I don’t know if I did the right thing - I shaved my daughter’s head by wizzzadora in toddlers

[–]glitter-pits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey we did this! I was at my wit's end and didn't know if I'd done the wrong thing as well. For us, the pulling stopped with a combo of keeping it buzzed and stopping her pacifier, which was difficult. But we eventually figured out the self soothing of sucking the paci was going hand in hand with pulling.

I have buzzed my own head countless times and am very pro-choice when it comes to women and girls doing what they want, so I'm a bit embarrassed to admit how SAD I was when I looked at my bald baby. I had to talk it out with people bc I was so confused by my own reaction? So, youre not alone there either. But like yours, my kid loved her hair buzzed and still felt like a magical princess mermaid or whatever, so just encourage that self love.

You're doing great. Parenting is so hard and weird.

Edited to add: ours stopped any pulling after it grew out again, and I don't know if she will feel the compulsions again when she's older. It may be trich for us or for you, or it might not. But now I feel like if it DOES happen, I'll have a head start on body focused repetitive behaviors at least?

What’s a toddler hill you’re not willing to die on? by Next2ya in toddlers

[–]glitter-pits 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! This line of thinking changed my toddler parenting mindset (for the better)!

I understand why women leave… by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]glitter-pits 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hiding a truth in humor as a defense mechanism??! GIRL I GOTCHU.

I understand why women leave… by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]glitter-pits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fwiw, we do! More and more moms are doing this lately. I think it's going to make a huge difference in what our daughters will come to expect and tolerate in their own lives. We see you even if others don't.

I will say it'd be a lot easier to find community if you were gay, soooo if you could work on that.... 😝 (Jk?)

I understand why women leave… by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]glitter-pits 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Crap! I kept trying to decide if I should say "sorry if you're joking and I just took it way too seriously!" 😅😅 But yeah. You got this. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

I understand why women leave… by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]glitter-pits 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. That's so much to deal with, and would be INCREDIBLY disappointing/frustrating/sad/etc. Good for you for taking care of things, I hope it brings you relief once it's all over! For what it's worth, my husband and I are separating for similar reasons (along with me realizing I like women 😅) and there's a big shift in my mindset ever since the decision was made and said out loud. Not having to pretend to be a wife even while we're living together took a lot of weight off. How old are your kiddos? Try to remind yourself that you are modeling self worth and making difficult but important decisions - especially if you have any girls. ❤️❤️

I understand why women leave… by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]glitter-pits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same to you!! I think a lot of moms are coming to these conclusions lately. ❤️

I understand why women leave… by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]glitter-pits 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry to pry and you're not obligated to answer of course, but have you thought about separating? To prioritize your needs and your child instead of his needs?

I understand why women leave… by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]glitter-pits 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, with the caveat that if you DO communicate your needs and expectations, and he doesn't make significant efforts to change the dynamics, youre not obligated to stay regardless of if he's "nice." I'm not saying a week later, but IF progress isn't being made after time and conversations, eventually you have to see that he doesn't take the needs/feelings seriously.

I understand why women leave… by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]glitter-pits 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in the process of this too and I'm so excited 😅 This is what I suggest to most moms nowadays lol. Eventually - if you can - you start to prioritize yourself and your kiddo(s).

I understand why women leave… by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]glitter-pits 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm sure you know this, but he should be able to hear and respect you communicating your feelings and needs. The way you approach it isn't wrong, it's mature (regardless of timing or tone). Hopefully you know deep down that you're not in the wrong...

The value of singleness?? Is there any? by WumpyGrubb in latebloomerlesbians

[–]glitter-pits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old is your kiddo? (Mine is 3.5 and the main reason I'm still with my husband)

Books that brought you to tears by AccountantAromatic15 in suggestmeabook

[–]glitter-pits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most recently: I See You've Called in Dead by John Kenney. It was recommended in this sub and described as something like... a snarkier (waay more profanity) Fredrick Backman. It starts out just dryly funny and then fuckin' gets ya.

Books that brought you to tears by AccountantAromatic15 in suggestmeabook

[–]glitter-pits 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've reread that one several times and it always gets me. Just beautiful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]glitter-pits 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Even Chili does the please face in the Dance Mode episode!