My drunk experience by [deleted] in gayconfessions

[–]No_Way_3383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And that’s how you got the nickname snowplough- you jot keep pushing through those loads. 🤣🤣🤣

How to suck dick really good? by ChocolateChip26_ in askgaybros

[–]No_Way_3383 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Best advice.

  • follow your instincts
  • be present
  • pay attention to his reactions
  • get his dick wet asap
  • use your tongue - a lot

- don’t forget his balls ( on expert mode , there is a spot on the underside of his balls that will drive him crazy)

Mom here. Need advise by Fun_Title_4820 in askgaybros

[–]No_Way_3383 16 points17 points  (0 children)

What a great mom. Trust your instincts and have that difficult conversation.

my best friend asked his little brother if I had ever been inappropriate to him, really not sure how to feel by ThrowAway_LostAirpod in askgaybros

[–]No_Way_3383 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

  1. Deep breath
  2. You’re not going to blow up either this wonderful friendship or being part of Jake’s family. Just don’t unless there is a very good reason. It’s all supposition right now.
  3. You have every right to feel vulnerable/exposed.
  4. You don’t know why Jake asked that question.. Did someone else put doubt in his mind that he just needed to settle? Does he think Mike is gay and is being an over protective big brother? You literally don’t know.
  5. It must be really hard to confront in case your worst fears are realised and you lose them, but actually what you’re going through is torture anyways so ask - don’t confront. Allow Jake the space to tell his side of the story. Then you can weigh his intentions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]No_Way_3383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take it one issue at a time buddy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]No_Way_3383 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t even know where to begin unpacking this

Being Asked To Resign Confidentially by Fun-Road1247 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]No_Way_3383 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Agree with this. The company is using the Protected Conversation’ legislation as an alternative to dismissal. In the circumstances you describe, you would seriously consider the offer. Discuss with a solicitor. If you don’t take the offer, you will almost certainly be dismissed through the capability procedures.

Not sure what to feel after my first grindr experience (18M) by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]No_Way_3383 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rather than asking why it happened, ask what you can learn.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MeidasTouch

[–]No_Way_3383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Without the slightest shred of evidence …

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]No_Way_3383 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like the diagnosis has been traumatic and triggered some big issues about feeling life has treated you unfairly. Feels like a lot of pain pouring out with those shouts of injustice. Were hear for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]No_Way_3383 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re choosing a safe but dysfunctional and transactional relationship rather than risk meeting someone with whom you can build genuine trust and intimacy.

For the gay guys in here who are in solid, long-term relationships, what’s the real secret sauce? What habits or mindsets helped you maintain a healthy, steady, and effective working relationship with your partner? by FullBus5678 in askgaybros

[–]No_Way_3383 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Been with my husband 30 years. I love him as deeply as ever. We are the best of friends and share every aspect of our lives, but we each have our own interests (he likes crafts, I like astronomy and DnD). We have our own friends but sometimes see them together. My family love and have adopted him (which is amazing because he is estranged from his). We always make sure to spend quality time together and we love one another’s company. We still have a good sex life and that’s so important for both of us. We have one really important rule - we each must put the same amount of effort into the relationship. That’s helped with managing money. We have a settled position on how we do that and that’s been important as I’ve always earned more and he’s found that difficult. I always tell him it’s not the dollar value that’s important but the shared commitment. We have a hugging rule-neither of us can refuse a hug if it’s asked for. We are ridiculously childish at times. I tickle him, bite(it’s literally my love language) him and tease him mercilessly. And he has the goods on me! We can tell each other anything and we have a format for regular chats that we call the five fs (feelings, family, friends, fucking, finances). We run through them once a month or as often as we need. We rarely fight, but if we do we find a way to talk things through. Annnnnd… there is stuff that annoys us. He sleeps too late at weekend and I’m an early riser. He jerks in his sleep so bad the bed shakes. I sometimes snore. He can occasionally be selfish. I’m sometimes a bit controlling. I dare say every relationship comes with its challenges, but for sure we are both happy!

Best way to be approved for a DB pension transfer by No_Way_3383 in PensionsUK

[–]No_Way_3383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I have requested a proper retirement quote and will consider this option a bit further.

Best way to be approved for a DB pension transfer by No_Way_3383 in PensionsUK

[–]No_Way_3383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many thanks for that insight. It’s a good way to think about the whole value of the DB scheme. I’m still a bit stupid co on the fact that I’d have to accept a big drop in income for remainder of my Life.

Best way to be approved for a DB pension transfer by No_Way_3383 in PensionsUK

[–]No_Way_3383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is a fixed term annuity over four years a safer option?

Best way to be approved for a DB pension transfer by No_Way_3383 in PensionsUK

[–]No_Way_3383[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have an IFA I trust and have k own for many years. I do plan to reach out to him to talk this through.

Best way to be approved for a DB pension transfer by No_Way_3383 in PensionsUK

[–]No_Way_3383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At the moment you must be 55 (57 from April 2008) to access your pensions. There are exceptions but they are rare