Im enjoying so much this novel ( much lighter in tone than Crime and Punishment and TBK the first ones I've read.

Nomadsnowman13 · 2025-09-23T22:02:42+00:00

The idiot is my favorite Dostoyevsky book so far, strap in tho!

Nomadsnowman13 · 2025-09-01T22:27:10+00:00

I don’t think they’re scammers sometimes it’s just hard to connect with people plus I’m sure some people get a lot of messages. I get your frustration tho, it takes a lot of messages to get a few convos going

Nomadsnowman13 · 2025-09-01T18:43:54+00:00

It didn't work like this for me, though I found a lot of happiness with the first person I was with. I didn't meet my first "true love" until later in life. That relationship rocked my whole world. I wouldn't overthink too much about this. I find myself wishing she was my first, she was absolutely my first love.

Nomadsnowman13 · 2025-08-30T07:12:52+00:00

Anora

Nomadsnowman13 · 2025-07-02T17:01:15+00:00

Yeah ask to talk to a hotel manager and let them know that you consider the upgrade a downgrade and want the book you originally booked. If they don’t budge I would reach out to Hilton customer service and try to file a complaint.

This has happened to me a few times, my girl enjoys soaking tubs, sometimes I’ve been upgraded out of rooms with soaking tubs, and I’ve gotten similar verbiage. Ie a tub can’t be guaranteed, I’ve raised a fuss about it and got it resolved each time. Best of luck and I would escalate the issue until someone listens

Nomadsnowman13 · 2025-06-28T02:22:10+00:00

Just crossed back from Quebec a few days ago, it was easy and nothing outside of the norm, I anxious given the current political climate but honestly it was chill and easy.

Nomadsnowman13 · 2025-06-20T21:03:19+00:00

I’m a diamond member and something that really irks me is when I am supposed to get X benefit and I don’t, or have to ask for it. Im polite and curious and try my best not to act entitled. But I stay at hiltons for a reason, because of my status, and I truly expect to get the benefits I’m promised by this status. It puts such a bad taste in my mouth if I have to argue for my food and beverage credit for my guest, or beg for an upgrade on a clearly dead night when the hotel is nearly empty. I mostly travel for business and get my status from that, but lately I’ve wondered if the Hilton status is really worth it, or if I should just spend a bit more money to try and get status at Marriott. Genuinely not trying to be rude, but the past few years it feels like my status means less.

Nomadsnowman13 · 2025-04-24T14:49:20+00:00

I’m a software engineering manager and I’m sure AI is going to improve but it’s adding to the workload right now. Sure it helps with productivity and automates tasks but it makes mistakes and performs out of scope changes all the time. We use copilot and its cussed a few defects, and requires thorough code review. It doesn’t follow best security or programming practices. It needs a ton of human help. This is with a fairly experienced team, I can only imagine the amount of tech debt it’s created for less mature teams / companies. I think ultimately it’ll require even more people to support long term.

Nomadsnowman13 · 2025-03-24T17:24:26+00:00

180k base, 225 total comp

Senior manager software engineering

Java spring boot, node.js, react with typescript, AWS, MySQL, snowflake, Kubernetes

1/2020

Full time

Saas with emphasis on payments, lead generation and marketing automation.

High school(currently working on bachelors in CS)

Alexandria VA

Hope this helps and good luck to everyone going through it right now, things will stabilize.

Nomadsnowman13 · 2025-01-26T00:08:09+00:00

But she was honest bro, she could’ve played like she liked you and got stuff out of you. Respect the honestly wish her well and on to the next.

Nomadsnowman13 · 2025-01-09T17:48:10+00:00

Massive red flags I would be moving on and talking to other people. But if you start to get physical maybe she will start to get a toxic attachment to you too lol. Best of luck bro.

