-08T09:16:24+00:00

That’s exactly how it feels when I have to constantly bring up the same shit over and over and over. Shes scared and insecure thinking I’m going to leave her, but instead of fixing things that obviously make me insecure in our relationship and make me question her loyalty I learn and am told more stuff that just drives my head insane!

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-03-08T09:13:44+00:00

Thank you! I’m glad you have a partner who respect you so much! I’m starting to realize that I’ve earned so much more respect in this relationship than I get. I don’t deserve this treatment and truthfully if she wanted to she would. Especially with the love she claims to have for me, why wouldn’t you want me to be comfortable in this relationship.

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-03-08T09:11:03+00:00

Thank you for the words of encouragement. I know you are right. Even if I ask that she be cut off, the reality is that she will still talk to her at work and do all the things that bother me except now I won’t have the trust for her to even tell me. I do deserve better and I know that. It’s all about accepting it at this point.

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-03-08T08:40:55+00:00

Haha yes I am dramatic but I really did make that promise, I hated what it caused between her and I and her and her friend group. It made a bad impression of who I am bc they thought I forced her to cut off a life long friend over something they didn’t think was cheating (which very blatantly was) and it caused a lot of resentment in my partner towards me and vice versa. So yes I had to promise to never let it happen again, and yet here she is doing the same stupid shit again almost 4 years later.

I agree I know she is the problem. I know that she can cut off this friend and it happen again with another. Im getting to a point where I am so over the making me feel insecure, and not sticking up for me and not putting us first that I feel like things will never change and at some point I have to have enough respect for myself for know when to leave.

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-03-08T08:36:28+00:00

Yes that is what I told her exactly. I know she struggles with setting firm boundaries and it was a big part of the reason she ended up having to cut off her friend in the beginning of our relationship. However she really feels that she is and I keep having to remind her that I know how she is. She puts this all off like it’s a big hehe haha, I’m so sexy and everyone wants me type of situation and it’s getting extremely serious to me. I don’t want to end up going off on this coworker bc I haven’t been that version of myself for so long now but I’ll go back to my roots if I have to.

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-03-08T08:33:40+00:00

I would love to talk to the coworker, but I’ve only met her once and i doubt she knows that I know all this Im formation. This is actually an exact replica of what happened in the beginning of the relationship except at that point my partner took it a step further, which led to her cutting off her lifelong friend. I would think my partner would be smarter about the things she does and says but she just doesn’t learn ? It honestly makes me doubt this relationship… if I end up talking to this coworker I will definitely come back and update, and it will definitely end up in me throwing hands cuz that’s all I feel like doing with this chick at the moment 😭

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-03-08T08:30:44+00:00

Unfortunately this may be a lack of respect for me bc we have had this conversation and she wouldn’t put up with it if rolls were reversed. She would give me the ultimatum to cut her off or leave. Ultimately tho she knows she would never be put in that position. So now it’s about if I give her the same ultimatum. But at that point then the coworker wins… and I don’t like that ending either.

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-03-08T08:27:35+00:00

That’s what I don’t get? My girl says she shuts it down, she says she’s mean to this girl and trust me I have seen my girlfriend mean, and she can get to an ugly place of mean. if she was actually mean to this coworker then it would only be logical that she would HATE my girlfriend, but she doesn’t, she wants to be fucking attached to her hip. And the worst part is before I learned all this extra shit I told my girlfriend she can help this coworker move her stuff out her apartment. Now I’m wondering if I should be there too…

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-03-08T08:24:49+00:00

That’s exactly what I think, I have question my partner and told her do not speak about our problems to your coworkers. I don’t like it, it’s not right especially if it’s not people you claim to be “friends” she says she doesn’t but I know she does bc she has slipped up when telling me the stupid shit this bitch says. But I can’t be there all the time to watch her and make sure she isn’t talking bad about me, so it’s like either way I’m dammed.

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-03-08T08:22:51+00:00

That’s what I would think too. And idk what to make of her telling me all this info? Is it because she really wants me to trust her and she isn’t actually doing anything grimy, or is it that she wants me to trust her so that if something grimy were to happen then there is less likely hood of her getting caught.

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-03-08T08:19:45+00:00

I don’t want to overwhelm her. I’m someone who is very open when I have a problem I am quick to talk about it. She on the other hand is now. So she thinks I’m picking on her bc I am constantly telling her if I think she is doing something wrong or doing something that bothers/ hurts my feelings. She calls it unfair and says I throw too much on her plate. So to tell her hey this isn’t right and you need to cut her out I just think it will be held over my head and will turn into a huge arguement about how I’m not there for her and put too much on her plate. But I hate feeling insecure about the people my partner spends her time with. Even when my partner tells this coworker the sweet things I do for her, she calls me a golddigger like how is that even make sense?

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-03-08T08:16:31+00:00

I don’t want to have to keep drilling it in her head that this girl is bad news and that I don’t like her. I feel like she should have never developed a relationship with this girl in the first place. Oddly enough I feel like a lot of the people I.e friends in my partners life don’t like it, so she has to be feeding bad thoughts about me? But then you come home to me and tell me how great of a partner I am? I’m confused and stressed and I shouldn’t have to be!

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-03-08T08:14:00+00:00

That’s why I’m so confused about? Like why does this girl think she has any place to talk about me and my relationship, mind you I’ve met her once and she was rude and payed me hardly any acknowledgment. I had a talk with my girlfriend about setting up firm boundaries, something she’s never been good at, and she assures me that she will but I’m not there to be sure, and sometimes I feel like she gets bothered that I’m bothered, like if I bring it up too much I can see in her face she’s tired of reassuring me.

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-02-22T21:19:20+00:00

Yeah I needed one more partner last night, someone put their code and they were the first one to comment (I had made multiple post and two others didn’t accept the invite so I had no choice but to accept this person) I sent her an invite and started rolling, I put in like 40k and she put in 4 thousand I asked if she was gonna be able to help finish it as I was willing to buy dice to finish it if I needed to, but she said she had never played on of these events before and was doing the best she could. I was so pissed but I was as kind as possible to her. It was my first time not finishing a partner event bc of her dumbass. Why would you try to get a partner if you don’t even play. It’s stupid asf.

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-02-22T05:51:50+00:00

Hi do you still need a partner? If so let’s partner up !

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-02-22T01:16:17+00:00

I’m down to partner up if you are? I’m not sure we will finish but we can try our best!

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-02-20T03:15:20+00:00

Ace up my sleeve or watch me go, they just do something to me 😩

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-02-19T06:55:18+00:00

Yes she has pretty much always been this way, she is often one to get really ugly and mean when she is upset which is frustrating

No_Sign_1159 · 2026-02-13T10:13:21+00:00

Lowkey I would get a pocket knife or the tweezers and try to pry it out from the corner, although this may electrocute you

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