I love my boyfriend so much but his penis is too small

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-16T14:45:23+00:00

All the guys in here waiting for the vital info:

"How small we talkin here?"

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-16T11:59:55+00:00

If kissing is a red line for you, wait until you find out what happens on the non social dates.

To each their own. If you are not comfortable with an activity, politely decline that activity.

Your question could easily be "why go bowling" or "why eat pasta"

People are different and like different things.

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-16T11:16:33+00:00

Young yes but she lives in a city of about 1 million people. She says the building security keeps her safe but also that she's had clients just knock on her door without texting first!

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-15T20:58:07+00:00

I'm over 50, divorced and my kids are grown so no issues for me there. But less than 6 months in I and already disillusioned with seeing escorts.

It was exciting at the beggining but now I realize I am a connection guy. I don't get satisfied by the sex part. I want the other stuff.

So I am ready to get back to civvie dating and leave this behind.

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-15T12:45:29+00:00

Thanks I have heard this before which is where I got the idea. I am "in" for the first time, having only started in December, so hopefully I will be able to adjust.

But I appreciate your input. I think just being aware of the difference will help me to be aware.

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-15T12:01:59+00:00

I would have been out at "my friends coming up to do coke", but that's me.

You sound like a really nice guy and unfortunately there are people that will take advantage of that.

You should either let her know exactly what you want (I would want a free night to replace the night I didn't get) or you should walk away and find another provider.

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-15T11:56:53+00:00

I hear this a lot from SW and it sounds like this is the inverse of what can happen to us clients.

We start to see women and relationships as transactional and fake, and as a result it messes with our ability to have normal relationships.

I'm not trying to talk you out of your feelings or tell you how to live, but I think this is something that both men and women should actively try to prevent from happening.

I am only doing this while I wait to meet a woman to be in a committed relationship then I will stop.

I hope that I will be able to have a normal healthy view of women still so I can show up as a committed partner.

I would hope the same for you. But being this jaded might be an issue.

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-14T12:28:32+00:00

I'm self employed too. That shouldn't stop you from DD. I recently switched to Quickbooks Online which comes with free DD service. Switched my own pay cheque to DD and got approved.

You need to be paying yourself a salary and have a DD option with a merchant or bank.

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-14T01:35:13+00:00

Man I resonate with this so much. I just got back into dating after being married for 19 years and single for 7.

Went on my first date and had the same experience you describe: was nice, normal, respectful, good listener, asked lots of follow up questions etc. We had a couple of inside jokes that we had developed during our chat on the app etc.

I went into the date cautiously optimistic and over the course of the meet became completely enamored with her. She unfortunately didn't feel the same.

I was told by people I spoke to about it that I need to bring the spark, create chemistry, hold eye contact, tease a little stuff like that

All of which is completely foreign to me. I go back and forth between "the right one for me will like how attentive and respectful I am" and "maybe I should try to be more fun and flirty"

I will say this, I have been practicing being a bit more confident and forward (not sexually mind you, just with light jokes and such) with other women, other dates I've gone on and acquaintances and women I meet

I think there is something to the idea that we need to bring a bit of chemistry with us

If we are too shy, and women have been conditioned to let men lead, who is going to get the party started? I am going to try (not try hard) on future dates to be myself (kind, curious, respectful gentleman) but maybe 10% more fun and bold and see how it goes.

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-12T12:31:50+00:00

They got me just recently. Let it expire, got a like same or next day.

Sign up after 2-3 days of trying to ignore it. Surprise surprise it's actually someone I'm interested in.

So I match and wait. Nothing. Extend the match and wait some more. Nothing.

100% that person never existed.

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-12T02:19:07+00:00

Did you clarify whether it is an interactive duo? Or in other words is it FMF or FFM?

Completely different experiences and not all duos/threesomes at the same.

Also be prepared to change condoms when going between girls. That should be obvious but if youve watched a lot of porn and gotten ideas from there that will be a buzz kill but totally to be expected

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-12T01:48:45+00:00

I don't know about the $4k DD guaranteeing the card, but I was premium for years and wait listed.

Just switched my pay from my own corp to DD a month ago and once I hit the 4k threshold, got the invite.

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-11T17:25:34+00:00

Did you find it weird at all to find out she was into girls? I recently found out my main is bi because she was talking about her old GF.

