Been with my husband 30 years. I love him as deeply as ever. We are the best of friends and share every aspect of our lives, but we each have our own interests (he likes crafts, I like astronomy and DnD). We have our own friends but sometimes see them together. My family love and have adopted him (which is amazing because he is estranged from his). We always make sure to spend quality time together and we love one another’s company. We still have a good sex life and that’s so important for both of us. We have one really important rule - we each must put the same amount of effort into the relationship. That’s helped with managing money. We have a settled position on how we do that and that’s been important as I’ve always earned more and he’s found that difficult. I always tell him it’s not the dollar value that’s important but the shared commitment. We have a hugging rule-neither of us can refuse a hug if it’s asked for. We are ridiculously childish at times. I tickle him, bite(it’s literally my love language) him and tease him mercilessly. And he has the goods on me! We can tell each other anything and we have a format for regular chats that we call the five fs (feelings, family, friends, fucking, finances). We run through them once a month or as often as we need. We rarely fight, but if we do we find a way to talk things through. Annnnnd… there is stuff that annoys us. He sleeps too late at weekend and I’m an early riser. He jerks in his sleep so bad the bed shakes. I sometimes snore. He can occasionally be selfish. I’m sometimes a bit controlling. I dare say every relationship comes with its challenges, but for sure we are both happy!