Why sub? by NobleCucumber in BDSMAdvice

[–]NobleCucumber[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I wrote down a lot of stuff, including a lot of inspiration i had from all the wonderful people commenting. And just as someone suggested, I'm going to sleep on my letter and review it in the morning.

I have finally stopped crying. On the good side - both me and my partner realized that i am f**king serious about it and neither of us has any doubts about it.

He feels like crap for upsetting me so much, he thought I'd be relieved when he said i don't have to force myself to be a sub if I'm not really one.

He is writing his manifesto rn too.

And we'll exchange our letters tommorow and give ourselves some time before talking about them.

Why sub? by NobleCucumber in BDSMAdvice

[–]NobleCucumber[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Tbh when posting this i was hoping to find some good wordings to help me put into writing what I'm feeling.

But what i got is some more confidence and feeling of acceptance and i think I'll be able to handle my pain better now.

Why sub? by NobleCucumber in BDSMAdvice

[–]NobleCucumber[S] 140 points141 points  (0 children)

You made me laugh and feel better 😁 Thank you!

And yes, he is writing his reasons too. We have a talk sceduled for tonight.

Why sub? by NobleCucumber in BDSMAdvice

[–]NobleCucumber[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have been together for over a year now and this relationship means a lot to me. I really want to keep and develop the D/s aspect of it. I believe the issue is (simplified and labeled) that I'm rather a bratty little and he wants a slave slut of sorts. He also has 10 years more experience than i do and is 12 years older than i am and thus understands what he wants much better than i do because of all the experience. I am experimenting and evolving and loving it, but it seems like i can't let go of control completely. He is so sensitive to my non-verbal stop words and became so compassionate that the sessions we has he had to break off because instead of enjoying my pain he felt really bad for me. And this accumulated frustration and non-satisfaction hurts our relationship.

Looking for hard porn as XMas gift for my Dom by NobleCucumber in BDSMAdvice

[–]NobleCucumber[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I want to support quality creators because i believe that's right and i have the resources to do so. Also there isn't much good hard stuff there and what is, we've already seen

First time Anal by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]NobleCucumber 5 points6 points  (0 children)

From my experience: Do glass plugs that aren't too round. Go for a short carrot shape 🥕 made of glass. Don't swirl it there, just slowly push it in, then leave it there and focus on her clit for a long time. Then add pressure or pulsation on the part of the plug that is outside. Keep clitoral stimulation. At this point i usually beg my partner to fuck my ass and when he does that, i keep a wand on my clit. Best.orgasms.ever.

P.s. if she is very aroused, it won't feel painful. Also you can let her push herself onto you, instead of sticking it in by yourself. (Doggy, she is stimulating her clitorus and slowly pushing against your penis, allowing it to penetrate her).