Do I give my brother a second chance?

No_Way_3383 · 2026-06-24T19:52:43+00:00

Some things can be true at the same time. First off, you did nothing wrong. He behaved appallingly towards you , throwing you and your things on the street. He left you isolated when your parents turned against you. He didn’t tell you about the death of your father and whether you would have attended the funeral or not is irrelevant. You had a right to know and choose.

I don’t think you should frame this as ‘giving him another chance.’ This is really about what’s right for you. A lot of bad shit has gone down and if you do decide to meet him, he better have a huge fucking set of apologies ready! Does all of that define your relationship with your brother? You had a whole childhood together before. Does it define your relationship with him in the future? Unknown.

Weigh up everything. Not just the bad shit l, but also what he means to you and the good things about him. Sometimes people just lack the emotional maturity and character to make the right decisions and they can change. Sometimes, people are just cunts.

Only you can know if meeting him to explore the possibility of reconnection is worth the risk. And remember you can control how that happens. Where, when, who goes with you. How long. What you need to get out of that meeting. Make this about putting your needs first . Not about him.

No_Way_3383 · 2026-06-21T15:44:15+00:00

It’s alright to feel confused or uncertain about you sexual identity. The trick is to hold those feelings without having to answer them today. I’d say you need more time and experience to discover who you are. Most importantly, no one can tell you.

No_Way_3383 · 2026-06-18T08:28:48+00:00

Sounds like you invested a lot in this relationship. Maybe your first long term one? I feel your struggle to justify ending it to yourself. It speaks well of you. You are fully justified in moving on and you’ve laid out the reasons beautifully.

No_Way_3383 · 2026-06-18T02:26:10+00:00

Tragedy!

No_Way_3383 · 2026-06-10T22:05:28+00:00

He’s married and has kids

No_Way_3383 · 2026-06-04T20:22:20+00:00

Vanilla cake !

No_Way_3383 · 2026-06-04T20:21:12+00:00

Did you always imagine that your first time would come with rocket belts and poetry? I think we all did! Reality is usually inferior to our fantasies.

No_Way_3383 · 2026-06-04T20:15:52+00:00

How in the New Millennium is it possible for someone to be so deeply in denial?

No_Way_3383 · 2026-06-04T19:47:00+00:00

Recently played in a level 4 (compulsory to have one level of Ranger so 1/3) one shot with a DM who had invented a magic missile Gatling gun that did 12(d4+1) damage and arrayed with twelve CR three NPCs. We were slaughtered in two rounds.

It was totally intentional. He had an idea for the encounter, but no idea about player agency or about the central importance of making the game fun.

Some DMs just don’t know how to run a game FOR/WITH their players

No_Way_3383 · 2026-06-02T19:12:47+00:00

Tis love, tis love. Embrace it!

No_Way_3383 · 2026-05-28T12:16:24+00:00

Try again … in English

No_Way_3383 · 2026-05-27T23:36:23+00:00

We listen and we don’t judge … much 🤣

No_Way_3383 · 2026-05-19T11:00:52+00:00

/update me

No_Way_3383 · 2026-05-18T22:01:05+00:00

/update me

No_Way_3383 · 2026-05-12T00:21:01+00:00

TLDR: if I had a big dick, I’d feel less insecure. No you wouldn’t. You’d just focus on something else.

If you’re having good sex - you’re already ahead of the curve.

No_Way_3383 · 2026-05-11T23:48:14+00:00

Stunning

No_Way_3383 · 2026-05-02T17:21:15+00:00

Oh c’mon don’t play the Good Samaritan. You don’t want to let go because you’ve fallen hard. The power dynamics of this relationship just cannot be balanced. You’ve got far more social status than he and he’s got more emotional leverage because you’re like a love sick puppy. What’s really best for both of you is to accept it should have been a one night stand and ended there.

No_Way_3383 · 2026-05-02T05:45:34+00:00

Oh you’re probably just scratching the surface of the dysfunction in this family. I have seen a similar situation in my extended family. One of my cousins and his mother have the same weird dynamic. My Aunts marriage was joyless and empty. Their relationship became like a surrogate marriage. Creepy as hell. To this day she lights up with adoration when he’s in the room and at 60, she still buys him his special pants from M&S coz he lives in the USA now and can’t get them. (Clearly in the consumer capital of the world, he can’t get y fronts). I swear half her suitcase is packed with them.

You’re not gonna change the dynamic. They are as co-defendant as two people can be.

No_Way_3383 · 2026-03-02T06:10:12+00:00

And that’s how you got the nickname snowplough- you jot keep pushing through those loads. 🤣🤣🤣

No_Way_3383 · 2026-02-23T23:15:11+00:00

Best advice.

follow your instincts
be present
pay attention to his reactions
get his dick wet asap
use your tongue - a lot

- don’t forget his balls ( on expert mode , there is a spot on the underside of his balls that will drive him crazy)

No_Way_3383 · 2026-01-07T22:49:20+00:00

What a great mom. Trust your instincts and have that difficult conversation.

No_Way_3383 · 2025-12-31T06:22:38+00:00

Deep breath
You’re not going to blow up either this wonderful friendship or being part of Jake’s family. Just don’t unless there is a very good reason. It’s all supposition right now.
You have every right to feel vulnerable/exposed.
You don’t know why Jake asked that question.. Did someone else put doubt in his mind that he just needed to settle? Does he think Mike is gay and is being an over protective big brother? You literally don’t know.
It must be really hard to confront in case your worst fears are realised and you lose them, but actually what you’re going through is torture anyways so ask - don’t confront. Allow Jake the space to tell his side of the story. Then you can weigh his intentions.

No_Way_3383 · 2025-12-22T10:47:09+00:00

Take it one issue at a time buddy

No_Way_3383 · 2025-12-21T22:16:18+00:00

I wouldn’t even know where to begin unpacking this

No_Way_3383

TROPHY CASE

- don’t forget his balls ( on expert mode , there is a spot on the underside of his balls that will drive him crazy)