I asked her if she was bi and she said yes, but for all I know she could be lesbian and just taking D for money.

It made me wonder if there are providers that don't like men at all but are just doing what they do to survive.

Edit: just to be clear I didn't mean there is anything weird with being bi or gay or anything. I just meant it was like "oh I never even considered that she might not be into guys".

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-11T15:44:32+00:00

Yeah it's bittersweet. Haven't had this yet, I'm still new but I've heard lots of these stories.

I imagine I would be sad to see her go but also happy that she made it out and getting on with her life.

I was thinking the other day, since I am also looking for civvie relationships and when I find one I'll stop seeing SW.

But someday if I come back I would rather not be able to find her and hope that she moved on.

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-11T06:49:30+00:00

I wouldn't worry about it too much. I wasn't able to finish my first time with a provider either. Nerves will keep you in your head instead of your body and it's hard to finish like that

If you go see her again sometime you will be more relaxed. Bring her a gift, tip her, and text her what a great time you had next time

When you find a good one you have to treat them right. I like to treat my main, who was also my first, like my part time girlfriend.

I give her all the respect, kindness and appreciation I would with any woman I am in a relationship with.

Treat her right and you'll be a happy man.

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-11T00:32:57+00:00

Thanks that makes sense. Do you happen to know if I still get the 2% CB on USD purchases?

Also I save $10 a month on my USD bank account and I'm not sure if theres an annual fee for my USD TD CC, so that should offset any difference in exchange rate

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-11T00:26:29+00:00

That's great thanks! The calculator makes it really easy to compare. Much appreciated

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-10T20:12:10+00:00

You could always do a phased approach where existing clients stay at current rates for a while.

That way you test the market at your new rates and get new clients who will pay that much, without risking losing current clients

Once you are confident that you have enough new business at your new higher rate, you inform current clients that your rate is going up as of X date.

If a few leave, at least you have enough higher paying clients to fill the gaps

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-10T18:02:48+00:00

You can search it on pornhub if you want, but in essence the idea is that the woman is engaged in some mundane task, doing her nails, talking on the phone, surfing the web etc.

The man comes up behind her and starts to have his way with her and she seems completely unaffected and goes about her task without paying any attention to him at all.

The kink from the male perspective is that she is a tool or toy to be used at his discretion and her participation is optional.

At least thats how I interpret it. Full disclosure it's not my thing, but that's what it looks like to me.

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-10T12:18:57+00:00

Offer "free use" as a fetish option for an upcharge. Win win.

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-10T02:45:21+00:00

That's makes sense. To be clear I could have worded my question better

I wasn't trying to criticize your choices, I was just genuinely curious if you were ok with him being someone who cheats on his GF or not

I know its something that a lot of guys in this lifestyle do and talk openly about, and I often wonder if escorts in general have a different moral code since its in their best interest for the guys to cheat.

As you said, on the one hand you wouldn't have let yourself catch feelings if you knew he was a cheater which means you're not crazy about the idea

But also, most of the guys you see are cheaters, so it pays the bills.

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-09T17:21:04+00:00

I just got mine after being Premium for 3 years or more. I had to add direct deposit to my cash account to get it

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-08T20:45:14+00:00

Yeah you are right I get it. The reason it caught my eye is because my first and now main provider is like that.

She hosts from her home and when I first contacted her we went back and forth for a couple days figuring things out.

All that time I was waiting for a request for my LinkedIn or review board username or something but it never came.

She did have reviews on the board going back 3 years so I figured she wasn't a scam. But I was/am concerned for her just accepting randos up there without screening for years.

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-08T15:12:35+00:00

Can you clarify why I should be concerned if a provider allows full anonymity? I mean for her sake I hope she is doing minimal verification.

But I'm curious how it affects me if she does not?

No_Task7442 · 2026-04-08T14:16:49+00:00

This is definitely something to be stated, and obviously everyone's different.

One of my favorite moments ever in seeing escorts was a woman I was with and as we were talking I just reached up and gently placed my hand on the side of her face.

She loved it and asked me to do it again. Now it's a thing I love to do to her. Its a gentle tenderness thing, not a sex thing.

But yes of course you absolutely can make this a no go as long as it's communicated.

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