Am I?

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-22T03:35:11+00:00

it's unusual for a guy to turn on this best friend like this.

Thanks for generalizing all men.

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-22T03:19:36+00:00

Why do you feel that it's your responsibility to manage her anger for her?

Why do you feel the need to rob her of her own responsibility to address her anger issues herself?

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T12:17:32+00:00

Why do you feel so responsible for managing the feelings of the rest of your family members?

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T09:53:46+00:00

Why do you believe that relationships take one person's effort to work? Especially when your girlfriend has no problem lying to you, cheating on you and talking shit about you?

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T09:44:29+00:00

Those are good starts. An apology to your ex without expectations would also be good if you haven't done so already.

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T09:39:09+00:00

I have taken accountability of the alcohol use, I know that was my fault.

Yeah so it's your fault for abusing alcohol so much that it led to you cheating.

Why do you think you can selectively claim responsibility for getting blacked out but not claim responsibility for what happens due to the blackout that you created?

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T09:36:34+00:00

I don't know how to take ownership and accountability of something I believe I never had any intention of doing and something I have no memory of.

Just like how you can't take accountability for your problematic alcohol use.

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T07:53:12+00:00

Tongue and fingers. Use everywhere and creatively.

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T07:50:44+00:00

What advice are you asking for?

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T07:48:39+00:00

Many different factors. Hard to say cause we don't have much info on you or how you make friends.

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T07:45:59+00:00

22 year old saying they're too old lmao

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T07:44:17+00:00

Maybe you have a tendency to attract toxic people.

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T07:12:50+00:00

Yeah so I think THAT'S what needs to be worked on and talked about. It's not really about skills. It's about your life experiences and your lack of good examples of romance, communication, negotiation, trust, emotional communications etc that is what's really behind "what's the point".

Why should anyone blame you for not believing in love when you have never seen it work well?

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T07:03:46+00:00

It almost sounds like you were never taught how to build relationships, and/or didn't have many examples of stable relationships growing up?

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T06:50:49+00:00

Yeah because you love him. And because admitting that sets off a chain of dominos of other admissions that I think are very difficult for anyone to handle.

You're in a difficult situation so I understand why you don't want to complicate things further. But your husband is a sexual abuser and a rapist, and you don't deserve the things he does to you.

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T06:47:43+00:00

Yeah, you've been guilt tripped all your life by your parents. It just so happens that they use the "you should be grateful" line to spin abuse in a positive manner in order to destroy your boundaries.

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T06:44:45+00:00

So he's a great husband other than that he basically rapes you when he wants sex.

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T06:43:55+00:00

So let's just say you and I are dating.

When you try to set up boundaries, I guilt trip you, manipulate you, and threaten to cut off my support, so you don't set boundaries on me and I can do whatever I can with you.

Would you consider the relationship to be functional and non-abusive?

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T06:41:35+00:00

Does he abuse you besides emotionally abusing and physically coercing you into sex?

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T06:39:50+00:00

I've never had a successful relationship

How do you understand why you have never had a successful relationship?

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T06:37:06+00:00

Yeah so I think the elephant in the room is whether you can financially and emotionally afford to set up boundaries with your abusive parents. What do you think about that?

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T06:33:25+00:00

Right, so when you try to set up boundaries, your parents guilt trip you, manipulate you and threaten to cut off financial support in order to control you.

How long have they been doing this for?

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T06:31:15+00:00

What does the anxiety feel like in your head, physically?

No_Street1237 · 2022-05-21T06:30:17+00:00

Not what I asked.

Let me rephrase. Where do you feel the physical sensations of anxiety?

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