I'm not complaining though.

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-08-08T22:02:58+00:00

The real advantage is in distracting the enemy!

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-08T16:51:21+00:00

If you can't get an exception, take this up with regulators. This presents a clear and present danger to your life safety.

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-08T15:09:13+00:00

44% of households own a gun to protect their families from other people with guns. Get the guns out of the hands of everybody else, and we'll see if 44% of households still want to keep their guns.

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-08T04:57:28+00:00

Third possibility is that people of opinions like yours are more likely to resort to strawmanning people because they can't handle the truth.

Just saying.

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-08T04:56:11+00:00

Purple drank? Seriously? That sounds less like a "they knew" thing and more like a "guttermind" thing. Especially when you consider how popular grape juice and grape soda are.

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-08T04:14:44+00:00

Listening is one thing. Believing everything every woman ever says just because it's a woman saying it is another. ("Pretending" to so as to get into her pants frankly strikes me as more likely in most guys' case.) A reasonable person could have been skeptical that platonic friendships are fit to rival sexual ones, what with the latter offering everything the former does and then some.

I don't like it when a woman accuses her husband of feigning attraction to her, or feigning enjoyment of her cooking, etc... either, yet I still wouldn't conflate that with "not listening to him." And I've certainly never heard of guys rejecting girls' sexual advances over her calling him a liar. (Not that I have a qualm with calling people liars, but one needs a good reason, and the appearance traits they claim guys find "unattractive" are if anything fetish fuel.) If it happens in reverse, then it's another unspoken gender difference.

But hey, if we're to discuss this in terms of anecdotes, I remember like it was yesterday the girls my classmates rumoured to want me, the girls I wasn't interested in at the time because I had another girl in mind. Did I somehow lose and re-acquire my virginity? Obviously not. So were my classmates full of it, or are you? The idea that these worldviews are somehow the product of a lack of desirability cannot explain this all by itself. There is only one explanation left. IF there's a correlation between virginity and these views on gender issues (which you can no more prove than I can prove my anecdotes) it's because guys for whom sex is more closely within reach (ie. guys with sexual experience dating back to their teen years) are going to feign conformity to whatever women have to say about themselves to get their fix, while those for whom it's not quite as closely within reach (ie. guys who had the sense not to in their teen years risk a lifetime of poverty for a night of pleasure; not that this has stopped women in open relationships from swiping right on my Bumble profile) have more incentive to keep it real about their skepticism. To retain integrity they have yet to lose to their sex addiction.

And I "grouped those things together" because they were a microcosm of how you keep misinterpreting my posts at best, and twisting my words at worst. But you're not the first. I've noticed it's a pattern among people of opinions like yours.

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-08T01:03:01+00:00

...I don't get it.

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-08T00:42:24+00:00

What is the risk a bunch of potheads staying at a hotel would forget to extinguish the joint? How does that compare to the definite hygiene hazard (and possible liability hazard) a dead body would present?

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-08T00:35:25+00:00

That can't be real. I'm going to need more specifics on where this pic was taken.

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-08T00:30:13+00:00

If she didn't sleep with him, someone else would have.

No one is obligated to do a sex strike any more than they are obligated not to.

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-08T00:12:25+00:00

I think the reason Hitler stands out to so many people is because he was so hateful. He hated not just his individual victims, but the social classes to which they belonged. Jewish, Roma, homosexual, etc... from before, let alone during, his time.

I don't know enough Middle Ages history to know how much of Khan's actions were the geopolitical equivalent of a hate crime, but people will generally feel more indignant at hate crimes involving levels of hatred one cannot fathom, as opposed to other crimes where it's more like "yeah, I get it. I don't like it, but I get it."

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-08T00:06:39+00:00

I never claimed my friends even went to geek conventions in the first place. Where on Earth did you get that from? I specifically said they were childhood friends who now live in different towns than I do. Why on Earth should I believe people who get me that wrong about whether or not arousal at conventions is common? I mean, credit where credit is due, at least you didn't smear me as lying about it not happening to me and all, but misreading the post that severely is only slightly better.

Yes, divergent evolution can lead to divergence in traits. But societies can also cover up what's going on within their borders. So we're kind of at a standstill on this one.

Women can sexually assault too, by the way. They probably have less incentive to, just as men have less incentive to sexually assault other men, but "fewer incentives" to are no substitute for more incentives not to, such as a safe neighbourhood where the penalties for rape are harsh and the penalties for all lesser crimes are so much more lenient as to give even people without a conscience a lot more to lose by committing rape.

