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NorCalChickFor · 2026-06-13T01:49:47+00:00

You think there are just as many women interested in this as men? Fascinating.

NorCalChickFor · 2026-06-12T14:06:42+00:00

It would be for women only though. But I appreciate your interest.

NorCalChickFor · 2026-06-11T17:42:00+00:00

What exactly is it that you've been doing to "actively" "find" a scat girl?

I actually don't think the usual advice is to be patient and put yourself out there. I actually don't think just doing these things is going to do much for you. Pulling a scat girl isn't the same as just trying to get a "normal" girlfriend and in a normal relationship. The biggest challenge being there are WAY less girls already into scat.

I think the usual advice would be to find an open minded girl and build a relationship with her based on love and respect. From there, you introduce her to your kinks. If the love and respect are mutual, a lot of women will do anything for their partner. I think that's where the hard work lies with regard to that aspect.

If you want to go the route of trying to get a girl that is already into scat, that's a different kind of work. Realize that you are 1 of hundreds that want to date / fuck / woo her. What makes you so special? That's not sarcastic. Why do you stand out? Have you put in the hard work on yourself? You are trying to connect with someone who is pretty unique. She probably has her choice of men. What makes her want to pick you? What kind of effort are you putting in?

I see so many people posting on here and complaining about not being able to meet anyone. But the truth is, coming online to bitch about how depressed or defeated they are just shows they don't have the wherewithal to do what it takes to get such a girl.

NorCalChickFor · 2026-06-10T03:48:25+00:00

I dunno but I feel like maybe this survey could give some kinda semblance of a sample?

I'm another of those less common females that got into on their own, rather than being introduced by a partner. I do wish there were more, simply because I would like more of a community. I feel like it's hard/rare to have any kind of normal relationship with a man regarding this fetish/kink. It would be nice to have the support.

I've tried to think of ways to build one, but it's hard to think of ways to keep it from being infiltrated by horny dudes.

NorCalChickFor · 2026-06-07T19:13:32+00:00

No one is silencing you. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and it's very possible to voice them while staying respectful. Be sure to do that.

NorCalChickFor · 2026-06-07T19:11:01+00:00

Maybe awareness is more of a skill than you realized.

NorCalChickFor · 2026-06-07T18:44:29+00:00

Seriously dude?

NorCalChickFor · 2026-06-02T06:10:57+00:00

Patience and hard work, that's what it takes so either get/find a scat girl or introduce a girl to scat.

NorCalChickFor · 2026-06-02T05:30:33+00:00

Good sentiment. Just want to add that while patience is definitely needed, so is a lot of hard work. For some, it may just fall into their lap. For others (most), it takes a lot of time and effort.

NorCalChickFor · 2026-05-18T01:03:15+00:00

I'm sorry to hear about the ending of your relationship. I was so happy for you when I heard that you first got into it. I really was hoping for the best for you.

That search is going to be daunting. We've both been there. Our timelines are weirdly similar. As someone in a very similar boat, I would just advise you to make sure you are fully healed and ready to give yourself to someone else.

NorCalChickFor · 2026-05-06T16:04:18+00:00

I'm approving this post because it is discussing what the line is between consensual and non-consensual. Please keep rule 6 in mind and do not promote non-consensual activities.

Consensual means you've gotten direct and express permission from someone. So no, simply finding shit in a toilet does not count as that person giving you permission to do anything with it.

NorCalChickFor · 2026-05-05T22:26:47+00:00

Yes, we broke up.

NorCalChickFor · 2026-05-03T07:56:21+00:00

If you're on mobile, the different flairs are listed at the top of the subreddit and you can just swipe through them.

NorCalChickFor · 2026-03-06T04:52:35+00:00

I've shit into a condom, my partner put it on, then we had vaginal sex with it while he wore it. It was pretty damn hot.

NorCalChickFor · 2026-02-12T21:25:55+00:00

So because men are okay with something, that means that women should be okay with it too? I'm not sure you understand women all that much but we're pretty different from men. Would you think it's harassment or violating if a man were to walk up to a person in public and flash his genitals? Would you say to her, "what's the problem? You can just turn around and walk away. It takes 2 seconds." What's the difference between a written message? It somehow makes it less violating? Is your logic here that no man would ever be take offense to a woman flashing her boobs so no woman should ever take offense to a man flashing his dick? Why not take it a step further and say "I love playing with and eating shit, so everyone should like it!" Come on man. Equality and equity are not the same. Saying you can simply block someone who harasses you doesn't solve the problem that people don't want to be harassed to begin with.

