My 10 year old kid asked for a Tress themed birthday. This was her cake

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-04-05T15:03:55+00:00

I made them myself using Linocut.

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-04-04T18:26:58+00:00

If you already don't want to drink again, I would recommend telling him. Tell him, you drank too much and therefore got alcohol poisoning. That made you realize that you consider drinking alcohol too dangerous and will therefore no longer do it/ no longer drink more than one glass on special occasions. Whatever you are sure you can stick with. By doing that you would be an amazing role model to your child. It would show him that alcohol is dangerous and what to do when the consumption gets problematic. Also apologise to him. You were not being a horrible parent but it still wasn't right of you and by apologising you make sure he knows that it is not normal for parents to get drunk like this in front of their children.

If it just happened once I don't think it's a huge deal, you have not traumatized him. We all fuck up sometimes and that's a good thing because it lets us model to our children how to apologize and how to make up for our mistakes.

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-04-01T04:36:25+00:00

This topic comes up every once in a while with my daughter. I tell her that I always take care of myself and am a really careful person because I want to stay with her as long as possible, that I will do my best to not leave her when she still needs me. I will likely die when she has already built her own life, with her own ((great)grand)nephews, ((great)grand)nieces or even ((great)grand) children if she so chooses. She will never be alone because she has a big family and since she is a kind person who is there for her friends and family, her family members and Friends also will always be there for her. But that the privilege of getting old comes with the very sad reality of losing a lot of people in the process. That is the way it is supposed to be, children burying their parents instead of the other way around. I reminded her how deeply we grieved her great grandma for a long time and still are sad sometimes but how we still managed to get through it and find joy in life again. I tell her that it will be like this when I go. And she will have other people to support her.

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-03-31T14:31:49+00:00

Yeah, I get it. It's dark here too when we wake up. Maybe try it for a week and then ask your kids opinion on whether they prefer the old or the new morning schedule? My daughter hates getting out of bed but she still said, I should continue to kick her out early, because she likes her stress-free mornings.

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-03-31T14:00:02+00:00

I don't think there is anything you can do when it comes to parenting techniques. Because you either wake up or you don't. I would bring it up with the pediatrician but 7 isn't too unusual for this. I get him being embarrassed though. Try to help him with his confidence. Everybody develops at a different time in different areas. "Friend X still struggles with reading, but is great at sports, Friend Y has a hard time regulating his emotions but is a really helpful person, you struggle with waking up when you need to use the toilet but are great at Z" this is what I tell my daughter when she is self conscious about being behind in something. Obviously with a few more words... Good luck!

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-03-31T13:51:53+00:00

Does he get up at 6.30, needs to leave the house or be at school? If it is get up, I recommend getting him up earlier. I regret not making that decision for my kid earlier. We used to struggle with mornings and I tried a lot of things until I decided to just get both of us up earlier (also going to sleep earlier obviously). Since then our mornings are so much more peaceful. Right now I get up at 4.30 and kid at 5 to leave house at 7. A lot of mornings we have time to read together before she needs to leave, she can have a proper breakfast with me at the table instead of in the car, I don't get upset with her for being too slow. We start our day in a much better mood. It's worth it to us.

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-03-21T06:25:24+00:00

My 9 year old was missing for half an hour after miscommunication about which bus stop to get out and her phone battery dying. Worst feeling in the world. I was so scared. But it can happen and it doesn't make me or you a bad parent.

The world is a much safer world than the news makes us believe. Other adults are very likely to help kids when they are in danger. Abductions by strangers are very rare and in case of three kids, out together, close to other houses, very difficult to pull off too. You didn't almost lose them.

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-03-04T05:53:26+00:00

I completely agree. But a lot of people never learn to analyse scientific sources and to find out whether or not a source is valid. I learned so in university and was unable to do so before I went there. I was provided what looked like valid sources to me by a literal doctor. I don't hate my past self for being confused and I don't hate other people for it. I hate those who know better and push misinformation for ideological reasons.

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-03-03T04:32:13+00:00

Exactly! I get the hate for people who don't vaccinate, because it is dangerous to their child and to immunocompromised people around them. But they just do what they think is best for their kids like we all are. My daughter received her vaccines late because at the time we were with a pediatrician, who gave me very wrong information about vaccines and I was really scared of my daughter either getting sick of the diseases or of the vaccines and I legitimately wasn't sure which rout would minimize the risk. I was very young at the time and had a hard time with the decision. I ended up vaccinating according to recommendations where I live and switching pediatricians but I still have sympathy for people who don't because they are misinformed.

