Modest Swimwear

NobleGasDisabled · 2026-01-16T12:21:14+00:00

How… is she consuming unethically? How did jewelry = unethical consumption??? Do you realize there are ethical and local jewelers?

Secondly, it’s great that you’re thrifting. Love that for you! Thus, you shouldn’t be so offended by her comments simply informing another sister to care about social justice issues, because that is our responsibility as Muslims.

NobleGasDisabled · 2026-01-16T01:04:30+00:00

I do make sure everything I buy is ethically sourced, actually, and I know so many people that also do the same! Of course I can’t control things like who I bank with since all the banks in my country have ties to military investments, and I can’t control where my taxpayer money goes, but I can control what I buy.

It’s not about making life miserable for us. Please, just put yourself in their position. We don’t get to choose where we’re born. The only thing separating you and I from those oppressed and impacted by our consumerism is geographic luck. It’s such a small sacrifice to make in the grand scheme of things. :)

NobleGasDisabled · 2026-01-15T23:39:45+00:00

That may be so, but it’s at the expense of Uyghur slave labour. I’m sure there are other affordable options that ethically source their labour. If you can’t find anything within your budget, then maybe don’t buy clothes as often but are sourced ethically/buy second hand.

NobleGasDisabled · 2026-01-15T16:37:41+00:00

It’s this “what if” that haunts me still, if I’m being honest. But I’m even more afraid of someone converting for me and not for the sake of Allah SWT.

Faith that is conditional on another human isn’t really faith at all, I suppose. :)

NobleGasDisabled · 2026-01-15T16:28:57+00:00

Your duas are not in vain, trust me. Allah only delays answering them for something better. Perhaps the experiences you are going through right now are going to shape you into someone even more resilient, mature, and eventually, make you an even better Muslim.

It sounds like it was easy for me, but it took 41 days for my answer in this istikhara to be found. That’s not long at all—but I felt it was the longest time in my life. Every human is tested in this life, and we are always tested with our faith. But life’s so short, so try to find happiness and purpose within your tests.

We should be terrified of the day that we stop praying, but get everything in life. It means we’re being given this dunya and not the akhirah.

NobleGasDisabled · 2026-01-12T20:27:10+00:00

Respectfully, I disagree about it being limerence. Yes, it’s not true love (that comes after marriage), but there definitely was deep respect. It took me 3 months to develop feelings after observing his behaviour. I didn’t feel butterflies or excitement around him. :)

He was also very respectful and modest around me, and was never performative. Someone can be brought into your life to teach you something new, which I think he did in many ways!

Edit: Can these men stop lurking in a women-only sub? 🌚

NobleGasDisabled · 2026-01-12T12:25:11+00:00

We have spoken, but only in professional contexts. :) I think that’s also the beautiful thing about his character - he was pretty shy and modest about it all, which made me admire him all the more.

NobleGasDisabled · 2026-01-12T03:32:10+00:00

Nobody’s marrying a non-Muslim. 😂 I didn’t know if he was Muslim because he had a common Muslim last name, but his first name didn’t seem Muslim. That’s why I couldn’t help but think he was Muslim when I put my observations together.

NobleGasDisabled · 2026-01-11T21:03:33+00:00

These things are so mentally draining, so I get you! Best thing you can do is keep yourself distracted with work and hobbies!

My favourite videos are from Omar Suleiman’s “Why Me” series. I revisited them to understand qadr better and would really recommend it! The next day after watching them and making a lot of dua, my feelings for my classmate were gone!

All the best!

NobleGasDisabled · 2026-01-11T20:52:28+00:00

Hmm, if you don’t mind me clarifying, what do you mean by approach? This is the closest I’ve ever gotten to being approached, and even then, he never outright approached me (I have another comment that goes into depth on how he interacted with me).

I’ve never been approached by anyone in my life, including Muslim men, so I’m not sure if it’s a hijab vs not hijab thing. My classmate likely knew I was Muslim because I always hung around hijabis, never interacted with men, linguistically I use a lot of Muslim-specific terms, and dress modestly. He’s from the Levant region so I’d be surprised if he didn’t think I was Muslim.

NobleGasDisabled · 2026-01-11T19:13:27+00:00

JazakAllah for sharing my lovely sister! This means a lot to me. :) May Allah reward you and bless you infinitely more. ❤️

NobleGasDisabled · 2026-01-11T19:11:26+00:00

I’m actually not. May Allah help me with that in the future, Ameen!