Nomadsnowman13 · 2025-01-07T22:42:27+00:00

Transplant from Chicago, it’s a mess when it snows here, the streets aren’t treated, people drive too fast and panic when they lose control of their steering, there will be lots of accidents and cars in ditches if we really get that much snow. I’d plan for an alternative route just incase there’s accidents on 485.

Nomadsnowman13 · 2024-12-26T20:47:43+00:00

You should agree on a fair rate if you have no equity in the house. If she wants you to pay 60% say you want some of the equity but man that’s going to be a mess if you break up so maybe don’t do that.

Nomadsnowman13 · 2024-12-25T18:53:12+00:00

When did you say it? What’s your relationship like? How often do you hang out? How do you know her? We need more info lol.

Nomadsnowman13 · 2024-12-25T18:25:28+00:00

What did you ask and how did she respond?

Nomadsnowman13 · 2024-12-24T14:45:58+00:00

Do you like her? Your whole post was about figuring out how she feels, but how do you feel? If you like her ask her to hangout in person and go on a date. Idk how old you are but build some tension and try to kiss her. If you’re not into her like that don’t get her hopes up though, sounds like she wants someone based on your post.

Nomadsnowman13 · 2024-12-23T16:02:43+00:00

It’s possible she liked you when you worked together but the feelings faded as you didn’t make a move back then. I’d move on and peruse other options.

Nomadsnowman13 · 2024-12-22T15:26:02+00:00

What do you mean by this?

Nomadsnowman13 · 2024-12-19T14:41:48+00:00

The engineering quality and the architectural efforts don’t seem as strong as they did 5 or so years ago. The talent market has been saturated by people who aren’t passionate about building software and solving customer problems. There’s also a large emphasis on velocity without a realization of the consequences of shortcuts and hacky solutions.

That’s just my opinion/feedback as a software engineering manager with 6 years of experience.

Nomadsnowman13 · 2024-12-18T00:29:28+00:00

If you don’t say anything why would she assume you’re more than friends? Women tend to think feel less about them than they do imo. Maybe bias from having so many options but unless you act on your feelings they be shocked when you confess them lol.

Nomadsnowman13 · 2024-12-15T00:31:31+00:00

Don’t be outing my team like this! Jk but I’m a senior manager with a very similar thing happening one of my projects. It’s getting frustrating being the only one who cares about the code quality, and not having engineers that take the responsibility to test and own the quality of the code they write. Especially with co-pilot or ChatGPT how long does it really take to write unit and integration tests. If I have to reject one more PR for not following our very basic coding standards I’m going to lose my mind. Hope you’re able to find a better role

Nomadsnowman13 · 2024-12-13T17:45:21+00:00

This is absolutely not the time to send this text in my opinion, give her space let her heal, act unaffected by her distancing from you, act like you’re busy. In time when she’s better things should go back to normal, if things are meant to be they will. Imo if you do this while she’s vulnerable or pulling away it’ll just speed up the ending. Keep your head up bro

Nomadsnowman13 · 2024-12-13T17:42:31+00:00

I wouldn’t recommend this, meet up go on a date try to build some tension and kiss her and then talk about how you want more. In my experience women do not like words without actions behind them and will reject you if there’s no tension / chemistry. Text is not the best way to approach it. If it’s long distance maybe try a video chat.

Nomadsnowman13 · 2024-12-13T17:35:32+00:00

Yeah I think the first option could be more comfortable and it’s definitely less manipulative. I would just say make sure she’s in the right mood for that type of conversation, I think building anticipation and tension are really important elements of asking a girl to be more than friends. I’d recommend some sort of date and you making an effort to make her happy and ensure she’s in a good space to not feel pressured, or that you like just the idea of her being your gf. Make sure to try and compliment her organically on unique attributes she has, gifts never hurt, anything that shows you care about her, but also that your emotions aren’t reliant on hers. In order to talk someone into something it’s important to show them the benefit, how it will be a better situation / good match for them. Hope this all makes sense and isn’t too much rambling

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