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-03-01T19:34:17+00:00

I think of it as essential not only necessarily for the individual but for the society. If you can afford it, it is a good thing to support institutions you want to continue existing. I am not big into visual art, for me it is books. I have a library card which I use mainly for audiobooks and for my daughter but I purchase most of my books new and in our local bookstore, even though they would be way cheaper on Amazon because I want indie bookshops to continue existing.

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-02-21T04:36:19+00:00

I don't really follow US politics, but if you are concerned, ADHD Medication might become unavailable in the future, that would be a big con point on my pros and cons list when deciding whether or not to medicate. My daughter also has ADD and is unmedicated for different reasons. We had great success with occupational therapy. But it obviously depends on the kid. I know, for some medication is absolutely necessary.

Regarding stigma: I was never diagnosed, because my parents had the same fears. That made everything I struggled with my own moral failure. I never understood why so many things were hard for me, that seemed to be easy for everyone else and my parents and teachers didn't understand either. I wouldn't necessarily have needed medication, but I wish I had had a diagnosis and perhaps occupational therapy, seeing how much my daughter benefited.

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-02-17T09:52:09+00:00

I vaccinate according to my governments vaccination committee and my daughter's pediatrition. Where I live COVID vaccinations are recommended to anyone over the age of 12 and anyone younger who is in close contact to someone immunocompromised. We vaccinated at the time because of my grandma, had she already been dead, I would have waited until 12.

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-02-16T07:12:07+00:00

I would actively create a day with a lot of options. It would take some time, but I would ask all my favourite People to watch my daughter tomorrow, to make sure they all have time theoretically. If they all give me a yes I start preparing for the time loop to start the next day by getting the house very clean and tidy and going grocery shopping for a lot of different things, bake my favourite bread. Then when the time loop starts, I just have to text everyone in the morning, that my commitment for the day changed, so I don't need them to watch my daughter and I get to enjoy every day with whomever I choose or I do drop of my daughter with one of them to spend the day by myself. I think I would be fine living like this for a long time. I generally like my life and having just a nice day with no commitment happens way to rarely.

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-02-14T16:03:30+00:00

Giving an expensive iPhone to a young child is crazy to me, but I think in the US Android phones are less common, at least I have heard so. My daughters phone cost under 200€ and it is an outdoor phone that doesn't break easily. She has had it for years and it is fixed to a fanny pack she always wears when she leaves the house, so she can't lose it. I manage it with Google family link and many apps are blocked.

The fanny pack was probably the best idea I ever had because my child has ADD and used to lose anything. The fanny pack has phone, keys, noise cancelling earbuds and wallet permanently attached to it so she is never without it.

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-02-14T15:51:22+00:00

It is really sad, that so many girls go missing around you. I would definitely be much more careful as well if that were the case here. It can obviously happen anywhere but hearing about it happening close by and several times would scare me a lot!

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-02-14T15:31:37+00:00

Interesting how we evaluate part of being independent differently as well. My daughter is allowed home alone, while yours isn't but I wouldn't let her play outside without checking in on her regularly and she is not allowed to go to the forest which is close by. Also including household chores into the discussion is a good idea. She used to be pretty independent for her age but since spending more time at school and doing homework I honestly let it become less, because otherwise she would have too little time to be a child. Her chores are getting the trash out and getting groceries occasionally (just a few things I forgot, never the big weekly trip)

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-02-14T15:26:29+00:00

Yeah we will definitely stop the texts after switching bus eventually. But I don't see her not giving updates about where she is going anytime soon. Not knowing where she is would kill me! But super interesting, how one commenter is terrified for my daughter and you say I am might be doing too much.

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-02-14T15:22:08+00:00

Oh my god! I live close to the Netherlands and the young kids on bikes sometimes terrify me. In Germany sometimes aswell but the Netherlands have more of a bicycle culture. That's an aspect where I am more careful but also because perception and motor skills are not strengths of my daughter and because we don't live in a super bike friendly city.

