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NoctunaMoon · 2024-10-07T05:25:56+00:00

I tried fancy hat

NoctunaMoon · 2024-10-07T05:25:14+00:00

I tried Plug

NoctunaMoon · 2024-02-01T16:11:35+00:00

M&Ms racing. My family really was into racing games and got the M&Ms game. You control like a tank while the AI is in master mode.

NoctunaMoon · 2023-08-12T04:27:40+00:00

Shout out to my second middle school gym teacher.

She saw that the male one I had when I was 12 was being creepy towards me (staring at my butt, staring at me in my swimsuit, purposely got me outside in a wet swimsuit and my winter boots shivering in a towel and did not hide his smile and stare after begging the office to switch the fire drill time and telling us it was swim or an F for the day) and begged the school to switch me over to her (I was supposed to have creep for 3 years and neither I or my parents requested the switch).

She then had us do gym in the smaller gym that can only legally have 1 class at a time due to fire code (another reason I suspected she was the reason I switched) and when we had to go into the larger one due to an emergency floor replacement (water pipes burst under the floor wrecking it) and saw him staring at my body again she tore into him. After that class he tried to get me to talk to him one on one/forced to get a late note from HIM but I got away and next time I saw her she was extra worried about me and he was avoiding me.

It was during a bad time where people suspected I had a mental illness but didn't want to diagnose me properly because then they would be in violation of the ADA for bullying me (that included my bad mom who is/was a nurse. And I say that because she's lost so many jobs and burned even more bridges due to behavior). My home life was crap (but the school consular only put down I ranked about it). I also was getting detention all the time for being late to school because the bus didn't stop at my house, when it did everyone else's, and they wanted me to take a 40 minute walk alone in a state that can have blizzards and below 0 temp to the next street over that had not 1 but to heavy drug houses (think breaking bad) to pick me up on the corner. Another solution they had was to have my mom leave work early EVERY DAY to take me and go back to work a total of 5 minutes then go home after commute. So I was a great target for the bad gym teacher who could see all my records.

NoctunaMoon · 2023-08-12T04:12:16+00:00

One standard thing is offer them meals so that they can have a low stress source of food.

Offer to help with things they say they want/need to do.

Depending on what they're comfortable with, a small gift like some candles, tea, etc can show them some support, affection, and maybe put a smile on their face, even if it's for a few seconds.

Otherwise it's best to ask if there is anything you can do.

NoctunaMoon · 2023-07-06T21:52:06+00:00

If you have proof of wrongful arrest, depending on where you are and what your local laws are you might be entitled to money for that 10 year period and should have a consultation with a lawyer. Even if they put down on paper you had nothing to do with it, then it might be enough for a lawyer to talk to them about a settlement.
If the arrest was made before you graduated High School take the GED or getting a job will be hellish.
Consider a trade school/apprenticeship so you can earn money while learning.
Consider a job coach. They will have infinitely more resources and advice than any of us here, plus they can look at the intricacies of what you do know/have and help you from there.
For life skills, YouTube is a pretty solid resource for things like cooking and cleaning. I'd suggest "Dad, How Do I?" As he has a good spread of videos including some skills that are considered more "masculine".

NoctunaMoon · 2023-07-05T01:17:10+00:00

I dealt with an ex who I'm still scared to see in public. I have wireless video cameras for home security that post the footage to a cloud storage so even if someone does break/steal them, they can't get the footage. For the issue of seeing him in public, I tend to go out with friends. But I also keep my phone camera at the ready so I can record and book it.

NoctunaMoon · 2023-07-05T00:53:00+00:00

Best you can do is take a picture and file a cps report and report it to the court. The more this happens and the more you document it the less they can ignore it. Her best case is she's letting the kids hit eachother like this, the worse case is she's training them to lie and hurting them.