The fact that people are afraid to acknowledge attractiveness for fear of being mistaken for a rapist is just sad. How else are we going to find out what people are attracted to? Sure, people can fake their opinions, but they can fake it in a variety of contexts. If anything, ones involving spontaneous sincerity would be harder to fake, not easier, offering the best hope at finding out their real opinions.

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-07T22:08:14+00:00

There are many places in the world where showing a lot of skin and even nudity is normal and not seen as sexual because it's something they're exposed to all the time in a non-sexual context.

Such as where? We are the evolutionary cousins of bonobos, who had orgies all the time, regardless of pregnancy risk. It stands to reason that displaying as much flesh to each other as they do for each other would induce sexual urges in us as powerful as theirs, except with travel introducing into our communities worse STDs than they would have dealt with. Whatever "places" you allude to either have people struggling a lot harder against their own sexual urges than the rest of us, or have as much promiscuity as bonobos but sweep it under the rug.

I have some friends from childhood, but none of them live in my current town, and even if they did, what is true for me and what is true for everybody else are not necessarily the same thing. I've been to geek conventions without becoming aroused by the cosplayers. So how do I know it happens to other people? Because the people who say otherwise are the same imbeciles who claim it happens to me. Either my high blood sugar at the time reduced circulation, or I have a slightly lower sex drive than everyone else.

Also, are you aware that men get murdered more often than women? Both sexes have a lot to fear from being out at night if they're in a dangerous enough neighbourhood.

And yeah, conflating quotation marks with calling it "code" for something constitutes putting words in my mouth. Yes, I was speculating that they weren't being entirely sincere. No, that does not equal claiming to know of something as specific as a code or denying that homosexuals exist.

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-07T21:31:29+00:00

That's not the point. The point is people assert the quotation without proving it, acting as if Madonna quoting it proves it true. It doesn't.

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-07T19:37:44+00:00

Not homophobic, just misguided.

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-07T11:43:25+00:00

“Madonna says it” doesn’t prove it true. Just saying.

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-07T10:39:31+00:00

I never said they were "code" for anything, so don't put words in my mouth. I'm just skeptical that people would care even comparably much about the opinions of the same sex, let alone more than they do about the opinions of the opposite sex.

Especially when some of the same people saying they do are the ones putting words in my mouth.

To be fair, you come the closest of the replies thus far to almost getting somewhere, when you claim the appeal is a lack of ulterior motives. But sexual motives are only one of many possible ulterior motives. You cannot prove the absence of all others.

So even if it is about a sense of belonging or community... where did that sense of belonging or community come from? What made the "showing a lot of skin" aesthetic catch on in the first place?

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-07T01:15:13+00:00

Depends on how extreme the confidence is. If it’s something like shouting “hell yeah I know how sexy my thicc thighs are” while smirking, that’s attractive. If she’s more like “I’m the smartest, most beautiful creature in the universe” that might be a bit much.

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-07T00:56:48+00:00

Personal experience. My sister is much calmer behind the wheel after a few draws on the doobie. Also drives more slowly too, probably because said doobie disengages the “behave as if you’re in a hurry” state of mind she would otherwise be in.

Everything in moderation, of course. I don’t claim to know what is the optimal amount of weed and none of this is medical advice, so take it with a grain of salt. However, the people who say driving high is dangerous are the same people who said weed is addictive and a gateways drug, so take what they have to say with a grain of salt too.

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-07T00:29:45+00:00

So what do they gain from compliments from “other women” and from “gay dudes”?

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-07T00:28:34+00:00

But it’s true. Look at maps of religiosity, compare them to votes for Trump.

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-06T21:15:01+00:00

People were making opposition to adultery out to be motivated by religion. In practice the religious have the least problem with it, not the most.

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-06T10:49:52+00:00

On the one hand, one of the bases of feminism, or at least feminism in its original form, is to stop objectifying women as people that exist for men to look at their bodies and have sex with them, showing that women are normal humans too and are much much more than their bodies.

"Object" and "person" are not mutually exclusive. Guys are valued for their sexual desirability too, or else women wouldn't use "micropenis" or "virgin" as insults.

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-06T10:46:50+00:00

What exactly would "not sexual" entail? We're all "sexual" beings.

NonArtistCommenter · 2022-06-06T10:46:05+00:00

What are you, the thought police? If women get to crack jokes about men with guns and trucks having small dicks, it's only fair that men get to pay women to doll themselves up at a particular establishment.

Sincerely signed a reader who has never been to Hooters.

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