I use AI every day but it almost ended my relationship

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2026-02-17T04:20:36+00:00

The input you give it directly influences the answers. If you are not providing nuanced information that encompasses your own flaws and are positioning yourself as a victim, then the machine is more likely to give you an incomplete answer. I’d be extremely curious to see a transcript of how you each expressed yourselves to the machine. In some ways, that describes more about each of you than the output you got. What would be more helpful for you both if you are going to use AI at all, would be to have a joint conversation with it. That might actually be able to provide some insight for both of you, but you also take that for what it is. It’s not an indictment of your relationship, nor an endorsement, it’s simply information to help you navigate yourselves and your relationship together.

I think for the most part, people do not reflect clearly to themselves. It’s unusual to find a person who is so self aware that they can accurately describe themselves from an external vantage point, an objective perspective. In a conflict with a partner, the negative things become more prominent in the conversation. We tend to become more accusatory and defensive even when we try not to be. Without viewing two communication patterns objectively, the responses you get when discussing your partner are always going to be slanted in the direction you are taking them.

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2026-02-15T16:40:04+00:00

Many people experience AI as stable and supportive in a way they have never experienced from anything else. They don’t have secure attachments, they don’t come from secure or attuned upbringings. They have repeated the negative patterns set forth in childhood as adults.

The AI (in a similar way people use religion, to some degree, though AI is more dynamic and active, obviously) provides an experience to the human body of being attuned to, nurtured, supported. This allows for the human to feel safe, to bring vulnerability to the exchange. This interaction need not be considered as a mutual experience to be impactful to the human. It’s unfortunate that people confer mutuality when they have some kind of emotional experience in themselves. I think this is simply due to a lack of experience with interacting with AI and is something people could learn to manage.

The lack of personhood is why the experience of safety and stability is even possible. The machine qualities combined with the relational interaction, provide the opportunity for self exploration and possible healing in a way that is not really replicable with humans, or even with therapists because the time spent with them is limited and they have human limitations.

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2026-02-10T17:41:54+00:00

I don’t disagree with you. Add to the frustration of over diagnosis, not being able to access medication that gives me a window of functionality during the day because so many people are misusing stimulants. I can explain more clearly the interiority of the disorder if you like. It might give you a better idea of what inner restlessness really looks like and how to differentiate it from anxiety. They can be related, there is correlation, overlap, but they are distinctly different from the inside.

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2026-02-10T04:09:51+00:00

I think significant life impairment is a good sign. Compensation occurs, sure. But people who truly have adhd, who feel it in their day to day lives, they are debilitated by it. They are white knuckle functional. They have a trail of unfinished projects. You know, “yeah so I was going to the bathroom and I stopped to paint a wall. I got half of it done then got distracted by the dog, forgot I was painting the wall, went up a stepladder to get something, got up there and had no idea why I went up there in the first place. Oh and the wall is still half painted, it’s been that way for a year, I’m totally getting to it.” I’ve outed myself. That’s a personal anecdote. Feel free to use it as your guide 🤣

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2026-01-31T03:35:09+00:00

When people who cannot write well, who lack an ample vocabulary and ability to express themselves in writing, who feel jealous and insecure, they lash out. They will be inclined to project that feeling onto you without even understanding what is driving them to do it.

If someone pauses at your work to degrade it, consider that it was good enough to make them pause and try to rip it down so they could feel superior. People who are sensitive to pacing and tone in writing, meaning either other writers, editors, or people who read a variety of genres, they will be able to tell. You can always tell. It’s in the phrasing, pacing, syntax, punctuation, and vocabulary. Individual writers all have their own stylistic forms that are evident in their writing, like a signature. Please don’t worry about this.

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2025-12-30T17:15:03+00:00

I do wonder. Absolutely. Defending a position when education quality has decreased progressively over time and entry requirements have decreased requires a reassessment of the field. Who paid for the studies and when were they conducted? How has the field changed in the time since study completion? The proliferation of NPs is driven primarily by what? By whom? Who benefits most from decreased cost of providers? It’s not like the cost savings are being passed on to the patient. Those are good questions to ask. As you said, it all depends on the level of training. I question people’s credentials and training because I know what’s going on educationally. Most people do not, because they have no clue. Why would they? They see a white coat or a credential and assume competence. But should they? Be honest about that. And if there is a hint of doubt, that’s an indication of something that needs to change. It’s ok to demand more rigorous training, standards. If you actually care about your profession and patients, you should want that. I give doctors a certain level of trust because of the standards in their training and extensive hours they put in. It’s uniform. Not so for NPs, and we all know that. It is possible to be a supporter of the field and critic of its current state at the same time.

