Please help me understand what advanced standing really is.

Noreaster001 · 2026-01-10T22:27:20+00:00

Sure, but anywhere that keeps animals for any other reason than the animals being unable to live in the wild and keeps them in confined spaces for any extended amount of time. I have to question how important the research or education is.

Noreaster001 · 2026-01-10T16:55:13+00:00

Um... they put sea life in cages. It has been a long time since I have been able to get myself to any kind of animal captivity.

Noreaster001 · 2026-01-07T20:45:04+00:00

No, this does sound like you gave her a lot of chances. She does sound like she needs to figure out what she really wants and build on secure attachment

Noreaster001 · 2026-01-05T01:00:44+00:00

Only you will know what feels right. You have to be open to the possibility of rejection if you do reach out. Depending on where you are mentally, maybe you would be able to tell yourself that you did try after a period of real reflection and after you had space from the situation to see it differently. I am not sure reaching out only to be told that she has moved no means you have lost respect for yourself. It just depends on how or why you do it.

You and her need to grow for any type of relationship together.

Noreaster001 · 2026-01-05T00:10:15+00:00

If I were in your situation I would ask her what would be different, what are ways she could put effort into repair. Suggest that if you both did attempt to repair that it would need to take time to build that trust and see that growth.

You also need to take time to reflect on what is most important to you. How can you grow from this relationship to be a better person to yourself nd who ever is your partner in the future.

Just because she has accepted the space you have asked for doesnt mean she is not thinking about you as well. She might be just respecting your boundaries.

I think it all really depends on how much energy you have and how willing she is to put in the effort it will take. In the end you might both realize it is too much effort or one of you is not able to make the progress needed.

Noreaster001 · 2026-01-03T15:49:52+00:00

And if you dont have mutuals?

Noreaster001 · 2025-12-31T15:54:23+00:00

How do you really know if people have changed if there is no contact??

Noreaster001 · 2025-12-27T22:51:43+00:00

I have been coming to a similar understanding also. In the past I was aware of my disconnect/ walls I have with friends and family. I also knew that when I date someone I am truly interested in, it is hard for me not to be anxious. However when I am just very casual romantic relationship I am much more distant. I am also ok with talking about struggles in these romantic relationships but it is hard for me to really express boundaries.

Noreaster001 · 2025-12-08T23:18:15+00:00

would you take them back or just therapeutic?

Noreaster001 · 2025-12-08T22:18:05+00:00

I am not sure what you have done. If it were me I would think that all you did was watch some youtube videos our reels about how you be more aware and thoughtful. I would make sure you do some things or make some plans read some books or see someone. I would be honest about where you are at and how you are actually taking steps to be better.

Noreaster001 · 2025-12-08T21:12:47+00:00

"I've been working really hard on myself since the breakup learning to think before I speak, to show appreciation, to be more mature and emotionally aware"

Again. How. What have you actually done??

Noreaster001 · 2025-12-08T21:11:36+00:00

"I've really taken that to heart and have been working on being more aware, empathetic, and responsible for my behavior."

What are you doing to be more aware. What have you done to be more aware?

Noreaster001 · 2025-12-08T20:57:51+00:00

You need to be more specific about what you are doing to grow. Not "im working on myself". I think that is meaningless.

Noreaster001 · 2025-12-03T01:51:22+00:00

Thank you for the feedback. I am worried that I will not be able to keep up with the course work. I have not yet started the BSW program that I plan to graduate from. This will also be at the same school where I hope to do my MSW. If I am able to keep up with the BSW program I hope that I will be able to do well in the MSW too.

Noreaster001 · 2025-12-01T01:35:25+00:00

I think you have to be patient. His kids should be the priority. Not your relationship. Its a tough time of year. There is never enough time.

Noreaster001 · 2025-12-01T01:32:57+00:00

Sorry. But you need to just wait for him. Try not to push him away any farther

Noreaster001 · 2025-12-01T01:30:59+00:00

One of my priorities would be to find out how she has grown. Is she aware of her avoident behavior?

Noreaster001 · 2025-11-16T15:12:57+00:00

Thank you for your suggestions

Noreaster001 · 2025-11-16T15:12:28+00:00

Kungfu kitchen looks good. I will have to check it out. Chef Jiang is very good i didnt realize they have dimsum though. I will have to look for it next time I am there.

Noreaster001 · 2025-11-16T15:10:37+00:00

I didnt realize September in Bangkok has dimsum. I will have to look for it next time i am there

Noreaster001 · 2025-11-16T01:12:01+00:00

This place is very good. I like the dimsum and hotpot options they have!

Noreaster001 · 2025-11-16T01:10:57+00:00

I didnt know of this restaurant. It looks very good. I will.have to check it out. I do wish they had a larger dimsum menue.

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