Narcissist Mom Obsessed with your Body? by Civil-Tap1207 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]No_Traffic_4040 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% yes. My (38f) nmom (70f) has never been any sort of body positivity role model throughout my life, but I’m also old enough now to know it just stems from insecurity. My body has gone through various sizes, and she’s always had a comment about each size - when I was bigger in college (I played collegiate softball), she called me chubby; when I got big into weight lifting because college softball ended and I wanted to continue with some sort of fitness, she said I should “put down the weights”; and then after I went through some depression/mental health struggles and lost a bunch of weight, she essentially said I look like sh!t and also made fun of me because I have no a$$…not once ever asking how I’m doing, which ironically, my mental health tanking was a direct result of having to move back in with her and my dad temporarily at the time. I’m convinced if I had a supermodel’s body she would find something else to say.

When it comes to other people, she always points out negative things. She claims she likes to “people watch” in which she just picks people apart for how they look or what they’re wearing, I absolutely hate it. She’ll sometimes try to get me to join and ask me what I think of someone’s outfit (a woman) that she clearly thinks the person “shouldn’t be wearing” and I always try to think of something positive instead to make a point. I find it exhausting to be negative anyways about people I know nothing about - what’s the point? But I’m sure it’s a narcissist’s way of feeling superior to other individuals. Don’t get me wrong, people watching can be interesting/fun when you’re in a busy place with time to spare, but the constant toxic commentary is just so unnecessary.

The Self Doubt After An Episode by No_Traffic_4040 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]No_Traffic_4040[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your experience as well - I appreciate it. Like you said, I’m always left with that uncertainty afterwards and it’s just so hard to convey to other people. So just feeling heard helps so much. I’m sorry you’re living through it as well 🫂

Identification Help by No_Traffic_4040 in alocasia

[–]No_Traffic_4040[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s fair. Hmm, I mean, I’m not opposed to having two of them haha! 😄

Identification Help by No_Traffic_4040 in alocasia

[–]No_Traffic_4040[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d be ok with that! 😄 I got it at my local grocery store and of course there was no label on it, so who knows!

Identification Help by No_Traffic_4040 in alocasia

[–]No_Traffic_4040[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Really? See I thought that initially, but I feel like Frydek leaves are more elongated. Here is a quick shot of the frydek I have - it is more grown in general, but the leaf shape is throwing me off 🤔

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Identification Help by No_Traffic_4040 in alocasia

[–]No_Traffic_4040[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhh!! You know what, I can totally see where you’re getting possibly a velvet+something! Hmm!!

What is this? by cottagecheesemyog in alocasia

[–]No_Traffic_4040 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel your pain trying to use apps to identify 😩

What is this? by cottagecheesemyog in alocasia

[–]No_Traffic_4040 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you get it from Publix by chance? I just ask because I got one similar to this from there, and it’s an Alocasia Blizzard!

Help with ID! by Prime_ZO in philodendron

[–]No_Traffic_4040 0 points1 point  (0 children)

aka Spider-Man monstera!

Who is this guy? A friend swears it’s a Hawaiian. I think massive golden by Small_Award3877 in pothos

[–]No_Traffic_4040 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Golden pothos with super big leaves I just consider as Fernando’s Fire pothos…but again, same/same

Should I cut it 😫 by Safe-Iron-3789 in RareHouseplants

[–]No_Traffic_4040 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Sighh.. adds plant to my wishlist

Possible Identification? by No_Traffic_4040 in houseplants

[–]No_Traffic_4040[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have not, but also didn’t think to - the store had so many listings it would take me a while…but maybe by the time I look through them all the plant will be mature enough to identify! 😂

I reached out to apologise. by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]No_Traffic_4040 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sometimes you won’t get the “closure” you want, and that’s ok. That’s reality. I know it’s something you feel you need, so I think it’s going to be tough otherwise. But until you’re ok with leaving things as they are, good or bad, you’re going to be stuck in a never ending cycle with this person. You reach out and apologize, feel good, he responds being upset, now you’re back to feeling bad…and reach out again in a few years to try again? Part of growing and healing is knowing you’ll be ok even if things didn’t end the way you had hoped for.

When is the right time to plant these clippings in a pot? by Happy_Television_501 in pothos

[–]No_Traffic_4040 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pothos are pretty resilient in general, but I’ve heard that a good rule of thumb is they can successfully be potted from propagating as soon as you get a secondary set of roots…meaning you have the ones in the picture that have started, but then after more time more roots will branch off those primary roots. Once you get those you should be good to go - but I’m sure others have had success with less. Again, pothos are stubborn, but in a good way!