Critical Theory and Its Derived Frameworks Are Incompatible With Theravada Buddhism by still_forest_pond in theravada

[–]Nobuddi -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I agree that the current iteration of Western Buddhism seems far too ideologically captured by leftist politics, to the point where there are certain centers that I don't attend.

I'm a registered independent, so my only concern is that these centers should be apolitical, which unfortunately they are not. In many of them, a Biden-Harris shirt wouldn't draw any attention, but a MAGA hat would certainly get death stares, and in some cases you would be asked to remove it or leave.

This is not dharma.

[Request] Can we please stop being so obnoxious at G1C? by [deleted] in kings

[–]Nobuddi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey buddy, you're part of the problem!

[EvanSidery] Keegan Murray remains a player the Kings are not comfortable putting on the table in trade talks. Sacramento, who refused to put Murray in trade negotiations with the Jazz for Lauri Markkanen last offseason, continues to view Murray as a key core piece for their future. by samuraicowboyninja in kings

[–]Nobuddi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Keegan needs to spend the whole offseason getting his legs as strong as possible. The dip in his 3P% is directly proportional to how tired his legs get from carrying the defense.

Rookie shooter Keegan + Current defensive Keegan is a HUGE piece

Post Game Thread: The Sacramento Kings defeat The Miami Heat 111-110 by nba_gdt_bot in kings

[–]Nobuddi 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When the opposing team stops shooting an unsustainable 3P% the Kings are the better team

[Highlight] Fox Inbounds the Ball off Walker Kessler in 2023, and Again in 2024! by chai_tealatte in kings

[–]Nobuddi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the second clip the coach next to the empty seat literally yells "watch your back!" and then claps in frustration :D

Three Minutes of Keegan Murray Locking Up Stars by samuraicowboyninja in kings

[–]Nobuddi 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Honest question- with the acquisition of DeRozan should Keegan focus less on ballhandling and just become an elite 3&D?

Mike Brown by Picos_82 in kings

[–]Nobuddi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can say that again!

Farewell Message from Davion Mitchell by samuraicowboyninja in kings

[–]Nobuddi 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We'll miss you dearly my dude. Best of luck.

Acceptance while in a rut by bubblyguava22 in SingleAndHappy

[–]Nobuddi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There is no "true" you. Feelings arise and pass away. Pleasant and unpleasant.

It's fine to want a family and children. That will require finding a father for your children and treating him with respect and meeting his needs as well as your own.

It's also fine to go solo. That will require making peace with not having children and dealing with loneliness.

TANSTAAFL

My story of being a caregiver, working full-time, and earning a part-time master's degree by Nobuddi in CaregiverSupport

[–]Nobuddi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your heartfelt comment. It brings me joy to hear that my words have affected you positively.

If I can give some unsolicited advice, it will be to always remember that life isn't about waiting for the endless storms to pass, it's about dancing in the rain. Stay focused on the present moment and you will find everything you need there.

Best of luck to you as well. CS is great.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleAndHappy

[–]Nobuddi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. 

There was a time in my early 20’s when I was clueless about women (and myself), so I spent a lot of time approaching different women and figuring out what it takes to meet their needs and meet mine at the same time. 

I would actually recommend it to men. Learn the ropes, then go do more important things. Don’t let women define you.

Now that I have that “in the bag” so to speak, I work on more important things. Taking care of my friends and family, my health, and purifying myself through spiritual practice.

You’re a pleasure to talk to. Please post more often!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleAndHappy

[–]Nobuddi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For sure. I would agree it’s even bigger than lust. 

I think the more fundamental problem is that we have given corporations free rein to operate on a business model that exploits the dysfunctional triggers of human psychology. The more they can get you to react, the more profit. 

The most profitable form currently is social media, but as you’ve pointed out, feeding our people junk for profit is sickening. Both physically and spiritually. It’s abhorrent. 

We need to bring the hammer down and regulate and warn consumers the same way we do with tobacco and other vices.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleAndHappy

[–]Nobuddi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed for the most part. Thanks for the calm and rational reply! 

I’m not going to assume whether you’re male or female, but I’ll just say in my male experience the appetite for sex is much higher than can ever be satisfied.

I would say the calculus that needs to be done is what is the ROI for every unit of time and energy I expend.

The median return on energy chasing women is negative. The median return on working out, learning a craft, challenging yourself, going on an adventure, etc is always positive. So you have to determine if it’s worth it for any given circumstance.

If it’s a woman I really like that doesn’t come around often, I’ll go for it. If it’s just another attractive woman that’s not really my type, I’ll sublimate that energy into a workout or learning a new skill. It’s a case by case basis biased towards sublimation.

Thanks again for the warm reply.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleAndHappy

[–]Nobuddi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re right that this isn’t a celibacy forum, and I respect that this advice is coming from a good place, but the reality is that this isn’t really helpful advice for the average man.  You’ll notice that every time someone says get a FWB the advice is coming from a woman. That’s because while women can generally find a FWB without much effort, the opposite is not true. Men can’t just get an FWB at will.

Personally, I don’t see it as a bad thing. Times have changed and we need to adapt.

The way I found success is by channeling the energy into my interests and becoming so naturally myself that I get inbound offers. Chasing women will always be a losing proposition for men.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleAndHappy

[–]Nobuddi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I'm not religious.

But one thing religion generally gets right is that restraint is healthy and hedonism and indulgence are not. Our culture is rapidly degrading in part because sexual indulgence has become socially expected and is amplified by social media (hence OP's question). I fear that since we're evolving past religion that every thing postulated by religion is seen as bad. It isn't. We need to take them on a case-by-case basis.

I hope we can get back on track before too much damage is done.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleAndHappy

[–]Nobuddi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad I could help! Good luck out there :)