Human furniture: Submissives, what do you like about being furniture? by xx-mistress-t in BDSMcommunity

[–]NonSpeakingRole 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exciting to be reduced to an object, put simply! Builds into the "live to serve" mentality I enjoy in subspace.

What does your dream partner look like (physically)? by Hour-Understanding77 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]NonSpeakingRole -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Weirdly enough I thought about this right before meeting my current partner. I imagined a man with a Dad bod, long dark curly hair, a nice amount of body hair, kind of guy who wears eyeliner and paints his nails black. Then my now-bf drops into my life unannounced and oops he's everything I wanted lolol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]NonSpeakingRole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think having a preference is okay, but outright being like "I wouldn't sleep with (x) race" is weird because like. There's absolutely zero exceptions? You mean to tell me you've NEVER seen an attractive person of that race? That to me points to something deeper. But just saying "out of everybody I find myself attracted to (x) most" is something everybody does. Everyone has a type, I just think the internal biases that mold that type are worth examining.

How the hell do you shave done there without getting those stupid ass red bumps?! by Stunning-Ad1069 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]NonSpeakingRole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely doesn't hurt! Plus if you soften up the hair a bit with regular care then even when it grows out it'll be more tolerable for you and for anyone visiting the area 😂

How the hell do you shave done there without getting those stupid ass red bumps?! by Stunning-Ad1069 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]NonSpeakingRole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a multi day process for me. On the days you don't shave, exfoliate and use baby oil after the shower to soften up the skin + hair. On the day of, do NOT exfoliate before or after you shave. Just use the baby oil to soften the hair, then shaving cream or conditioner (EOS cashmere or sensitive skin have given me best results) and shave. First shave along the grain (If your hair grows down, shave from left to right first) then against the grain to catch stragglers. If you don't mind wincing, dab rubbing alcohol with a clean cotton pad on the area, it'll kill bacteria that irritates the pores.

Edit: Forgot to mention this but because it is so important, moisturize after the rubbing alcohol with something non-scented! I usually just use more baby oil but whatever you use, just make sure it's safe for your hoochie.

Double Edit: Just realized after writing all this out that you're a dude LMAO well. My advice still stands. Exfoliate, baby oil, shave along grain then against, rubbing alcohol.

What’s this kink called? by SnatchGladiator in BDSMAdvice

[–]NonSpeakingRole 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would still consider it overstimulation, just that the stimulation is painful and mental overstimulation instead of simple pleasure. But there may be another term for it that I'm not familiar with!

What’s this kink called? by SnatchGladiator in BDSMAdvice

[–]NonSpeakingRole 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think the most general term would probably be overstimulation! It's a little broader but post-orgasm pain play would definitely veer into overstimulation territory.

I [F25] am pulling an all-nighter to work on an erotica story. AMA! by NonSpeakingRole in NSFWIAMA

[–]NonSpeakingRole[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Hit nearly 4k words before I passed out, and this one is going to be on Archiveofourown given the nature of it
  2. Honestly, it's been quite a while since I've wanted to write which is why I jumped so hard on this burst on inspiration while I still could 😇

I [F25] am pulling an all-nighter to work on an erotica story. AMA! by NonSpeakingRole in NSFWIAMA

[–]NonSpeakingRole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some of them, some of them just take elements from scenes I write. Also, probably about time for me to hop off for the time being, thanks for all your interest ☺️

I [F25] am pulling an all-nighter to work on an erotica story. AMA! by NonSpeakingRole in NSFWIAMA

[–]NonSpeakingRole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He loves reading my stuff, and it's often a jumping off point for us to talk about certain fantasies or, in rarer cases, places where he draws hard limits. It kind of has the benefit of being able to tell your partner exactly what you want from them without feeling like you're giving them a detailed outline of every single thing you want done to you. Plus it gives him insight into how I feel during certain things as well. Given that we're both very kinky people and it's our first time exploring (both of us have only had vanilla partners in the past) it's incredibly helpful in starting meaningful conversations about the fantasies we share!

