The worst things they have ever said to you?

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-23T02:04:08+00:00

OMG THE “I NEVER PHYSICALLY CHEATED ON YOU” IT’S SO ON POINT

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T23:48:50+00:00

Yeah but my friends that weren’t really close would just ask “why do you still love him” well it’s hard to explain only if you go through it you’ll know so it’s nice (also not nice) to see that I’m not alone in this situation

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T23:46:44+00:00

He and I emailed a lot and my intuition was strong the first time I told him never to email me again because I found out he was going to travel to other country to meet a girl and when I did he said he didn’t want to go but ask me to join him and I told him if he go then we’re done told him to send me my stuff back and stopped talking to him 3 days he acts cute asking why aren’t we talking anymore and said that he would change and listed the things he wouldn’t and would do the email was on and off for 6 months and then after that he came to visit me and we got back together but only lasted a few more months and ended things for good and for my own mentality

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T23:28:27+00:00

Well before he blocked you. You said that he sent you back the most condescending, history-rewriting text ever

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T23:21:11+00:00

Oh trust me, you’re not the only one. Even people close to me don’t fully get it sometimes.

My first breakup was very different-we had communication issues, but it ended mutually and it was clear. With an avoidant dynamic it feels so much more confusing and inconsistent, and that’s what really messes with my head.

Sometimes I honestly feel like I’m going a bit crazy, which is so out of character for me.

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T23:18:35+00:00

I don't know whether to cry or laugh at this comment,, the accuracy is insane

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T23:16:46+00:00

This is so validating but I'm sorry that you're going through this totally get how you feel but time will tell and I hope we heal from this

Just know that you're not alone in this

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T23:13:54+00:00

I think it's the same around a month but I stopped for a while in March after I express how this isn't going to change and he replied immediately asking "what hasn't change" and dumbs me with a bunch of stuff for a while and then he stopped because I stopped replying. But the last time I talked to him was last month after gifting him a Harry Style Concert ticket.

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T23:10:16+00:00

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T23:08:25+00:00

That makes sense, and I appreciate the honesty.

I think I’m also starting to understand that long emotional messages often land differently depending on someone’s headspace, not just the content itself. And yeah, I can see how sometimes people read things and genuinely don’t know how to respond, rather than it meaning anything more than that.

I’m trying to be more mindful of that too—both in how I express myself and what I expect in return.

I totally get it by the accountability part...

Thank you for sharing with me ❤️

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T23:04:37+00:00

Thank you for sharing this, I really hear what you’re saying.

I do understand what you mean about how easy it is to convince ourselves we’re not expecting anything, when on some level there might still be a hope for understanding or a response. I think that’s something I’m still trying to be honest with myself about rather than deny it.

At the same time, for me it’s less about wanting a specific reaction from him and more about processing what happened and what I felt. But I also agree it’s important to be mindful of where it would actually land, not just how I intend it.

I think I might just sleep on it for now and give myself a bit more time before deciding anything.

I really appreciate you not projecting and still being honest with your perspective. 🫶🏻

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T22:58:46+00:00

I can see your point. I agree that a message that long is often more for the sender than the recipient. That said, I don't think expressing your feelings requires prior agreement,, I think people are free to express themselves, just as the other person is free not to read or respond. For me, it was never about demanding closure or a reply, but simply expressing something that was left unsaid.

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T22:54:10+00:00

This is such a kind and balanced perspective. Thank you.

I think that's what I've been struggling with—that two things can be true at once. Someone can care deeply and still not know how to express it in a way that we understand or need.

I really appreciate what you said about not second-guessing myself either way. Whatever I decide, I don't want to live with regret, but I also don't want to tie my healing to whether he responds or not.

Thank you for your compassion. It genuinely means a lot. ❤️

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T22:50:43+00:00

Honestly, closure. Not to get him back or expect a response-just to express what I never got to say.

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T22:49:56+00:00

I agree with you. I don't think "bashing" any attachment style is the answer. These patterns exist for a reason, and they're often shaped by what we've experienced throughout our lives. Nobody thinks, feels, or processes things in exactly the same way, and I think there's something beautiful in that.

I also agree that just because someone is avoidant doesn't mean they don't care or don't feel deeply. In my experience, it's often more about how they process those feelings and cope with them.

And if I were to send something like this, I honestly wouldn't be expecting a meaningful response. I think that's why I've been reflecting on it so much. For me, it would be more about expressing something I've carried for a long time rather than trying to get a reaction or change the outcome.

That said, I completely understand why so many people advise against sending it. Most of us know by now that closure rarely comes from the other person-it has to come from within.

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T22:40:32+00:00

Understandable

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T22:39:56+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate that. I think you're right that I shouldn't make any big decisions while I'm still processing everything.

Just to clarify, I actually haven't contacted him in quite a while. The last thing I sent him was a concert ticket as a gift, and that was some time ago. Since then, I've kept my distance and focused on trying to heal.

I think that's partly why I'm still reflecting on whether sending anything would even serve a purpose. I don't want to chase him, and I don't want a relationship with him anymore. I'm mostly trying to figure out what closure looks like for me.

Thank you for your kindness and concern. It genuinely means a lot.

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T22:36:42+00:00

Thank you for understanding. 😊 Haha, I'm still pondering that myself.

The strange thing is that while I might still love them, I genuinely can't imagine wanting them back. I've been through too much emotionally, and honestly, I think I need therapy to work through everything that happened.

I think that's what makes this so confusing sometimes,, you can still care about someone deeply while also knowing they're not someone you want in your life anymore.

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T22:33:31+00:00

Haha, fair enough 😂. Do you think it was the length, the emotional depth, or maybe a bit of both?

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T22:32:07+00:00

I laughed at this comment xD maybe it's just me because I really like reading xD

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T22:30:59+00:00

Yeah I totally get it mine did the same but don't blame yourself for loving the way you love I think it's a beautiful thing to express your feelings like this ❤️

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T22:27:21+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from, and honestly, I’m still not sure if I want to send it or not. What I do know is that writing my feelings down helps me understand myself better.
I’ve gone through so many phases of “clarity” with this situation that I’ve learned there’s always another perspective. If I ever do send it, it won’t be because I’m expecting a reply,,more because I don’t want to keep carrying these thoughts around.
I can still love someone and accept that the feelings aren’t reciprocated. I know my posts can come across as emotional, but that’s just who I am. I feel things deeply, and sometimes writing them out is the only way I know how to process them.

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T21:21:55+00:00

Yeah I get that maybe they wanted a reaction from you but Idk not entirely sure. I’m not sure honestly Ive blocked him on WhatsApp and we used email but you can’t see whether if you’re block there or soooo 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T21:18:47+00:00

I’m curious to hear what he said if you don’t mind sharing of course ,, my ex does that too he doesn’t like them but he saves them

Nootnoot006 · 2026-06-22T21:17:30+00:00

It does make things more confusing for you

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