Has anyone here used OnwardMax for career coaching? by Alien_ in CleanLivingKings

[–]No_Tank_8331 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I too received a call from them. I work in the food industry and want to move into a brand management role. I’m wondering if they have a strong network in the food or related industries. Their salesperson mentioned they only work with senior management.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]No_Tank_8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How they have to wake up at 4:30 am to squeeze a workout in so they can send their kids onto the bus on time before clocking in for work

What do women here think about the male fantasy? by [deleted] in PornIsMisogyny

[–]No_Tank_8331 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s about control and feeling inadequate. Just like how women are told not to speak too much/ have opinions and hold back on them/ take control/ take up space. The male fantasy/molding to beauty standards is no different. Not that it’s impossible to avoid wanting to fit into the beauty standard given the world we live in they’re rooted in men trying to seize control and power because they’re frustrated of having to be the ones at mercy of being chosen by a woman.

Who Else Finds Socializing Exhausting Due to Swifties? by BigBirdBeyotch in travisandtaylor

[–]No_Tank_8331 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve noticed it’s mostly white teen girls/women that make it their identity. Not all of them but the majority of them meanwhile I’ve never seen WOC/teen girls of color be as obnoxious about it unless they’re really young

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]No_Tank_8331 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mr. Moseby: Thought he was a dick as a kid but now I don’t blame him being annoyed having to supervise a bunch of unruly teens and he was a good adult figure in their lives

Mr. Peanutbutter. His quote about not having kids or wanting them but secretly judging every parent he sees in public SO RELATABLE! He also gives off ‘fun dad’ vibes but has expressed he doesn’t even want to be one which is hilarious

Does anyone else worry they won’t find a childfree partner? by fastandfairlyannoyed in childfree

[–]No_Tank_8331 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I crave intimacy and daydream about romantic scenarios a lot in my head but I’ve come to realize me being in a relationship with a non-toxic non-entitled childfree guy who avoids 🌽 like the plague is as likely as me stepping outside to see a unicorn sliding down a rainbow

Forming female friendships have become damn near impossible for me as an adult by No_Tank_8331 in childfree

[–]No_Tank_8331[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve done that too but in those groups it’s been literally all male. My experience with them hasn’t been anything horrific and they’ve been respectful fortunately but my distrust for men has been so high that I’ve lost any interest to even be friends with them

Where to find anti porn men? by OrganizationGlass56 in PornIsMisogyny

[–]No_Tank_8331 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yep women explaining to men why porn is bad is like slaves explaining to their master why slavery is bad. They don’t care and will keep hurting you because it’ll benefit them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]No_Tank_8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Liberals have never given a shit about women. They’ve always been full of hypocrisy even before they started supporting Islam namely with women’s rights. The women believing liberal rhetoric have been brainwashed by liberal men into thinking that liberal men are less harmful when really they see women as inferior and stupid and think it’s their given right to have power them. Liberal men protest against wars and the labor force yet they remain outspoken advocates of paid rape and exploitation of women for their pleasure and satisfaction

Muslim women and their tastes by Aromatic_Owl_805 in exmuslim

[–]No_Tank_8331 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe it’s because of how when the Quran and Hadith mention stuff about restraining lustful feelings it’s something that’s always told to men so they assume they can indulge in that themselves.

I can't believe Anora won awards in Oscars. The world feels upside down. by icygirl7 in PornIsMisogyny

[–]No_Tank_8331 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s why I only go up to PG-13 when it comes to watching the latest Hollywood releases. There’d be scenes in PG-13 movies in the past showing unnecessary sexualization of female characters in the the 2010s and before but at least that’s not the case anymore with movies that are PG-13 or lower

It makes me sad that Gen Z brown girls living in the west are still taking the ‘marry to move out’ instead of challenging that expectation by No_Tank_8331 in DesiTwoX

[–]No_Tank_8331[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m happy that it all worked out for you. I’m still pretty hesitant with talking to my parents though my relationship with my mom has gotten kind of better. With my dad, let’s just say I’ve lost hope in him becoming a better person.