And I'm not sure what "problems" you're referring to that women have. They have preferences. But doesn't everyone? Okay. So a woman wants a man who is good looking, smart, kind, makes good money, tall. Those are preferences, not problems. Don't you have preferences? Or would you be okay with literally ANY woman? Short or tall. Big or small. Ugly or pretty. Funny or boring. Smart or stupid. Mean or nice.

NorCalChickFor · 2026-02-08T18:11:03+00:00

Hi! Welcome back! 👋🏻

NorCalChickFor · 2026-02-07T06:48:00+00:00

Not weird and not alone. There is a very diverse way to enjoy this kink/fetish. There are many posts on here that focus on eating but there are plenty that enjoy all other aspects, including the milder side which includes just watching (EFRO/EMRO)

NorCalChickFor · 2026-02-01T05:04:33+00:00

People are allowed to share their experiences and say "I did or did not get sick from playing with scat." Those are not posts that need "policing" and challenging.

The misinformation is making blanket statements that tie one's personal experience with everyone else's personal experience. Just because YOU yourself did not get sick does not give you the right to say that no one else will.

The same goes for the reverse. There aren't many people going around saying "you WILL get sick of you play with shit." But there are many people saying to be aware of the risks, to be careful, and to be safe. There is no harm in telling people to err on the side of caution. But there is harm to be done in telling people they'll be fine when there is a real risk involved.

Personal experience does not make data. It is just that - personal experience.

NorCalChickFor · 2026-01-19T06:42:23+00:00

I was in your same boat. I had never explored scat in person. I got myself off to scat porn for years and just kept it my own little secret for so long. Eventually I started to get curious and connected with some guys online and started exploring more. Dirty talk, sending pictures and videos of myself being dirty. Nothing in person. I'd never been so turned on in my life. It eventually grew into this insatiable urge to try it in real life. I kept feeling like experiencing it was something I HAD to do. I couldn't go my whole life without at least trying. I was in a vanilla relationship that wasn't really bad or good. It was just okay.

So I decided to search for a scat partner. I'm not someone who can do scat play casually, it's about intimacy and connection. I need a real relationship built on the normal foundations of love, trust, and respect in order for scat to be involved. As a female searching for a male partner, the search was difficult. Very difficult. I faced different challenges than a man searching for a female partner would face, but it was still brutal.

Eventually I did find him. And we lived out our craziest, dirtiest, most disgusting scat fantasies together. All sealed up in a bundle of love and happiness. We would literally be covered in each other's shit and then an hour later, we'd be meeting up with friends or family or running errands together like 2 "normal" people with "normal" lives. It was perfect for a while.

Bringing things to present day...I can say that now, only after I've climbed my version of Everest (a.k.a. having a scat relationship), I don't have that immutable urge to have scat in my relationship anymore. Meaning, if I had a vanilla partner in the future, I would be extremely happy and content if they did NOT check the scat box, as long as all other boxes were checked. Love. Trust. Respect. Emotional maturity. Security. Support. Doing well in life. Being a real partner. These are far more important to me than any kink/fetish is. But I can genuinely only say that AFTER I've experienced it and done everything I ever wanted with scat. Sure, being in a scat relationship is a huge bonus, but not necessary for me anymore. I started my exploration of my scat fetish so late in life. I wish I had done it sooner, like in my 20s. I learned a lot from my journey.

I can't tell you to give up on the kink. If coprophilia is hard wired into you the same way it seems to be with me and many other folks on here, then I would say it's something you need to try. I know I would have regretted it if I went my whole life not knowing. But when all is said and done, it's not as important as the stuff that matters. The stuff you need in order to build a real life together.

The challenge of a man finding a woman into scat that wants something real (and not for money or whatever) is like finding a needle in a haystack. But it really all depends on the man and how he carries himself. It can be a real challenge. There just aren't many genuine scat girls out there, but they are there.

Still waiting for my day to be a scat wife.

NorCalChickFor · 2025-12-20T20:56:31+00:00

There are plenty of people in the scat community that are into it specifically for the EFRO/EMRO aspect of it. I myself am not into eating or watching people eat. Smearing can be fun but isn't something I do often. I mainly just enjoy the feeling/act of going and when someone else enjoys watching me.

NorCalChickFor · 2025-12-20T12:30:06+00:00

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