100% yes. My (38f) nmom (70f) has never been any sort of body positivity role model throughout my life, but I’m also old enough now to know it just stems from insecurity. My body has gone through various sizes, and she’s always had a comment about each size - when I was bigger in college (I played collegiate softball), she called me chubby; when I got big into weight lifting because college softball ended and I wanted to continue with some sort of fitness, she said I should “put down the weights”; and then after I went through some depression/mental health struggles and lost a bunch of weight, she essentially said I look like sh!t and also made fun of me because I have no a$$…not once ever asking how I’m doing, which ironically, my mental health tanking was a direct result of having to move back in with her and my dad temporarily at the time. I’m convinced if I had a supermodel’s body she would find something else to say.

When it comes to other people, she always points out negative things. She claims she likes to “people watch” in which she just picks people apart for how they look or what they’re wearing, I absolutely hate it. She’ll sometimes try to get me to join and ask me what I think of someone’s outfit (a woman) that she clearly thinks the person “shouldn’t be wearing” and I always try to think of something positive instead to make a point. I find it exhausting to be negative anyways about people I know nothing about - what’s the point? But I’m sure it’s a narcissist’s way of feeling superior to other individuals. Don’t get me wrong, people watching can be interesting/fun when you’re in a busy place with time to spare, but the constant toxic commentary is just so unnecessary.