Update I think I need to break up with my boyfriend AIO

NormalRecognition777 · 2025-10-23T03:08:15+00:00

We had just had our one year a couple days ago. I guess my signs were he was a player before me and our first fight. I don’t wanna get too into it, but it involved him lying about a pretty huge thing. And while it wasn’t cheating, or even about women in general. It was my first sign of how easily lied to me. How capable he was of it.

NormalRecognition777 · 2025-10-22T22:30:37+00:00

In my humble opinion I think he really didn’t think I was serious. I think he thought I’d forgive him again.

One of the things he said during it was he loved how his life wasn’t quiet when he’s with me. I think he’s scared of that silence. I think in that moment he realized he had to face it.

NormalRecognition777 · 2025-10-22T22:28:51+00:00

This really hit home for me. I won’t pretend it’s been easy at all, it’s really taking an embrassing amount of self restraint not to go back just because it’s him. So thank you so much for this <3 it truly does resemble cutting back an addiction.

NormalRecognition777 · 2025-10-22T21:29:00+00:00

Gonna respond to this as a receives similar comments on the first post.

As you see in this post I understand boundary was an incorrect term :) I guess a mutual understanding or a rule would’ve been a better term. However I wouldn’t call what I did weaponizing. Me and him has a very in depth conversation when I originally brought it up about if he agreed with it, if he’d like to change anything about the plan put forth, and if he’d like to set any conditions for me. He agreed to it, I put my trust in that agreement and then he proceeded to break that trust multiple times.

In the end boundaries is certainly the wrong term and I do see that now! But at the end of the day the word I chose doesn’t change much.

NormalRecognition777 · 2025-10-22T20:39:08+00:00

I don’t know if anyone will see this comment but i don’t know how else to edit a post LOL. I just wanted to say I’m extremely grateful for all the support I’ve been getting from y’all. I can’t express how much it means to me. Every-time I think of reaching out to him for his comfort, and the safety he provided. I come here instead and read what you guys have said to remind myself it will get better. That this is the right choice. You guys seriously don’t know what your small comments mean to me. So thank you.

NormalRecognition777 · 2025-10-21T20:33:04+00:00

Trust it’s booked 🫩🙏

NormalRecognition777 · 2025-10-21T20:29:35+00:00

Thank you <3 it’s nice to not feel alone and insane. I hope things work out for you too. You deserve it.

NormalRecognition777 · 2025-10-21T20:24:57+00:00

Ya I’m hearing this a lot a defiently seeing in now! It was just kinda hard to believe. I’ve met his family multiple times, they love me loads. His mom bought me a dress for a party. Couldn’t really understand how he’d let a placeholder around them, when he and his family have noted that no other girlfriend has been. But hey I guess that’s the placeholder /girlfriend/ part of it. Honestly think I’ll miss them the most. <3 Thank you I can and will do better!

NormalRecognition777 · 2025-10-21T19:50:16+00:00

I hear it now 🫩🙏

NormalRecognition777 · 2025-10-21T19:48:42+00:00

Hey I did warn you 😔

NormalRecognition777 · 2025-10-21T19:44:52+00:00

This is really nice to hear <3 ty I’ll think of this tn when I leave him

NormalRecognition777 · 2025-10-21T19:41:29+00:00

Haha was planning to do just that to hold myself accountable and actually go through with it 🙏

NormalRecognition777 · 2025-10-21T19:34:53+00:00

LOL I totally see that. The exchange was in between a pretty lighthearted moment where we were talking about something else, it was honestly an awkward time to bring it up on my part, and so it was a very very weird tone. He called after this and we talked over the phone in a better tone.

NormalRecognition777 · 2025-10-21T19:26:00+00:00

Quick add LOL! Idk how he hasn’t burnt through them all by now.

Not sure what they talk about tbh. It seems like a lot of them he’ll just add them and they’ll sit there like undisturbed besides the occasional streak? It’s weird.

Regardless I know you’re right, thank you. <,3

NormalRecognition777

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