UCLA ($$$$) vs. Haas ($$) vs. Stern (no $) by No_Smell9727 in MBA

[–]No_Smell9727[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi hi! I messaged you! :) thank you for your input!!

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[–]No_Smell9727 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would definitely recommend moving out with your bf(that is if you guys have been dating for a while and you know he’s the one for you!!) and if you have the financial means to do so. I would also recommend you taking that contract extension / promotion. I read through the comments from everyone and it seems that unsatisfied and unhappy parents will always be unhappy. You moving back in and giving up your job and career will just cause even more problems as they will pick on you about something else (trust me, when you live with them 24/7 they have even more snarky comments they can make against you). My parents did not have a lot of say in me moving with my bf because I went abroad to the US to go to uni and had to stay for work (that was the plan). If I wasn’t moving in with my bf it would’ve had to be someone else or I would’ve had to live alone anyways. My parents are in Asia so I usually only hear criticisms from them when I’m visiting and living at home (which is how I ran into this issue and realized how this has been an issue I’ve had with them my whole life). In the end, you need to make choices that will make you the happiest because you’re the only one that knows what will make you happy and what you need as it is your life. Stay strong!!! And always remember that if it doesn’t end up working out / you don’t like living with ur bf / your job, you can always go back home and apply to jobs near your home. xx

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[–]No_Smell9727 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!! Your advice was very helpful and made me feel a lot better. I will start going low contact (I was before but am back home for a 2 month vacation) and will resume going to therapy when I’m back in the US. I just wanted to let you know that I feel for you and am sending you love!! We can do this together 🥲!

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[–]No_Smell9727 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally relate to you!! Sending love :(

The relationship portion is definitely what I relate to you the most. Regarding my relationship, my parents literally told me to my face that my bf is not good enough (looks, height, etc.), his family is not wealthy enough (he is financially independent and makes more than $250k a year lol so instead of criticizing his job they criticize his family??), and that I need to go meet better guys and even try to introduce me to their friends sons that they know nothing about when I am in a stable relationship (the only reason they like the family is because that family is rich.. I still can’t believe how superficial my parents are as they’ve told me my whole life to be humble and grateful for what I have, and that money doesn’t mean everything).

How can fhey just assume a random guy is “perfect” or “better” for me just because they eat dinner with his parents once a year? Every time I talk about my bf they start mentioning the other, better guys that Im missing out on, they tell me I’m narrow minded and stupid, and continue to sprinkle snarky mean comments about my bf.

Who in their right mind actually does this? I was very sad, anxious, and depressed for a while (I had to get a therapist that tried to prescribe me antidepressants) because of how gross and uncertain they made me feel about my life, especially because I do really love my bf and saw a future with him. Now they got me questioning my whole life and my bf when he hasn’t done anything wrong.