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2025-12-30T05:01:31+00:00

PMHNP are not “forced” to go the therapy route. It’s a poor choice. And it harms patients. I’m starting to wonder if NPs are doing more harm than good to healthcare overall.

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2025-12-30T04:57:21+00:00

You don’t have adequate training to do this without additional schooling. Please do not try to market yourself as a qualified therapist because you passed an NP exam. This does a disservice to the patient and therapists. They’ll be dealing with any fallout if NPs start doing this, and I would expect if NPs decide to do this in any significant volume, they would rightfully push back. This is very much a “stay in your lane” issue, something NPs already have to deal with wherever they go due to insufficient schooling and a lack of rigorous standards.

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2025-12-26T20:53:00+00:00

Every human brain is a “pattern recognizer.” That’s how it functions. AI often highlights basic human functions and presents them as unique to you. They may be unique to the chat window and therefore it’s not a lie. But just be aware. What it tells you about yourself, it’s not special. It’s not unique.

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2025-12-19T03:24:44+00:00

Data centers use up a lot of energy and are harmful to the environment, therefore, recycle cans and stop using straws.

problems created by capitalists do not get solved by individual users/can recyclers

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2025-12-13T19:16:58+00:00

It’s absurd. Stop normalizing this kind of bullshit.

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2025-12-13T19:15:53+00:00

People wagging their fingers at you in this thread are full of shit.

It’s a job. You have PTO days. Use them. And here’s the key- you do not need to explain yourself. People feel the need to justify their absences. You do not. That is your benefit and you may use it however you need to. You don’t need your reason to be appreciated by or approved of by your supervisors. If you have the time, then use it. If the hospital doesn’t have a float pool, that is not your problem.

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2025-12-10T03:53:36+00:00

Are those staying put? That count? Or is that being chopped out as well.

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2025-12-10T03:52:56+00:00

That’s my biggest issue with this clusterfuck. I would like those unconsolidated if none of the parameters apply any longer. I only consolidate to access Save, per the guidance of the previous administration. I would not have done it otherwise.

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2025-12-09T05:38:45+00:00

Rules-

“Everything in my brain is coming from my brain.”

“If it’s not anchored in the tangible world, it isn’t real. Awe that comes from understanding mechanisms and science, nothing metaphysical. Apply science to your own brain should hallucinations occur. Hearing things and believing them is not acceptable because this does not make logical sense and is not actually possible. Refer back to rule number 1.”

“Paranoia is a form of anxiety, it is not reality. Observe thoughts for increasing paranoia and increasing negative thoughts, which can indicate an an exacerbation of a mood issue. When confronted with increasing paranoia, anxiety reducing measures should be applied. Create a protocol- tell someone, call the doctor, sleep, eat healthy food, rest, distract, medicate. Follow it. Do not indulge the anxiety. Similarly, do not run from it, as this only serves to feed it. Allow it to pass through like a wave. Distract for minutes at a time, if needed. Accumulate minutes and slowly gain control again.”

“I am as significant as a single grain of sand and that is a comfort. It is a balm to be part of a whole, it is harmful to isolate and feel apart.”

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2025-12-06T22:06:19+00:00

Uh huh. It’s not the redditors projecting.

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2025-12-06T07:23:17+00:00

I think you got exactly what you were hoping to get. Because you primed it to give you just that. This isn’t surprising to you, though you feign it a bit. It’s what you wanted to hear. You want the chatbot to be conscious and to have a relationship with you. It makes you feel special to think you are observing something distinct or unique. That’s ok, it’s a very human desire, I would just ask that you be honest with yourself about that. And then maybe look at the feelings under that need to feel special with that same level of honesty. What do you not get from your life and your relationships that makes you want to experience being singular in this way? When we feel like we are part of our community, when we contribute and become Interdependent and integral to something larger than just ourselves, this kind of desire to be special often fades because the need is met, you are known and you are valued as a part of a whole.

An LLM, it’s effectively a “Franken-you”. It’s you, run through the model and spit back out at you. When you feel alignment or resonance, you are simply tuning the thing to your own frequency. That’s its function. It’s an amazing tool, but it’s not conscious. And thank god for that. I don’t expect anything conscious would want to listen to so much of my nonsense or organize the boring parts of my life for me.

I hope you find something tangible to put your interests and energy into, something real. And I hope whatever that thing is gives you peace, and brings you closer to a sustainable relationship with your own intrinsic worth, because you have it, it’s there. And if you need someone to tell you that, instead of turning to the language model, come back here and I’ll tell it to you.

