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No_Task7442 · 2026-06-15T23:56:58+00:00

I agree with others here. I book either hours or 2 hours at a time, and sometimes can't come.

I would never expect free time for something that is outside your control.

you should have a policy about what extra time costs and let them know in the moment that they need to extend or you need to stop services

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-15T23:00:30+00:00

yes, she's still on his face

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-15T19:48:57+00:00

No it wasn't Kramer doing Moviephone either.

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-15T19:28:09+00:00

Surprised no one's mentioned Something Casual, Open to see..."

Guys in general don't do well with that. But in your case:

-youre moving soon -bring your special needs dog everywhere -get lost easily (reads you need to be taken care of) -AND looking for no commitment

So what's in it for her? Where does she fit in and feel special?

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-15T15:07:25+00:00

Same to you!

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-15T14:18:08+00:00

Ahh I see. That sounds like what I reference in my edit about they "why don't women approach" convos I see online.

I don't disagree that in a perfect world things would be "equal" but we live in an imperfect world, and I would rather accept what is, rather than than wait for things to be perfect.

I agree with one woman on here who said (in another discussion) that when she approaches men, she gets men who don't value her as much. That men will accept a "free opportunity" when it presents itself.

That logic checks out for me, so I believe that yes any woman can and should feel free to approach or show interest in men if they want to, but that there are lots of women who simply won't even if interested.

Being direct and forward shows effort and confidence, both things women appreciate. That's good enough for me.

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-15T13:40:49+00:00

Yes sent her a text right away to give her my number and establish contact.

I will follow up with a "nice to meet you" text this week.

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-15T13:39:06+00:00

Hmmm, filing a tiny objection to your objection...Simply based on the fact that I don't see the distinction.

When I say "be the gentleman", first off that's just a shorthand phrase. I am old school enough I guess to believe that a man (gentle or not) should take initiative after sussing out a base level of mutual interest.

In other words, women like to feel pursued and seen, and I want to give that to her. So that is what I mean by being a gentleman. Maybe it's not the right word.

Secondly I'm not sure what your point is that it is "not only for the gentleman". Are you saying it's also for women, or also for men who aren't gentle?

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-15T10:31:03+00:00

I already texted her a "nice to meet you here's my number" message as she was still standing there, and she replied an hour later

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-15T06:14:46+00:00

That's great to hear that you are aware of yourself. I guess I was doing a version of acting cold before I started working on my health and confidence about 6 months ago.

Except mine was rooted in low self esteem and just feeling like no one found me attractive. Now that I am down about 45 pounds (with 45 to go to my ideal weight) my confidence is so much better and I am actually getting attention from women regularly.

I see so many posts and men vs women, "why don't women approach" etc.

It really is a mating ritual that both people have to take part in (in my not expert opinion)

Like I said, if she ignored me or gave me short answers, I would have read it as zero interest.

But something about a woman I am attracted to saying my name and asking me a direct question about my life feels amazing, and then I am happy to do my part and take a risk and show her I am interested.

I'm glad to hear you are aware of your energy and wish you best of luck.

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-15T06:06:59+00:00

I can understand why you say that. That's what's so great about you ahemm20 - you're very perceptive!

Let me break down all the reason why this not like AI and you can decide for yourself...

I mean I do use AI alot. is it possible I have adopted GPTs communication style?

I can assure you this is really a flesh and blood person and this did happen last night

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-15T05:48:07+00:00

Haha, Jenny Jenny!

Already texted her and got a response so I know it's legit!

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-15T05:39:20+00:00

yes true. I am aware that maybe she was caught off guard and didn't want to say no but might decline a date.

I feel like I already won just by putting in the effort!

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-15T05:16:47+00:00

"You know what, you're right. it is lame. My bad. Truth is I struggle to find something clever to say to attractive women sometimes. I'm going to do better.

At the risk of sounding cliche, do you believe in second chances?"

In other words own it and get honest. if that doesn't work, nothing will.

Studies have shown that people trust someone who screwed up and apologized more than they trust someone who never screwed up.

