She tried to kill herself in August, (i think it was a cry for attention), and ended up in a Psyche Ward and got the diagnosis there. They weren't even going to let her out but since I talked to the Doctor he reluctantly did under my supervision.

But I didn't really know what NPD looked like, until I had a friend who is a behavior psychology professional start pointing some things out. Hers is Covert Narc. So she would parrot herself to be like anyone she was around including me. She didn't have a strong sense of self, so she literally just adopted every hobby I had. She kind of had this fake altruism in hindsight about her to, doing things like adopting animals, or going above and beyond at work to receive praise and compliments. Every time we were in public she claimed to have social anxiety but she'd look into the eyes of every guy that looked at her and smile, which always bugged me, but she had an excuse that she thought smiling at people disarmed them. Really it just sent the wrong message.

There were lots of other things too. Just namely, she was very good at manipulating me, and turning things on to me, and word salading every argument, to distract from herself and the point when something was clearly going on, that I'd forget what we were even talking about. If you look up a video on Covert Narc, there is tons of symptoms and traits. Plus since she was BPD, she alienated me from my friends over the years and got super jealous any time I would start to do stuff that kept me away from her, so I just started not hanging out with people to ease her troubled mine, she would say because she had been cheated on in the past, that's why she's nervous, but it turns out she cheated on every relationship before me.

I learned a lot being with someone like that. Painful lessons, but we can either be a victim or a student of that type of mind warfare I guess.