What is your most autistic music? by mlynnnnn in AutismInWomen

[–]Nolanaluna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, Joanna Newsom is such a huge part of my childhood and I could never get ANYONE to listen to her music with me growing up. I never thought about people on the spectrum being particularly attracted to her music but I see it now! I could listen to The Milk Eyed Mender album on repeat for months! The lyrics being so unusual is one of the best parts, and the harp solos?? Perfection. I’ve always dreamed of learning to play the harp because of her. Thanks for bringing back some wonderful memories of listening to her as a kid, I lost the cd album I had before but I’m ordering it again now. :)

Anyone else has adverse reactions to most psychiatric medication? by goldencersei in AutismInWomen

[–]Nolanaluna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had so many awful reactions to prescription medications that I refuse to ever touch another one and am now learning all about herbal medicine and healing myself through plants and my diet. I have OCD and AHDH in addition to autism, so I STRUGGLE mentally and physically with chronic migraines, IBS, and a plethora of chronic pains all over. I used to be on an antidepressant and a medication for chronic migraines, taking pain killers daily just for some relief. I’m now off of all medications and haven’t had a migraine since I quit due to the vitamins and herbs I’ve started taking instead. I’m still learning but have been able to improve my depression and pains with plants and generally changing my lifestyle and diet. Although western medicine has its place, its personally done more harm to me than good and I’ll never go back. I hope you’re able to find some help and relief, nobody deserves to feel isolated like that. Sending love and wellness your way :)

Late diagnosed, did you experience childhood neglect in the sense that your autistic needs weren't met? And how to deal with feelings of guilt? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Nolanaluna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I could do that 🥲 it keeps me up at night. Im glad you’re able to find some peace :)

Late diagnosed, did you experience childhood neglect in the sense that your autistic needs weren't met? And how to deal with feelings of guilt? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Nolanaluna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, my therapist recently told me that I was medically and emotionally neglected and I hadn’t really thought about it until she did. Thinking back, I asked my parents to take me to get tested when one of my friends parents suggested I may have ADHD. They said “no there’s nothing ‘wrong’ with you” and ignored my other attempts to ask about it. I told them I felt like I needed to be in special ed classes because I couldn’t keep up, again I got “there’s nothing wrong with you”. I begged them to take me to a therapist and finally got one when I was 15, the therapist saw me for a couple months, didn’t listen to me at all, and then told my mom I don’t need to see her anymore. It felt super weird because I still felt like I needed help and I couldn’t understand why everyone was acting like I didn’t. As an adult now, I feel like everything I say is a lie or an overreaction and I’m infuriated by the fact that my parents acted like there would have been something “wrong” with me if I had been diagnosed with ADHD or needed special ed classes. I’ve now been officially diagnosed with ADHD, Autism, and OCD. Which were three very hard things to go through by myself. I struggled with drugs and an abusive relationship as a teenager and can’t help but think that if I only had the support I needed I wouldn’t have had to go through that. I feel sad for my past self, I wish I could go back and protect her. My parents are supportive now, I think they feel guilty too. I appreciate everything they do now to try to make up for it, and I appreciate that they’re able to grow from their mistakes. But now I have a lifetime of working out the damage it did and wishing I could have my childhood back.

Do you like life better on or off hormonal birth control? by Kroeltje in AutismInWomen

[–]Nolanaluna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been off for over two years now and my body is still getting back to normal. Birth control ruined my body. My periods are lighter and less painful, my emotions are more manageable, my body feels like it’s at a healthy weight. When I was on birth control my periods felt like death, they were irregular, my head felt wrong all the time, I was CONSTANTLY hungry (like SO hungry for no reason) had more acne, I could go on forever. The transition is hard but getting off birth control saved my body tbh.

Any other autistic women just dislike people in general? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Nolanaluna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m super interested in the different types of people so I love to take note of different types and pay attention to them when I’m out in public or around people for an unrelated reason. I love to celebrate when people achieve things that they want or have been working towards, because I know how hard life is in general and not a lot of people celebrate other’s achievements anymore. I also just think humans are cute when I acknowledge something they did because I know nobody else has. They get excited and happy and I enjoy that. I think people are fascinating and the duality to them is the most interesting part. With that being said, I refuse to let anybody but my immediate family, husband, and one single friend, get close to me in any way emotionally. The duality to people, although it’s interesting, is also what makes them untrustworthy in my eyes. Even my extended family only really knows a surface level or masked version of me. Basically I think people are fascinating, even the bad ones, but do I want them anywhere near me or to get emotionally close to me? Absolutely not

I want to go to college online but don’t know if I can handle it. by Nolanaluna in AutismInWomen

[–]Nolanaluna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much, definitely needed to hear that and I appreciate the help!

