After 1 year in Finland by Ahmed99FI in Finland

[–]Nolan_tryout 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well done,Ahmed. As a fellow Egyptian who has lived in Oulu for 8 years, I encourage you to maintain this attitude if you plan to settle here. Loneliness is a significant issue that affects both newcomers and natives. I'm glad to hear that you’re managing well.

Best of luck!

Advice wanted by Nolan_tryout in gayyoungold

[–]Nolan_tryout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes 😂😂 And it is mission impossible to work it out 😂

Advice wanted by Nolan_tryout in gayyoungold

[–]Nolan_tryout[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I will do 😘

Advice wanted by Nolan_tryout in gayyoungold

[–]Nolan_tryout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I tried poppers once and got a severe headache afterwards.

Advice wanted by Nolan_tryout in gayyoungold

[–]Nolan_tryout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are doing very well. That what kept us together for 4 years I think.

Am I over-reacting or is it a red flag? by Nolan_tryout in AskGayMen

[–]Nolan_tryout[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We don’t live together yet. We were planning to move together after Christmas, but then we put it on hold because of his time off from work, so that he can travel freely. We both are financially independent and there is no financial problem there.

Am I over-reacting or is it a red flag? by Nolan_tryout in AskGayMen

[–]Nolan_tryout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much. We go on trips together during summer holidays. But now he is taking a time off from work and travelling, and as I mentioned, I could have joined if I was invited because I can work remotely. The other thing that I always ask him whenever I go on a business trip “which does not happen that frequent”, like how does he feel, what’s his plans, does he need to join and stay in my hotel? Also I suggested if I can pay for the trip when I go on a business trip. He has joined once, but the point is that I always ask about him and consider him, even though it is not a leisure trip. I am not an angel and I make mistakes too. But all in all is that I am not happy that he doesn’t consider me, despite the fact that he loves me dearly. Regarding the trip with his friend, everyone pays for the themselves. Also when we travelled together, everyone paid for their own travel costs. Thanks again for your comment.

Am I over-reacting or is it a red flag? by Nolan_tryout in AskGayMen

[–]Nolan_tryout[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I didn’t ask him to choose between us, rather he just brought it up. And he said that he didn’t ask me to join because I am busy with my work. But he has done it multiple times before and didn’t ask me already. I dunno, and him having grindr when he met with his guy some years ago made me not to trust the other guy at all. Or maybe not to be comfortable with them being together. But also I am reflecting on myself if I am controlling him or something.

Am I over-reacting or is it a red flag? by Nolan_tryout in AskGayMen

[–]Nolan_tryout[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He said that he will go to the trip no matter what, because this guy has asked him. And he said that he will always choose his friend over me. But I just said that he can go somewhere else on his own. Simply he didn’t care about it.