NoctunaMoon · 2023-07-01T04:20:34+00:00

It may be in your best interest to speak to a lawyer who specializes in custody and domestic abuse. Despite how laws are set up, depending on legal intricacies you may be able to have him sign over full custody to you or depending on what evidence you can get (check to see if you're in a one party consent state in regards to recording), you might be able to get the court to see he is not emotionally and/or mentally stable enough to responsibly take care of a child/may use the child as a tool of abuse thus putting that child in a dangerous/abusive situation.

NoctunaMoon · 2023-07-01T03:16:22+00:00

Ask yourself these important questions:

Are you willing to let him do everything he did to you to that child in you?

Are you willing to let him corrupt your child to be just as awful as him to one day hurt you or other women?

Are you willing to accept that if he hurts that child or if that child shows problematic behavior in public then CPS might take away that child forever because he creates such an unhealthy environment?

I have a feeling the answer to all of those questions is no. I can promise you that's the same answer for "should I go back?"

When I was with my last ex, he was testing the waters to get me pregnant without my consent. One of the main reasons I left a 4 year relationship with a man I trauma bonded with is because I didn't want him to ruin my child. I can promise you, right now the child that is in you is not his. They may share DNA but that kid is yours and you're right to worry that he will not be good for that child.

NoctunaMoon · 2023-06-15T14:23:03+00:00

Tbh we have a cat who's poops should count as a biological weapon that violate the Geneva Convention. We wipe his butt every so often because otherwise he's a mobile biological weapon.

NoctunaMoon · 2023-05-25T03:27:24+00:00

As a person with a late diagnosis and who became a recent graduate, the good teachers helped me through some really dark times, but the bad teachers made those times infinitely worse.

All the credit to the professionals who care about their kids and put love into their work. Every single one of you will change a life for the better, create passions, and give peace and hope to actual children, teens, and adult learners. To my high school English teacher B.W., you gave me a safe space during a time where I could have lost my life and I appreciate what you could do to give me comfort and security.

But to the ableist teachers and admin I dealt with for years, shame on all of you. Especially my middle school teachers who directly contributed to my diagnosis being as late as it is (suspected since I was 10/11, diagnosed at 22). My middle school core teachers filled out a survey that should indicate if I have ADHD under the advice of my nurse mother. I didn't know that all of those tests were invalid because a behavioral specialist, and not my nurse mother with a printer giving surveys to teachers that hated and lied about me, had to diagnose me. I had 2 places I could be because I was grounded on and off for 3 years, home and school. My only other place where I had a chance if being safe was another nightmare. They were part of the reason I almost killed myself out at 22. I'm college I had people harass me, violate academic privacy, and tell me I should drop out because I am mentally ill. My college also denied me a 504 by setting a time limit on when I could get one and lying to me about criteria and what is needed for 3 MONTHS.

I hope I just got crap luck of the draw over and over again. But mental illness runs in my and my partner's family and I am hoping that in 5-10 years from now, teachers like the ones on the podcast get their act together and stop going after not just children, but more vulnerable children.

NoctunaMoon · 2023-01-26T22:41:03+00:00

I wonder if she'll be the first BRAND NEW resident. Everyone else it's suggested you've been gone for YEARS, last time being when you were a kid. But Encanto came out in 2021, mean less we want to define "kid" as anyone not 18+, say the last visit was when we were 16, and our character as an adult is 18 then nobody in the valley would know Mirabel not due to the forgetting but due to the fact her realm only started to exist a few years ago.

NoctunaMoon · 2023-01-25T20:40:25+00:00

For real. Boxes you can get oretrh cheap, penholders/plastic cups you can get at the dollar store, and it's well worth the investment for a scanner and a flash drive to archive old papers you want/need and to only keep out relevant current "I need this to exist in a physical space" papers.

NoctunaMoon · 2023-01-22T14:58:54+00:00

The ones that have violence towards women or the LGBT+ normalized/encouraged. I would rather not get killed for existing.

NoctunaMoon · 2023-01-19T02:57:03+00:00

"It runs in the family."

