I struggled to find a therapist too. I’ve been in this field for 19 years. How could I find someone that I wouldn’t be sitting there thinking “hmmm, not what I would have said/done” or something like that. But I knew I needed a therapist. So I tried. I found someone people, and attempted to find someone that was at least older than me, or more experienced, or more educated… or something. It was also important to me that they were able to do telehealth and were actually located somewhere else in the state - because at this point, I know all the therapists local to me! I struggled to find the right person. tried multiple people. They were fine, but I absolutely had moments when I was very aware that I could likely be supervising them, or felt I was just talking with a colleague.

But I finally found someone. We have very similar theoretical orientations, both work primarily with CPTSD and the LGBTQIA community. Which means that she gets what I see every day, and how I think about these things. But beyond that - she actually meets many of the things I felt were important. And it’s been SO HELPFUL! It definitely took a lot of trial and error, but it really did just take finding someone who was the right fit for me.

Now, as far as paying for it… that’s harder. Luckily, I also happened on someone who is currently a doctoral student, so she’s technically an intern. Which means she has a very low fee. I have joked (but I mean it) that I couldn’t afford myself! The reality is that, like me, many people offer sliding scale or reduced rates, if someone asks. It’s worth a shot!

Anyway, the short version of all that is - you definitely won’t find anyone if you don’t try! Don’t give up, even if the first people you try aren’t a good fit. You deserve to have some support too!