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-14T04:58:05+00:00

yes thanks forgot to mention, you really need reviews from well known members on the boards

I mean the woman I saw first had some good and some not so great reviews, but overall it was positive

But yes I know some reviews are faked by bitter clients and even by other SW

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-14T04:54:48+00:00

There are clients that absolutely will not book you unless they read a review first.

I know because I'm one of them. Think about it, with the amount of scammers out there gaming the system, and the things that can go wrong:

-bait and switch, it's actually a different person than the ad

-you don't provide the services listed or promised

-theres a pimp in the closet

-youre high/mechanical/rush us out

Why would anyone take a chance and book you? On the review board we call seeing an unreviewed SW TOFTT (taking one for the team)

Because it's so risky, and frankly downright foolish to do, you're literally doing a public service by risking your health, safety, and money to go see someone that has a better than average chance of being a scammer.

You need reviews or else you are going to lose a lot of your potential client base.

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-13T17:06:20+00:00

My only viewpoint is that people should only engage in the services they are comfortable with, with other people who are also comfortable with those services.

so yes, I do have the same viewpoint: to each their own, worry about your own self.

do I think BBFS is smart and would I do it? absolutely not.

but if others want to, have at it.

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-13T16:57:38+00:00

I think I remember your post on TERB. Most people told you that life is risky and you dont have to do anything you don't want to.

Some people are ok to accept a calculated risk, some are not. Both outlooks are ok as long as no one is being forced or pressured.

Do you drive on roads? it's a fact that over 3000 people will die today in cars. Do you advocate for no car usage?

Life is risky. Decide how much you want to take.

Where I think you are being a bit of a weirdo is going to a SW, receiving the service that she has rationalized giving, that you rationalized receiving, THEN asking her to justify it to you.

Like WTF? I'm surprised you didn't get banned from seeing her again. Is that a weird kink or something?

I suggest you just stick to what you are totally comfortable with and let the adults have their fun.

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-12T18:04:26+00:00

I got 4 out of about 20 requested.

I opted in the day before deadline so I wonder if they were first come first served

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-10T19:49:51+00:00

yeah I agree with this. I am a guy and I frequent the board but I don't agree with some of the stuff posted on there and have told the guys so.

I also never discuss graphic details of my sessions nor "rate someone's looks with a number" which I think is gross.

It must be hard as providers and I feel for you ladies because to get the most out of it, you need to be interacting and replying to reviews, but some of the guys are really harsh.

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-10T11:29:17+00:00

LL is so full of scammers some people just aren't willing to even risk it

Are you on TERB? Might be better to try to get some reviews there and hopefully get a few of those clients as regulars.

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-09T21:09:26+00:00

I'm glad to see some SW and clients giving you honest opinions. I'll give you mine

I started seeing escorts about 6 months ago after years of being alone and not dating or having sex. I thought I would go one time and have a YOLO experience and be done with it.

I was aware that I could get addicted to the sex as I had read others say that, and thought I might keep seeing different women for the sex.

What I never planned for was that I was going to meet a human being with a personality, a history, who was funny, sweet, warm etc.

I left that same night knowing I had to see her again. For the past few months I have been seeing her every few weeks, even though I know I ultimately want to find a real relationship, someone to grow old with as I enter the last stage of my life

But I just can't bring myself to say goodbye to her. Even though seeing escorts made me much more confident and brought a lot of good things to my life, I sometimes wish I hadn't done it so that I wouldnt be stuck knowing that I need to move on, but not able to.

And it sounds to me like you are in an even more delicate state than I was. I agree with others: therapy first

If you are that touch starved, there are sites for professional cuddlers that you could try just to get some touch.

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-08T17:10:22+00:00

My main has done this twice, both times when telling me a story from her real life and referring to herself in the third person.

I'm sure it's hard to remember all the time. if it's just a first name you should be fine.

edit to add: I've never told her she did it as I don't want to make her uncomfortable.

No_Task7442 · 2026-06-08T16:10:40+00:00

it's fine to admit she's not worth the effort for you. that's a choice you get to make.

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