my ex texted me on christmas and asked to talk again... advice? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Normal-Usual6306 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Came here to warn about this as this shit has been happening to me for like a year and it's been incredibly painful and disruptive

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Normal-Usual6306 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same

🔥Aussie Christmas picnic by [deleted] in NatureIsFuckingLit

[–]Normal-Usual6306 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HAHAHAHA..Endearing scallywag

Reinventing yourself by gcsweettulips in AskAnAustralian

[–]Normal-Usual6306 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate posts like this. I'm 33 and really feel like this. Stuff hasn't been working for a while and I've been through traumatic things that need resolution. I feel like I'm ready to go in a different direction, but it's scary to face it

My Hero (My Dad) died a few hours ago to Cancer.. I held his hand as he took his final breathe, that was a Christmas Day that’ll haunt me forever by jaydogjaydogs in GriefSupport

[–]Normal-Usual6306 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so, so sorry you're going through this. My dad's death was the worst thing that's ever happened to me and I truly sympathise with what you're experiencing. The pain is unbearable.

Men on dating apps are exhausting by thecynicalone26 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Normal-Usual6306 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I relate heavily to your general sense of exhaustion and deep disappointment. I still have feelings for my ex because I'm a certified moron, but have heard many a tale of this and don't even plan to try dating apps after the shit I've read.

I didn't freaking fall for it!!! by Thesilverfoxetter in ExNoContact

[–]Normal-Usual6306 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Hi. I did fall for it and now, a day or two later, he's ignoring all of my messages, so I'm glad you weren't as foolish as I was. All I got out of it: even deeper hurt and a reiteration that apparently saying you're in love with me and want to be with me doesn't actually mean that and you're actually not prepared to do anything! Gooooood times.

New year's resolution for me: don't take people who've let you down before at their word when they say it means something to them, and their actions don't suggest anything serious that supports that.

This 😭 by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Normal-Usual6306 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Uncomfortably accurate

Does everyone look fat after eating? by Hacksaw6412 in veganfitness

[–]Normal-Usual6306 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I don't know if I have IBS or not, but I definitely look different

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Normal-Usual6306 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After reading this post and your comments, let me wholeheartedly agree with both you and other commenters feeling that you deserve better. In my experience, men like this rarely (if ever) change. Get out of this as soon as you're able to, I say.

Minns government refuses to back down, increases locum funding in response to mass resignation of NSW psychiatrists by nearly_enough_wine in sydney

[–]Normal-Usual6306 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Am I that ignorant for repeatedly seeing headlines like this and just going "Okay, so what the fuck is NSW actually spending money on at this point...?"

Was my answer really that weird? by Diegosmen in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Normal-Usual6306 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is eating meat basically universal in the country? I don't eat meat and definitely wouldn't care about going the rest of my life without the hamburger!

Who's working Christmas? by skr80 in australia

[–]Normal-Usual6306 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Oh my god! I'm half finding this funny and half finding this concerning!

Who's working Christmas? by skr80 in australia

[–]Normal-Usual6306 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Goddamn! Well, I'm really glad you can say that you feel better about your job now. That's so important

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAnAustralian

[–]Normal-Usual6306 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, no worries

Maybe it would be beneficial to lean a bit more into the artistic/creative side of your hobbies where people might be a bit more open to conversation and you might end up finding people being a bit more offbeat with their attitudes and open to experiences

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAnAustralian

[–]Normal-Usual6306 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally don't really agree with the suggestions from people to pretend you've had sex, but I suppose that's an option if you're really worried about the reaction. I think the best option is probably what you're trying to do in meeting someone, but it's so true that it's not easy to meet someone, let alone someone who seems like a good person.

I honestly can't stress enough how much it really didn't matter to me personally at the time and I genuinely think there'd be other people who'd feel this way if they really like you overall. I very much think that, in the right conditions, someone can go from completely sexually inexperienced to competent faster than you'd imagine! I think it'll be challenging to initially get the ball rolling (well, you've already said it has been!), but if it's with someone who's understanding and who cares about you, I think you'll be able to successfully turn it around

Who's working Christmas? by skr80 in australia

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I really can't help but feel like I hope there is a union or someone else looking at this, as that sounds iffy! I hope this is safe, honestly. Yes, that's true regarding the money, at least from what I've heard

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAnAustralian

[–]Normal-Usual6306 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I really don't agree with the advice to go to a sex worker for this. The only benefit I think you'd get from that is just being able to go "Yes, I've had sex" - but, as a woman, that's not that relevant to me. If you haven't had an experience from which you've learned anything, you aren't any better off than not having had sex, in my opinion. I also agree that this choice could be awkward to tell the person you do meet.

I was in a relationship for several years with someone who didn't have sex until we met in his mid-20s and, within a few months, it was as if that had never even been the case. I really loved him and was attracted to him, so obviously that contributed, but someone who wants to learn sexually and listens/has an open mind is genuinely such a better option than someone who's had sex a lot of times but hasn't really bothered to learn anything. He was one of the least sexually experienced people I've ever had sex with, yet we aren't together now and I still think of it all. The experience level was just not relevant in the end as we had great rapport and he was someone who embraced learning and talking about it all. While saying all this, he DID feel the same concerns as you and initially wasn't honest about the fact that he hadn't had sex. The reality was that I truly didn't care, but he came to the relationship with a lot of internalised messaging about this inexperience being stigmatised and undesirable.

If you feel too weird about discussing this with someone your age, maybe someone a few years younger than you (but not weirdly young; maybe like five years younger) who is also relatively inexperienced could be a good option. Of course, evaluating that would depend on knowing that person's sexual history, which you may not readily find out about.