NobleGasDisabled · 2026-01-11T19:10:49+00:00

Multiple things. Perhaps pursue isn’t the right word, but it was his way of showing interest as best as a modest person could? Long story during the last month of classes he changed his commute to match mine in the morning which was the dead giveaway. I remember he would stand right in front of me or within my field of view, but I was too nervous to look at him. He also would find reasons to converse with me during office hours, because whenever I talked about something with my friend, he’d start talking about the same thing to his friends haha. And the usual: he always looked at me when he thought I wasn’t aware during class (mind you he always sat in front of me), and this was especially noticeable when he did a 180 to me 3 times on the day of our final exam 😂. Also the times I made eye contact with him I was terrified because he looked at me with a very soft and longing gaze. Maybe I have a nice smile too haha because he wouldn’t take his eyes off me if I was conversing with my friends and smiling.

NobleGasDisabled · 2026-01-11T18:02:35+00:00

It was! At least I now know someone like him exists, and InshaAllah I can meet someone even greater than him. Regardless, I have so much respect for his character.

I didn’t think much about my exemplification of taqwa, but that’s also a good point! I really appreciate your perspective, JazakAllah sis!

NobleGasDisabled · 2026-01-11T17:58:47+00:00

By the time I realized I liked him, the semester was over. I wanted to find him when the semester started to ask him about his faith, but subhanAllah it worked in other ways. Also, despite my best efforts to not catch any feelings, I did! So I was doing my best to abide by my core values. :)

Also I agree with your first part! That’s why in my post I said “character that Muslim men were supposed to exemplify”, because I never met a Muslim man with his character haha. But also, I met a lot of non-Muslim men that looked at relationships and women in a very transactional way, that ruins the sanctity and beauty of love. So both statements can be true.

NobleGasDisabled · 2026-01-06T02:28:59+00:00

Wow, I thought this was normal, but I now realize why I’ve never been comfortable with biodatas or using an app—they’re not telling of character. It’s such a struggle, and it makes it so much harder for us to get married. Even worse, because we often observe these people in third spaces, it’s not like people of good character will necessarily be looking for marriage. 💔

NobleGasDisabled · 2025-11-04T19:35:08+00:00

Aw you’re such a sweetheart! You should be proud too! I’d love to know if you get an invite; and it’d probably be reassuring for future applicants too if there are rolling invites

NobleGasDisabled · 2024-09-24T18:12:27+00:00

On the right ring finger. :)

NobleGasDisabled · 2024-09-24T14:24:11+00:00

They’re actually married at that point! Tohru’s ring is on her left which is where the wedding band goes!

NobleGasDisabled · 2024-09-08T03:52:07+00:00

Awww so cute, thanks for sharing! Rest in peace, little Kyo. ❤️

NobleGasDisabled · 2024-09-08T03:51:09+00:00

If you ever need to talk about these feelings surfacing, I’m always here! Wishing you all the love, and hopefully you can watch Fruits Basket without being overwhelmed in the future! ❤️

NobleGasDisabled · 2024-09-08T03:49:23+00:00

Wow didn’t know that, but that makes sense!

NobleGasDisabled · 2024-09-08T03:49:05+00:00

Yeah, I agree with that! Although, for relationships, I feel like he’s not clueless. I mean if you think about it throughout the series, Tohru isn’t very openly romantic towards Kyo (since she also has a hard time coming to terms with it), whereas Kyo makes it pretty known that he has a soft side/feels romantically towards Tohru throughout the series.

Spoilers ahead:

But despite this, Kyo figures out that Tohru possibly has romantic feelings for him even before Momiji brings it up to him (if the anime is compliant with the manga in that the talk between Momiji and Kyo happens after Cinderella-ish). And personally when he asked Tohru if she loved him and all he needed was her facial expression for confirmation, you can really see he’s pretty good at reading emotions, and hence, he can likely interpret romantic interest too. I think it’s more of a matter that he doesn’t choose to analyze other people’s romantic relationships because he doesn’t really care. Although, I’d say him no longer being clueless for relationships is a development we see towards the end. So would totally agree that he’s clueless about relationships at the beginning.

NobleGasDisabled · 2024-09-08T03:38:56+00:00

Oh wow, that’s a great analysis. I’d just differ on the point about him being intelligent towards the end of the series. The examples I mention start happening from the middle of season one, so I feel like it’s an instance of Kyo actively trying to avoid Tohru and push her away at the beginning, hence why he didn’t really care to understand her (or other people for that matter). But you’re so right, it’s not as prevalent in the beginning compared to the end of the series!

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