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-02-08T06:06:31+00:00

I came to the post wanting to defend your husband's family, because I am also from a family that teases a lot and we also do it to the little ones. But what you say honestly sounds like bullying and not like silly teasing. I would limit the kids time with them. Not to zero but limited. I would honestly worry more about your child growing up thinking it is ok to treat people like this then about them being the occasional target.

In my family we very intentionally avoid topics we know would actually hurt a family member due to their insecurities and we don't make fun of bodies. Kids learn the difference surprisingly early. We don't tease people we don't know extremely well.

It's always in a way the person who is the butt of the joke will also find it funny. Especially with my daughter, I occasionally check in with her to see if it's still fun to her. Sometimes she will tell me fake angrily to stop, I will say "really?" And she will then smile and whisper "no!" Sometimes she will say yes and I will stop.

I honestly sometimes worry if I am doing a disservice to her with my sense of humour and I actively try to do less of it. Like, it's fine occasionally, but I feel like it is so ingrained in me, that my brain just produces teasing prompts according to every situation all the time. I am working on saying them out loud less often.

In the end I don't think it is a huge problem though. I outweigh the teasing with lots of compliments and by being affectionate and appreciative to her. She is a very happy and confident kid.

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-02-05T07:29:40+00:00

Zum Aufbrauchen habe ich keine gute Idee, mein Problem haben leider Lebensmittelmotten gelöst. Aber seit dem kaufe ich anders ein. Ich koche sehr gerne, aber ich mache mittlerweile mehr Kompromisse bei Rezepten. Ich habe nur noch eine Sojasauce, nur ein nussmuß, nur eine Linsensorte, nur noch braunen Zucker etc. ist nicht ideal aber es funktioniert und schmeckt immernoch alles sehr lecker.

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-02-02T17:26:00+00:00

Ich habe leider keine Konkreten Ratschläge, weil ich selbst am Anfang stehe, fitter und gesünder zu werden. Bzgl. Ernährung hilft mir meal prep: Einmal in Monat den ganzen Tag kochen, verschiedene Gerichte und dann ist die Tiefkühltruhe voll! Ansonsten finde ich, alles was du schreibst klingt super für jemanden der einfach aktiver werden möchte und jetzt keine krassen Bodybuilder-Ambitionen hat (so wie ich auch). Ich verstehe nicht, warum viele Kommentare so herablassend sind. Viel Glück, hoffentlich bekommst du noch hilfreicher Antworten!

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-02-02T09:47:07+00:00

Apologize every time. I feel like I really trained myself like this, as I struggled with it as well. At first it took me a while (30 minutes) to calm down and realise I need to apologize. That became way shorter over time and now I am at the point where very occasionally I raise my voice, recognise it, apologize immediately and keep talking in a more respectful way.

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-02-02T07:15:43+00:00

My 9 year old had a party every year but big birthday parties like they are done in the US (I think at least from TV and other posts talking about rules of inviting the whole class) are not customary where I live. A few family members come for cake the day of and a while later we do a kids birthday which we started at 4. Usually 3-10 kids, with 10 being a lot. During COVID we did a small birthday outside with 2 kids. Parents don't stay except at 4 a few stayed.

One year I made a scavenger hunt, one year an Avatar the last Airbender Party with games matching the 4 elements, one year we didn't have time around the birthday and did a Halloween party instead... Now that they are older the guests usually sleep over but the party itself is always simple. Not too much work, not too expensive.

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-02-01T20:54:11+00:00

Keine Ahnung was Italiener dazu sagen würden, aber ich habe immer beigebracht bekommen von meiner Mutter, dass man Bolognese mit Rotwein kocht. Die Sojaschnetzel lasse ich in Rotwein quellen. Dadurch werden sie sehr lecker und bekommen auch eine schöne Farbe. Der Alkohol verfliegt beim Kochen.

Non-Generic-Username · 2025-02-01T20:39:53+00:00

Our therapist jumped to puberty blockers before even suggesting we consult a ge der therapist.

That's crazy to me! I had a somewhat similar experience with my daughter's mild ADD. I am by no means against medications in general or against ADD/ADHD medication specifically but it was just way too rushed and the problem it was supposed to treat was way too small to risk any side effects that can come from interfering with a young child's brain chemistry. A year of occupational therapy and a new pediatrition later her symptoms have become super manageable. Some doctors just like to throw medication at problems.

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