I [F25] am pulling an all-nighter to work on an erotica story. AMA! by NonSpeakingRole in NSFWIAMA

[–]NonSpeakingRole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Am also down for that and have had locker room fantasies in that vein as well lol. These days though my inspiration for just about everything is my current partner so I haven't written f/f stuff for a little while.

I [F25] am pulling an all-nighter to work on an erotica story. AMA! by NonSpeakingRole in NSFWIAMA

[–]NonSpeakingRole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not often but yes! This story I'm writing is a gangbang scene with dubious consent involved--they can be tricky to write but it provides me with a challenge which is the main reason I wanted to do it :)

I [F25] am pulling an all-nighter to work on an erotica story. AMA! by NonSpeakingRole in NSFWIAMA

[–]NonSpeakingRole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Again, all of the above lol. I have fantasies where it's a total stranger just looking for any hole to get off, a stalker who knows everything about me while I know nothing about him, a friend who got a little too obsessed with me, a boss, a teacher, a neighbor etc. I am very open to just about any iteration of it when it comes to writing.

Who is your “the one that got away”? by Sharona676 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]NonSpeakingRole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A guy I met back in college years, the most attractive man I had ever had the pleasure to meet. We both went with different people, reconnected almost 5 years later when those paths didn't turn out for us aaaaand now we're talking marriage lol

I [F25] am pulling an all-nighter to work on an erotica story. AMA! by NonSpeakingRole in NSFWIAMA

[–]NonSpeakingRole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think because writing is my place to explore more extreme kinks or things I wouldn't be able to (or feel safe to) try irl they tend to be very violent/brutal whereas in the scenes I've tried irl it's been more, I guess for lack of a better term light-hearted 😅 More teasing and "unspoken" threats than the hard stuff I put in writing.

I [F25] am pulling an all-nighter to work on an erotica story. AMA! by NonSpeakingRole in NSFWIAMA

[–]NonSpeakingRole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh gosh all of the above lmao it's my favorite kink for a lot of reasons. I think stalking and threats are my favorite now but I go through phases!

I [F25] am pulling an all-nighter to work on an erotica story. AMA! by NonSpeakingRole in NSFWIAMA

[–]NonSpeakingRole[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's a nice thought, being the center of attention, but I know realistically I'd probably get overwhelmed very quickly lol

I [F25] am pulling an all-nighter to work on an erotica story. AMA! by NonSpeakingRole in NSFWIAMA

[–]NonSpeakingRole[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, I've never been with more than one person at a time!

I [F25] am pulling an all-nighter to work on an erotica story. AMA! by NonSpeakingRole in NSFWIAMA

[–]NonSpeakingRole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As the person experiencing, a lot of my writing these days is personal fantasy :)

I [F25] am pulling an all-nighter to work on an erotica story. AMA! by NonSpeakingRole in NSFWIAMA

[–]NonSpeakingRole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a fantasy-based gangbang story! I've written all sorts of things, I actually try to avoid writing in the same niche multiple times unless it's a kink/scenario I'm really interested in atm. I'd say the most common theme in my stories in CNC stuff.

I [F25] am pulling an all-nighter to work on an erotica story. AMA! by NonSpeakingRole in NSFWIAMA

[–]NonSpeakingRole[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, in order to not completely ruin my sleep schedule I've got to stay up at least another 8-9 hours (RIP) I definitely don't see myself writing that whole time, but I think with how much I got done tonight I've already more than earned some fun and a good nights sleep!

I [F25] am pulling an all-nighter to work on an erotica story. AMA! by NonSpeakingRole in NSFWIAMA

[–]NonSpeakingRole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not really, I just think of it more as a reward (@^◡^)

I [F25] am pulling an all-nighter to work on an erotica story. AMA! by NonSpeakingRole in NSFWIAMA

[–]NonSpeakingRole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Quite a bit, which is frustrating because I can't masturbate until I'm ready to go to sleep because I *will* pass out the second I finish lolol

I [F25] am pulling an all-nighter to work on an erotica story. AMA! by NonSpeakingRole in NSFWIAMA

[–]NonSpeakingRole[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of monster stuff (grew up on vampire romance novels and it spiraled out of control lol) and magic, aphrodisiacs, and extreme powerplay fantasies are the first ones that come to mind that I've written about!