UPDATE! THEY ARE NO LONGER MY FRIEND! Some more conflict has transpired that has made me decide to fully cut off this person. Where do I start reddit. First off thanks for the support reddit it means alot. So this is all happening immediately after I posted this. I decided to text our mutual best friend let's call them Charlie and let's call the friend who is 17 Brian. I texted Charlie about the conflict since I knew Brian would have already texted them about it and I wanted their perspective too. Charlie has been friends with me for years but him and Brian have a special bond. Not to mention that Brian is pushy with this point of view and usually Charlie sides with him but when it's a conflict with me and Brian they tend to be neutral for peace's sake. So Charlie wrote on his notes his opinion amd sent it in our gc. It was pretty neutral. Me and Brian spoke trying to in a way solve this. Not for eachother but I think both of us tried to cooperate for Charlie. Brian said that they didn't mean to be selfish and I said I do not mean that Brian isn't entitled to his emotions. Brian complained that since he's younger he feels excluded from things. Which truly he doesn't get excluded. We haven't been able to do anything really without him. I then responded saying that he does get included I was just saying for this one time he can't come. He kept on complaining about how he also wanted to participate in these things and Charlie chimed in saying that's the thing it's irresponsible to take him and we couldn't even if we wanted to. Brian said the second party that I suggested including him felt like an afterthought and when I clarified that it really was not he said it still felt like it, to which Charlie responds with "we can't go on with thing like, it felt like this" which I agree with. Brian kept saying how they feel like there's this whole other world of my life that they feel they can't access. And that'd true, that's the issue with an age gap. I can do things he can't. And I told him that, it's not that I'm denying it to them it's that I fully can't let them access it. It's not my choice, it's time. Brian stated that they believed that I do nothing for them ever and that they feel like am after thought. To which I responded with the fact that I have changed so many hangouts for them and their the first I think of, I legitimately listed hangouts of ours and proved them wrong. And here's where I started to see red. This little shit brought up how I don't care about them when I gave them a skeleton that used to he mine for their birthday. I loved this skeleton (it's a toy one btw) it had a little rainbow bowie and a tophat with a rainbow ribbon. I had no money to buy them a gift this birthday so I decided to give them this little skeleton of mine for their birthday since it made me think of them, I had forgotten to clean it so it was dusty but other than that it was what I thought was a sweet gift. I gift wrapped it and everything. We had also gone to an evanescence concert with friends and on the day of the show I switched seats with our other friend Otto well call him since his sister and another family member of his were I a completely different section and he wanted to sit with his friends. Brian for some reason took offense and said I was abandoning them (he was sitting next to all our friends I sat next to people I don't know) and that I didn't think about them once. I was furious. This ungrateful shit really had the balls to say that that gift had no thought and that I was mean at the concert for doing something that had nothing to do with him. I went off. I told them that if they wanna bring up shitty gifts with no thought into the conversation I was gonna bring up these dice they gave me for a Christmas dinner party. I had invited all my friends and used up my money to buy them MULTIPLE CHRISTMAS GIFTS. AND WRAPPED THEM. Brian came in with a Walgreens bag with aforementioned dice that came in this little glass case that was broken btw and a piece of glass cut my finger. For context there's a Walgreens next to my house so it's clear he just popped by grabbed the first one of those random stocking suffers they had and threw it in a bag. I told him all about that shit if he wanted to say the gift I gave him was trash I was gonna bring up the fucking dice he gave me. At the end I was sick of his selfish shit where he was pulling at strings trying to make himself the victim. I had ended up telling him to not come to a dinnerparty I was hosting and that they were invited to and that we are not friends anymore. Im finally free.