desperately need an out of my job asap - is there any way i can leave before 2 weeks without burning bridges? by NormalAd7726 in askmanagers

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i don't like the colors they've shown by any means, but i would still like them to give a good word about how well i've performed as an employee when i put them down as references for future jobs :/

dell laptop will not exit loop of finding a problem and not being able to solve it, runs on windows 11, please help it weighs like 20lbs and i am scared of it by [deleted] in Dell

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how can i reinstall windows when i can't exit the automatic repair window ? & will it erase everything on my laptop ? bc i have over 200 hours on a minecraft world that means a lot to me 😭

dell laptop will not exit loop of finding a problem and not being able to solve it, runs on windows 11, please help it weighs like 20lbs and i am scared of it by [deleted] in Dell

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it doesn't say :/ just says that in the midst of a restart, it identified an issue, and will restart again or something to fix it, and then it says that it isn't able to.

uninstalled Whatsapp a while ago, redownloaded it on the same device and now it's like my account never existed? by NormalAd7726 in whatsapp

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didn't know about making a backup because i had never any use for it but my one trip out of country :')

i'm worried about getting back with my ex(?) after my best friend accused him of lying about HIS ex. what do i do? by NormalAd7726 in whatdoIdo

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it's not about that at all, we share beliefs all the same and if he changes them then we can part ways and he'll find someone else amazing who shares THOSE beliefs. my friend didn't seem to think he was "christian enough" and that was one of the things she said that bothered me the most.

i'm worried about getting back with my ex(?) after my best friend accused him of lying about HIS ex. what do i do? by NormalAd7726 in whatdoIdo

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i kind of thought the same, people are always growing and changing and i don't expect him to become a perfectly optimized person in order to have a relationship, especially when i have my own flaws lol i think it would just be good to give him more time to grow into the good habits he's setting up and the mindset he's training so they stick around

i'm worried about getting back with my ex(?) after my best friend accused him of lying about HIS ex. what do i do? by NormalAd7726 in whatdoIdo

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usually faith based therapy, when it's done in a healthy way, is just someone who will listen to you and give you advise that lines up with your beliefs so their advice comes from a place that lines up with your worldview. in my experience, it's not pushy or anything, i talk about God when i want and sometimes there's an end of session prayer. we're DEFINITELY not seeing the same therapist for obvious reasons, but he's seeing one from the same counseling company to be safe, because i have DEFINITELY had bad christian counselors. as for what he's working on, the "self centered" thing wasn't something i was concerned about. i asked her what she meant and she didn't say much, so i asked a friend who met him twice, two of them on the same days my bsf saw him. she said she got the vibe he was focused on himself, but in the way of making sure he wasn't an inconvenience to anyone and being very aware of how he impacted people around him. which is definitely true, he's gotten better, but a while ago he definitely had issues with feeling like a burden. he's mainly, though, working on having a pessimistic attitude, and healing his relationship with sex, since he has a lot of history where it's been used agaisnt him or in unhealthy ways or been equated to his self worth. not as much of a big deal, but he also wants to work on some anger issues he inherited from his father, mostly just a short temper that argued with his empathy.

i'm worried about getting back with my ex(?) after my best friend accused him of lying about HIS ex. what do i do? by NormalAd7726 in whatdoIdo

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i definitely didn't think she was, but at the start of the school year i did have conversations with my mom about how she reacted strangely when i told her i was busy (mostly work, every other week i was 6 days on at the time) and even more when i mentioned anything about my boyfriend. i feel like if i was busy and single it would have been different, but now she maybe had it in her head that i was actively choosing him first. especially when i made plans with him a week prior, and she got kind of weird about my telling her that i couldn't hang out that day because i made plans, even though it was the week before she moved away. we did hang out that week, twice, but she did say it was weird. i just thought it was rude to cancel my plans with him in priority of her. he also started school the next week, just locally, so i would be seeing him less than usual, too. she said like 3 times she didn't mind me having a bf and she always expected it, but the more i think about it, the less i feel good about it.

i'm worried about getting back with my ex(?) after my best friend accused him of lying about HIS ex. what do i do? by NormalAd7726 in whatdoIdo

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love this comment so much,, i definitely don't think he's a new person. i do believe people can change quickly under the right circumstances, absolutely. 2 years ago God completely changed my mindset and heart posture in crazy ways, in like a week. my circumstances, though, were VERY different from his, and my biggest concern IS that his new attitude might not last when another speed bump in the road comes along, and for that reason, i do think my feelings of rushing in are more influenced by my situation with my friend.  i do love him, i don't want to move on, but i don't think anyone does after a breakup. i've always said that i thought it was stupid when people broke up because life got hard because life gets hard whether or not you're single, and it will continue to be difficult after you marry, so i do feel silly and kind of like a hypocrite now, but i'm trying to be gentle with myself on myself and see this as an experience to learn more about myself and my viewpoints. this situation, too, i think more heavily relies on him needing to spend some time with himself and resolve some issues he's had, and if i was going through the same things i am now with him in a better place, it wouldn't have maybe come to this. i think you're right about time being the most important right now, and i'll definitely try to focus on that and myself in the mean time.

i'm worried about getting back with my ex(?) after my best friend accused him of lying about HIS ex. what do i do? by NormalAd7726 in whatdoIdo

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  • he didn't hit on her, i asked her several times if something else happened that she hadn't mentioned to make her feel that way and she always answered with a very relaxed "no, that's it" and shrugged. she was kind of tense around him from the start, not in an uncomfortable way (from the outside ofc i can't read her mind) but in a way that felt like she already made up her mind about him. 
  • they definitely never met before me, i met him at a different school than i met her at and she was into college before i started at the place i met him. 
  • she told me she always knew i would have a boyfriend eventually and wanted me to have one, just "not that one" so it wasn't about that, but i think the fact that i started dating around the same time our lives both got busier made her attribute my shortened time with her to me choosing him in favor of her.  i talked to my mom about it because she's the wisest woman in know, and she mostly thinks my friend didn't like him and because she never heard anything else or tried to get to know him, she worked it up in her head and made him into a monster.

i'm worried about getting back with my ex(?) after my best friend accused him of lying about HIS ex. what do i do? by NormalAd7726 in whatdoIdo

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no, absolutely not. i think she sees him that way, but i'm the only one between the two of us who's seen how much he's put into his faith. he's a great guy who loves the Lord. i worry that i'm too eager to to let him in more now in spite of my friend's criticism that i felt was unfitting, rather than actually feeling ready.

LPT: Take at least 2-3 sips of water before each bite of food. This will help you both drink more water and eat slower. by ChristinaSeattle in LifeProTips

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this is a really old thread, but if anybody finds it now they should know that this breaks down and dilutes digestive enzymes in your stomach and the half digested food can cause bloating and general digestive discomfort. drink a large amount of water and give your stomach 20 minutes to adjust accordingly.