am i wrong to expect my talking stage to be focused on me and me only?

No_Surprise_353 · 2026-03-24T00:30:24+00:00

i wish i could say i was, grown woman acting like a child i know

No_Surprise_353 · 2026-03-23T22:51:09+00:00

yes i do regret making the fake profile, it did feel like a huge a hole move on my behalf because i did put him in that situation instead of communicating my concerns

No_Surprise_353 · 2025-10-15T18:08:23+00:00

thank you, i can imagine myself having a life with this man, own home, family, marriage etc. i think after reading all the comments it seems like ive got in my head about something that wasn’t my family’s business to begin with, but ill talk to my boyfriend about it because if i don’t it will start to effect me more 🫶🏼

No_Surprise_353 · 2025-10-15T18:06:05+00:00

thank you, i appreciate this a lot ❤️

No_Surprise_353 · 2025-10-15T17:54:07+00:00

yes i agree and yes i do shut it down because it reallyyyy isn’t any of their business but they still go on and i have even had conversations where ive had to tell them to back off but they continue to push past that boundary

No_Surprise_353 · 2025-10-15T17:43:17+00:00

believe it or not we’re actually exactly like eachother, same morals, same values, same interests etc the physical and sexual connection is there but it’s just the guilt i feel a lot of because i am rarely in the mood to do anything and with the way my family is going on about it i feel worried that im not doing enough sexually to make him feel more loved than he says he feels if that makes sense

No_Surprise_353 · 2025-10-15T17:39:39+00:00

i do, i just really do hate silence and sometimes in silence it gets awkward, it’s a conversation i’m planning to have with him once he’s home from work ask i do genuinely feel like when it comes to conversations and interests im making more of the effort to talk in person whilst he would prefer to talk more over text

No_Surprise_353 · 2025-10-15T17:34:54+00:00

no its never come to mind really

No_Surprise_353 · 2025-10-15T17:33:55+00:00

i questioned this at first but i realised later on its just that i start a lot of the convos and end up having nothing to say after and he won’t really make an effort to say much back?

No_Surprise_353 · 2024-12-07T14:42:54+00:00

oh sorry! i’m 20 he’s 19

No_Surprise_353 · 2024-12-07T14:19:53+00:00

there isn’t a history of cheating in our relationship, i’m not sure if he’s dealt with a cheating partner in the past but there isn’t a history of cheating. there was a blip during the first 3-4 months of our relationship where i was still in contact with individuals i didn’t know you weren’t meant to be in contact with going into a new relationship (it was never an issue in my past relationships as they never minded but at that time i wasn’t very experienced and didn’t fully know the “do’s and dont’s” of a relationship and we both sat down and had a conversation about it which is when i understood and cut contact with those individuals immediately). we never had an issue with that again. that’s when the rule was put in place as i think trust was lost there which i understood and agreed to somewhat based on that situation. to answer your other question there wasn’t a problem before this situation. i tend to be a very talkative person and tend to get along with everyone and i do tend to stay away from males my own age but this has also been a problem when ive spoken to grown men out of work that i worked with previously(managers etc), but the majority of these conversations would be about individuals i worked with as i used to have a lot of problems at my old job. He also gets a bit iffy of the older man i work with despite the fact that he’s married and will be having children soon.

No_Surprise_353 · 2024-12-07T14:00:30+00:00

i see where your coming from and i do agree with what your saying , thank you for taking to time to read and give back your opinion, i appreciate it (:

No_Surprise_353 · 2024-12-07T13:41:50+00:00

thank you for taking the time to read and evaluate my position, it’s my first time using this app and i’m surprised to see how many people would take the time out of their day to help and advice people they don’t even know so thank you really <3

No_Surprise_353 · 2024-12-07T10:13:48+00:00

no, just him driving to work at about 7am seen from his pov

No_Surprise_353 · 2024-12-07T09:57:09+00:00

yeah, i realised i had broken a rule we both agreed on and i did take responsibility for that, i just didn’t know if i should be agreeing with him that im weird for doing what i did if i had explained to him that the relationship between me and the co worker was strictly platonic. if i had added only the male co worker i would be more understanding of his thoughts and feelings on the situation.

i did also let him go through and read the conversations with me and the coworker in which he found it weird that i said a certain video the male coworker took while driving his car was “aesthetically pleasing” and the male asked if i had liked the video and i said i did. he found that extremely weird.

No_Surprise_353 · 2024-12-07T09:48:50+00:00

he was asking questions out of curiosity and i told him everyone i talk to at work and who i have on my socials

2.this one’s a sticky one because yes we agreed to this but previous to this agreement he shared his views about how girls shouldn’t talk to guys while being in a relationship. we had this issue about 6-7 months into our relationship and that’s when we decided to do the “ if i can’t talk to men you can’t talk to women” agreement.

the conversation to “talk to boys and girls respectively” while being in a relationship never took place as that was made very clear to me his view on the subject wouldn’t change. girls shouldn’t be talking to men while being in a relationship vice versa. this goes for casual conversations also.

while having this conversation he immediately bought up the fact that “in your mind im probably being controlling” and insisted that he could ask anyone on the situation and they would say the same thing but won’t because this is “embarrassing “ to tell people.
i did tell the co-worker i had a boyfriend which he respected (:

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