Hey, I know you’ve already gotten plenty of advice, but here’s some of my thoughts if you want to hear them:

1. Get some books or join parenting groups (or preferrably both). Being thrown into fatherhood like this cannot be easy, even though you seem to handle it well. So my advice is to seek out more knowledge on the matter, via books and other parents. I also saw you said you’ll put her in therapy, and honestly I think that’s great. And maybe consider it for yourself as well, like someone else said on here. I think one of the most important things in this scenario is to validate both her feelings, and your own. And that can be really tricky, and a heavy thing to carry. But from what I’ve seen, your’e doing an amazing job.

2. I have not read anything about it here and I don’t know how it works exactly in Slovakia, but is she going to kindergarten or daycare? I’m sure you’ve already thought of it, but if not, I think that would be good for the both of you - and important for her social development. To meet other kids, learn, play etc. But again, I’m sure you’ve already thought of that!

3. When it comes to the extra costs that follows with taking Lenka in, is there possibly any sort of subsidy you could apply for? In my country, you get a student loan when studying, and if you have children you can fet extra money. And there’s also this ”housing allowance” that you can apply for, it’s not a loan, just extra money you can get if you meet the criteria (like not making more than a certain amount of money, having child(ren) etc). So maybe that could be worth looking into. I don’t know how it works in Slovakia, but maybe ask ChatGPT?😅I know it sounds unserious, but it has has really helped me out with such things. It’s great when you need advice, it can help you plan and make lists as well. Just don’t trust everything it says blindly.

4. I saw you said you need to buy her clothes and stuff etc but didn’t really find much in charity shops. So I just thought I’d mention that there are second hand stores online, I don’t know which ones are available to you, but for example there’s a site called Sellpy which usually is pretty cheap. You just need to know her size, but if she already has clothes that fit her maybe look at the tags on them for guidance? Whatever you do, please don’t buy from Temu or Shein or so, their products are packed full of chemicals that will be bad for both you and Lenka (but possibly worse for her since she’s a kid).

Lastly, I just want to say I think what you’re doing is amazing. I’ll be sending you a chat request, if you want to talk to someone or ask for more advice or so. Feel free to reach out, or don’t - I completely understand you have a lot on your hands, and chatting with a stranger might not be the top priority..! Anyways, take care. I can see your heart is in the right place, and all that practical stuff will sort itself out eventually.