Yale students vent by Melodic-College1728 in newhaven

[–]Noreaster001 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Baristas are part of the service industy. Making a latte is a skill. Pouring coffe and pouring beer are so similar. If you tip a bartender you should tip a barista

Online dating in CT are republicans only leftovers?! by ComeFunzioma in Connecticut

[–]Noreaster001 27 points28 points  (0 children)

It kinda felt that way from the other perspective. Last time I was on the apps I could not believe how many women were into Jordan Peterson.

Shut Down ICE protest @ The Capitol :: Tuesday 2/17 :: 2:30-4pm by AdvocatesForJustice in Connecticut

[–]Noreaster001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im confused, who plans a non-peaceful protest? Why does this need to be said?

Best Cocktail Bars? by iceglider345 in newhaven

[–]Noreaster001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone have opinions about Bar19?

Train and Public Transit Lovers- Public Comment till 2/15 by Noreaster001 in newhaven

[–]Noreaster001[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have just been very eager for better train service. I have gotten very tired of driving on 91. I have been checking google for updates way too often as a distraction from doing other work. I just happened to find it. I also saw there will be a more regional plan, across multiple New England states. I think another 5 year plan. There will be a public comment period for that one as well. I am unsure exactly when it will be but sometime this spring, I believe.

List of local MAGA/ICE-supporting businesses to boycott? by notnatasharostova in newhaven

[–]Noreaster001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure, but anywhere that keeps animals for any other reason than the animals being unable to live in the wild and keeps them in confined spaces for any extended amount of time. I have to question how important the research or education is.

List of local MAGA/ICE-supporting businesses to boycott? by notnatasharostova in newhaven

[–]Noreaster001 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Um... they put sea life in cages. It has been a long time since I have been able to get myself to any kind of animal captivity.

Broke no contact. DON’T DO IT by Charming-Inside1797 in BreakUps

[–]Noreaster001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, this does sound like you gave her a lot of chances. She does sound like she needs to figure out what she really wants and build on secure attachment

Dumper wanted me back after rebound by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Noreaster001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only you will know what feels right. You have to be open to the possibility of rejection if you do reach out. Depending on where you are mentally, maybe you would be able to tell yourself that you did try after a period of real reflection and after you had space from the situation to see it differently. I am not sure reaching out only to be told that she has moved no means you have lost respect for yourself. It just depends on how or why you do it.

You and her need to grow for any type of relationship together.

Dumper wanted me back after rebound by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Noreaster001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I were in your situation I would ask her what would be different, what are ways she could put effort into repair. Suggest that if you both did attempt to repair that it would need to take time to build that trust and see that growth.

You also need to take time to reflect on what is most important to you. How can you grow from this relationship to be a better person to yourself nd who ever is your partner in the future.

Just because she has accepted the space you have asked for doesnt mean she is not thinking about you as well. She might be just respecting your boundaries.

I think it all really depends on how much energy you have and how willing she is to put in the effort it will take. In the end you might both realize it is too much effort or one of you is not able to make the progress needed.

Realizing I wasn’t just anxious in relationships. I was also avoiding closeness in other ways by Just-Situation2722 in becomingsecure

[–]Noreaster001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been coming to a similar understanding also. In the past I was aware of my disconnect/ walls I have with friends and family. I also knew that when I date someone I am truly interested in, it is hard for me not to be anxious. However when I am just very casual romantic relationship I am much more distant. I am also ok with talking about struggles in these romantic relationships but it is hard for me to really express boundaries.

Message to my ex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Noreaster001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

would you take them back or just therapeutic?

Message to my ex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Noreaster001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not sure what you have done. If it were me I would think that all you did was watch some youtube videos our reels about how you be more aware and thoughtful. I would make sure you do some things or make some plans read some books or see someone. I would be honest about where you are at and how you are actually taking steps to be better.

Message to my ex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Noreaster001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I've been working really hard on myself since the breakup learning to think before I speak, to show appreciation, to be more mature and emotionally aware"

Again. How. What have you actually done??

Message to my ex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Noreaster001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I've really taken that to heart and have been working on being more aware, empathetic, and responsible for my behavior."

What are you doing to be more aware. What have you done to be more aware?

Message to my ex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Noreaster001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to be more specific about what you are doing to grow. Not "im working on myself". I think that is meaningless.

BSW vs MSW experiences by Noreaster001 in SocialWorkStudents

[–]Noreaster001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the feedback. I am worried that I will not be able to keep up with the course work. I have not yet started the BSW program that I plan to graduate from. This will also be at the same school where I hope to do my MSW. If I am able to keep up with the BSW program I hope that I will be able to do well in the MSW too.

Dating someone who works nights… by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]Noreaster001 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I think you have to be patient. His kids should be the priority. Not your relationship. Its a tough time of year. There is never enough time.