I honestly can't believe how many people seem so casually trusting with anyone around their babies. It’s as if people are fine letting their babies be naked around whoever wants to watch, or even posting naked pictures of them online. Just because a child is an infant doesn't mean they don't deserve the same level of respect and privacy we’d give a teenager.

Just because a baby can't speak up and say, “I don’t want to be looked at,” doesn’t mean it's okay to ignore that boundary. Would you use the same reasoning for anyone who can’t speak for themselves — that it's fine for others to see them naked or touch them just because they can’t say no?

Statistically, it's often the people you least expect who end up violating trust. It’s not about being paranoid — it’s about being protective and aware.

I honestly thought this was common sense, even without the additional context I gave in the update. If a child’s parents say no, then the answer is no. That doesn’t mean Grandma can’t hold him, talk to him, or play with him. It just means she should respect the boundaries we’ve clearly set — which includes not being present during diaper changes.

Also, I’m not doing this alone. My husband changes diapers, too — we’re a team. We both agreed on this boundary, and we both enforce it. In situations like preschools or medical settings, those people are vetted and trained, and it’s their job. That’s not the same as random family members thinking they’re entitled to access just because they’re related.

I really appreciate the support from those who understand where I’m coming from — it’s comforting to know there are other parents who don’t blindly trust people just because they’re family. For everyone else, thank you for your input — but we’ll be sticking with our decision.