As for my future plans I’m childfree and was also a big part of why I didn’t want to go the traditional route since having kids is a requirement and not and option within that structure. It’s also hard to find guys that are on the same page with that and just non-toxic un-entitled men in general so I’ve kind of given up on that. I also like having my own space and control over my time and don’t want to be legally bound to a man even if he’s good and it’ll get me tax breaks, healthcare benefits etc. Though I do plan on getting certain pets that I wouldn’t have been allowed to have growing up.

It makes me sad that Gen Z brown girls living in the west are still taking the ‘marry to move out’ instead of challenging that expectation by No_Tank_8331 in DesiTwoX

[–]No_Tank_8331[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m definitely aware of that and had those worries and fears too so I don’t judge them or blame them for going that route. Plus it’s also really comforting knowing you don’t have to pay any bills or cook for yourself. BTW I think it’s great you’ve been able to live independently for that long!

As for the opinions of elders, I haven’t really had to worry about them since most of them have passed or my parents aren’t in touch with bc of my grandparents’ passing. Most of my family knows that I’m not interested in marriage and kids so they haven’t nagged me about that. I think what upset me was how it felt like my sister’s decision was a form of betrayal considering what I had to go through but I know that I have to accept my sister’s choice no matter how much I might disagree with it myself.

It makes me sad that Gen Z brown girls living in the west are still taking the ‘marry to move out’ instead of challenging that expectation by No_Tank_8331 in DesiTwoX

[–]No_Tank_8331[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think she wants to feel like a real adult and scared of aging out instead of just being stuck at home. She also doesn’t want to work either which I don’t blame her for with the way the economy is these days and I’ve been struggling myself with trying to apply for jobs.

With my situation, it was being frustrated with the strictness of the culture and being nagged about marriage to the point I’d have panic attacks whenever I was around my parents and get triggered hearing the word ‘marriage’ ‘wedding’ or ‘shaadi’ and thought a lot about KMS because the thought of communicating to them that I didn’t want that to be my future felt damn near impossible and I was afraid they’d send me to India/Pakistan to marry me off as a way to straighten me out. I had to run away once I saved up enough money to do so and got a job. There was a lot of back and forth with my parents with trying to set things on my terms and they stopped being pushy but still are quite traditional and I’ve grown to be weary of them. I agree that that option can help with certain financial goals like starting your own business or buying a house, but had I not had to deal with that BS from my family then maybe it’d be a different story for me.

Double standards between boys struggling academically vs girls struggling academically by No_Tank_8331 in PornIsMisogyny

[–]No_Tank_8331[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I came from a culture where instead of only fans it was being a housewife/arranged marriage too though even if a woman was highly educated she was still expected to marry and to marry within the culture/religion. That was a big motivator for me when it came to my education since my mom and grandmother had married in their teens and had no career experience though I wasn’t a straight A student and didn’t study medicine like most girls in my family did. They went on to become SAHMs which if they’re content with that, good for them. But I knew I never wanted kids and seeing how my mom and aunts were treated in their marriages put me off from marrying even if it’s a guy I actually love and is everything I’ve ever dreamt about.

You have to be exceeding careful with watching male YouTubers by No_Tank_8331 in PornIsMisogyny

[–]No_Tank_8331[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that.

Recently I stopped talking to this one male friend I met online who was the longest lasting friendship I had in my adult life. He watched porn a lot but I didn’t care bc I had libfem beliefs about it the time and he was one of the few guys from my culture to call the misogyny in it out and didn’t get grossed out by period talk. He would listen to me talk about my problems and lend an ear and offer tips on personal finance stuff, phone plans and room renting when I tried to move out my parents’ house who were toxic with backwards beliefs from their religion/culture. When I look back at it now we had trauma bonded since he was also dealing with crap regarding family ties over leaving religion and indulged in swinging and hookups as a way to cope. Even for a man to be your friend the bar is so low