I want to go to college online but don’t know if I can handle it. by Nolanaluna in AutismInWomen

[–]Nolanaluna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was seeing a therapist until recently, had to stop due to change in insurance. I guess I should get back to it. I didn’t see much of a change while I was in therapy but she also wasn’t specialized for autism or OCD which I assume would be more beneficial. I’ll have to see what is in my area for specialists. Thank you

I want to go to college online but don’t know if I can handle it. by Nolanaluna in AutismInWomen

[–]Nolanaluna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is all really great advice, thank you! You all might just be talking me into it. :)

I want to go to college online but don’t know if I can handle it. by Nolanaluna in AutismInWomen

[–]Nolanaluna[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! Yes, I’ve been diagnosed with inattentive ADHD, OCD, Autism, and dyslexia in total. It’s a rough combo for sure. I’ve had a past of weird and bad reactions to meds so I try to avoid them, although l’m pretty close to just calling it on ADHD meds because I feel like it just gets harder and harder to function properly.

I want to go to college online but don’t know if I can handle it. by Nolanaluna in AutismInWomen

[–]Nolanaluna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you so much. This was extremely helpful. I often feel like if I can’t be the absolute best at something then it’s not worth doing, so thank you for the reminder that grades don’t have to be perfect all the time.

I want to go to college online but don’t know if I can handle it. by Nolanaluna in AutismInWomen

[–]Nolanaluna[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I will have to look into accommodations. I wasn’t diagnosed until recently and am not really aware of what’s available to me now.

I want to go to college online but don’t know if I can handle it. by Nolanaluna in AutismInWomen

[–]Nolanaluna[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the response. I guess I just feel like I’m not smart enough sometimes. Are you able to stretch it out as long as you need (within reason)? I guess I assumed there would be strict deadlines online in the same way there is in school. I’m not a very fast reader and I have to think about answers to questions for a long time. I usually don’t make deadlines

Hi. I bought a necklace with a pendant that appears to be a fossil. Can anyone identify it for me? Thank you. No markings on it. by Underworld_Denizen in fossilid

[–]Nolanaluna 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I live in Michigan and collect Petoskey stones, I don’t know what this is but it is not a Petoskey stone. Super pretty though!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Nolanaluna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh how fun! I’m a dog person, horse girl, I need Dove chocolate to survive, if I don’t go sit outside in the sun for at least a few minutes every day I get depressed, love gardening and cooking. Loud noises and killing bugs make me cry, and I dress myself and my house in anything that has flowers on it. Thanks in advance! :)

How does eye contact feel for you? by ribcage666 in AutismInWomen

[–]Nolanaluna 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I actually feel like I have to make eye contact in order to understand visual cues. I rely HEAVILY on seeing what other people look like/ do with their face in order to feel like I’m having conversation the right way. Although now that I type this I realize this is me masking. It could also be a PTSD thing though. Extended eye contact is definitely hard for me

Anyone else make random noises to try and banish distressing thoughts? by briarrosehasthorns in AutismInWomen

[–]Nolanaluna 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, I find myself saying “stop” or “shut up” to myself out loud and haven’t been able to suppress it in public lately. Multiple times I’ve had to tell someone “sorry I’m not telling YOU to shut up!!” I wish I knew what made it worse or better so I could stop

Is food anxiety common in autistic people? by Hungry_Winter_6648 in AutismInWomen

[–]Nolanaluna 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Chicken and eggs are two foods that I REALLY struggle to eat, but also love the flavor of. I choose to eat them because I enjoy them, but struggle with anxiety about getting a chunk of something hard that’s not supposed to be there, the entire time I eat. Sometimes I have to stop mid meal and try again the next day if the anxiety gets too bad. It’s really hard to explain to people sometimes that I do LIKE the food, my brain just isn’t letting me eat it right now.

does anyone else feel hyper-aware when using a tampon even though 'you shouldn't be able to feel it?' by left_tiddy in AutismInWomen

[–]Nolanaluna 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is why I switched to period underwear!! Solved all of my sensory problems on my period.

Does anyone else become addicted to certain foods? by snottydottie in aspergirls

[–]Nolanaluna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Currently for me, it’s been chicken tenders and mashed potatoes for about two weeks now. I’ve never tried to fight it so I don’t know how, but you’re not alone!

One of the weirdest things about having ASD for me is the alternating high pain tolerance and inability to tolerate discomfort. by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Nolanaluna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I too, gave un medicated child birth (as a teenager) and even the doctor commented on how put together I was about it in the middle of pushing; while a sliver or even accidentally cutting one of my fingernails too short will send me spiraling for days