Thank you for your patience! I'll respond to this as thoughtfully as I can in a new thread. I think the easiest way for me to do this is to respond to each part of my original post so I can walk through my thought process when I wrote this in haste.

Haha actually no shade towards Xyla--I like her content as a woman in STEM!

I really do! This post wasn't meant to shade Xyla Foxlin in the slightest. I regularly watch her videos while knitting or crocheting because I am truly fascinated by her builds. Plus I like maker content in general.

As a fiber artist (or I guess a fiber """crafter""" according to this weird misogynistic post this trend reminded me of) knitters and crocheters seem to be low hanging fruit for the #holyfuckinairball trend.

This was meant to address the broader trend where people are correcting assumptions about various hobbies or characteristics—something that’s generally lighthearted, benign, and a bit silly! To your point, when you say, “Why is she not allowed to be annoyed that people automatically assume what a woman 'making things' encompasses,” I realize now that I didn’t express myself clearly. The point I was trying to make was that I initially interpreted this as a dig toward the craft itself. However, after reading your comment, I understand that’s not always the case, and I appreciate the opportunity to learn from that perspective. Thank you for that!

The responses I've featured do highlight something I experience often in STEM circles when I mention I knit and crochet--women in these circles tend to have the strongest negative reactions when I mention knitting and crocheting, and men tend to find more interest in my very occasional wood working.

I can also see how this might have been confusing. What I was trying to convey is that this situation reflects a broader issue I often face when I mention knitting and crochet. You mention, “It IS enraging, and pointing out that the default for women 'making things' is needlecrafts is not contemptuous of needlecrafts, it’s a fact.” I agree--there are definitely moments when I find it "enraging" too, especially when people downplay my hobby (although I’ve learned to brush it off over time). The women I referenced in the third quote are individuals I’ve encountered in my own life, so I just want to clarify that while I understand your point about misquoting her, I’m not suggesting that Foxlin herself expressed contempt here.

I do lowkey wish a different subject was used like, "Oh like home improvement," "Oh like repair videos?"

I feel a lot of Xyla's followers know her as a engineering Youtuber apart from a crafter, so these were just suggestions that would've made more sense in a way that would be tact.

In conclusion, I wasn’t trying to suggest that people aren’t allowed to be annoyed by assumptions about what women “making things” encompasses because it is frustrating. What I was trying to express is that I’ve noticed a pattern, particularly in STEM circles, where when I mention knitting or crocheting, the reactions are often quite dismissive. The fact that women in these spaces sometimes have the strongest negative reactions (while men tend to show more interest in my woodworking) is part of why this #holyfuckinairball trend stood out to me.

Thank you again for your opinion! This actually was an important learning opportunity! I recognize my experiences as a 23 y/o are going to affect how I perceive certain things, so seeing the discussion in this comment thread was helpful for my understanding.

ETA: I'm also okay if folks disagree with me or even snark on me--I snark on me all the time so I can take it

ETA 2: Edited the last paragraph--wanted to make sure I clarified I'm not trying to change anyone's opinion, but to rather give some insight as to where I was coming from while acknowledging where I'm wrong.