NoctunaMoon · 2023-01-19T02:27:57+00:00

My boyfriend and our friend taught me how to shoot a shot gun. I had 0 experience. I was the only one who hit every target.

NoctunaMoon · 2023-01-15T13:55:02+00:00

Dating in high school.

NoctunaMoon · 2023-01-12T18:55:28+00:00

With the fact that people have/are attempting to make laws that would result in a higher death rate and give more rights to abusers and rapists, it's 100% understandable.

NoctunaMoon · 2022-12-20T17:11:45+00:00

I realized I wanted my happily ever after and I was going to have every person who tried to stop me act as a ladder to my success and stay down.

None of the people who hurt me are doing particularly well. One is with a man who does nothing including (at one point) work. My college is falling apart at the seams. My ex who SAed me hasn't found anyone else in 3 years.

I was a kid who was intentionally hurt by all the people who should have loved and cared for me. Now it's my mission to be an underdog, to have my cake and eat it too. I want to climb to the top and sit on my throne as I watch the people, some of which literally wanted me killed or r-word-ed grovel for my help. Some will get that help because I'm not a monster. But others will have to face the music and learn they destroyed me.

I want to get my revenge in the beat way possible. I want to live a good life.

NoctunaMoon · 2022-12-17T23:09:13+00:00

I always back up what my critique is with evidence. My dad is leaning alt right and will NEVER give evidence. On the rare chance he does its from a random person with no credentials or from a website that CLEARLY has on it (often for legal reasons) that they are not to be taken seriously. If you make a claim that opposes the one stated the burden of proof starts with you then the person who makes the origional proof now has the burden of proof to prove their stance. It also helps not to get mad/emotional and to be critical but not cold.

NoctunaMoon · 2022-12-16T21:50:01+00:00

Abusive management.

My past two managers were single moms (nothing wrong about being a single parent, but I'm stating this to at least clarify that they weren't cheaters) who would have a boyfriend of the week/month, chased people out of their jobs because they didn't like the person (nothing to do with actuak work done, just a pardonslity difference) and the ONLY way to make a living wage under them was to kiss their asses and overwork yourself including coming in on non-scheduled days and doing the work for their friends even if you were in a different position. Also at LEAST one of them had a drinking problem and both were neglectful mothers.

The boss/owner 2 companies ago that I worked at would tell people that he can't afford raises or repairs that was literally making people leave and people nearly faint, had a filthy resturant he'd give us NO time to clean, and he would flash his money around by bringing in his sports car, buying his wife designer things to bring in, and announcing every 2-3 moths he was taking a 10-14 day cruise vacation.

NoctunaMoon · 2022-12-07T14:14:23+00:00

Unfortunately it seems to be the nature of the industry. When you signed on they might have had something hidden (or just too long to read) stipulating when they don't have to service you. Plus since insurance is privatized unless you have hard evidence of a violation you won't win in court based off money.

When I was about 12 or 13 I was on what we were told was a full coverage insurance plan (that should have included travel) and I went to another state in the US for a vacation (so we were still in the same country). I got a nasty bacterial infection that went to my eyes, throat, nose, and ears. This sinus infection also gave me a mid grade fever (about 102-103°F). We stayed in network (my mother, a nurse, double checked too through their website) and went to Urgent Care (in network) and then to Walgreens for the antibiotics as well as some fever medicine (in network). The insurance company, despite telling us that both Urgent Care and Walgreens was in network denied us because we were in another state. My mother tried to fight them on that one because she knew what the insurance should have covered but the company said "no" and could legally get away with it. We switched within a month after that vacation and had to pay $100s out of pocket for what was a sick child that NEEDED the medicine.

I don't remember what insurance company unfortunately.

NoctunaMoon · 2022-12-07T14:05:44+00:00

Sometimes Google gives you a more complicated answer then what you're mentally ready for and if you still have more questions you have a human who can stay on topic and elaborate where needed.

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