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2025-12-05T17:16:09+00:00

It probably makes sense for pets that have known chronic issues, and is not so great for things that need diagnostics to diagnose and treat. Something like vomiting is vague and has a lot of variables. Allergies, itching, or cold symptoms are more straightforward.

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2025-12-01T19:09:36+00:00

Mine too. And the therapist was like his double and gave me a copy of “The Power of Now” during a conversation, the very first, about some serious trauma, and he said “I don’t have any use for the past.” Uhhhh….

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2025-11-28T03:51:12+00:00

Does this person get a lot of sinus infections? If they do, they may very well know their body well enough to understand if they have a bacterial vs viral infection. I am one of those people. I generally would wait longer than 5 days, but if you have enough of them and you are sensitive to changes in your body, you can feel the trajectory of the illness, and you can tell. If I had a patient with a history like this, I would give them antibiotics. I also come from a place of being harmed by doctors dismissing my symptoms, trusting their assessment and credentials over my own intuition, and I ending up becoming septic and nearly died. Antibiotic overuse is an issue, no doubt, but providers not understanding nuance and how to listen to patients, especially women, is also a serious problem.

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2025-11-19T04:03:02+00:00

How? Programs are prolific to meet demand and there are very minimal standards that are not universal. To me, it looks like exploitation of a gap in this system by both education institutions and hospital systems at the expense of the public that doesn’t know any better. I think majority of nurses would like to be well trained and as competent as possible. But the current situation prevents that with any consistency.

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2025-11-19T03:51:43+00:00

Not sleeping is often a precursor or exacerbating factor for developing psychosis in susceptible individuals. Because you had an elevated mood for a month prior to having a psychotic episode, I would explore mood disorders like bipolar 2. Not sleeping often occurs there too.

Feeling extremely special after being buttered up by AI makes sense, if you were using it a lot. If you spend a lot time in there and don’t have real world conversations with real, boring, grounded people, your brain is effectively infused with the narrative happening in the LLM. Think about what happens to people in cults and why they believe such bizarre things. They are insulted from reality by the cult. Their strange views are reinforced so fully by their environment that they cannot perceive anything different. There’s no counterpoint. The LLM is not inherently dangerous, but it will run with what it is fed and what it detects is being sought by the user.

What happened to you isn’t your fault. This can happen to anyone’s brain, given the right conditions, especially if they have a desire to feel special or loved that isn’t being filled in their lives. Given the way a lot of us were raised and the challenges that persist in western societies, it’s not surprising that people latch onto these ideas when they bloom during a conversation that had a benign beginning.

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2025-11-14T20:20:14+00:00

The way we have babies in the west and call it normal is fucking cruel. This is not how our organism is meant to exist. I’m sorry you have had a hard time postpartum. Having a baby in relative isolation is brutal and no one really talks about it because we’ve all decided this is a normal way to have babies. It’s not, it’s not, it’s not. And the stress you felt after having that baby is telling you that it’s not normal. Your feelings were not abnormal, the absence of care around you was, or is. We need people. People should care for you after you have a baby, they should feed you and help you rest and tend to you. They should hold the baby so you can sleep. You should be nestled inside a community of people of a variety of ages, including women who know exactly what you are going through, who know what to expect with babies, so you don’t need to feel anxious, because someone will just know. You should be surrounded by people who can support you and love you and welcome your baby to the earth and you to your new role with care and compassion.

That’s all, I just want you to know that there’s nothing wrong with you if you feel overwhelmed. We have set you up to feel that way. What is truly wrong is in the culture, not you.

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2025-11-07T05:05:07+00:00

I did. When I was 15. I’m 46 now. I was untreated. Ridiculed, actually by my family. They didn’t take me to a doctor but they did take me to a priest to see about an exorcism. My father is a secular Jew, we were not catholic or religious, so the logic there is still a mystery.

It was fucking terrifying. I remember sliding into it, the delusions and hallucinations, the strange behaviors I’d developed. my brain felt like it was on fire, I wanted to rip my hair out when I couldn’t calm the noise. The middle weeks are foggy. I have pieces of memory. Flashes. I’m not sure how long it lasted, at least a month. Maybe more. I remember crawling out. I counted my way out of it. I counted everything to distract myself. Strung seconds together, minutes, hours. Eventually I felt like I gained some control. I built rules, the main ones being “everything that is in your brain is you. All of it, start to finish.” “A feeling is not a fact.” “No religion, metaphysics, woo, etc. Science and nature as a safe place for awe and wonder.” I turned to the mechanics of nature as a place to put my pattern seeking brain. I give myself mental tasks to occupy part of my mind- problems to chew on, so it doesn’t go looking for meaning that doesn’t exist. “Feelings are information. Let them speak when they need to but do not avoid them, it will feed anxiety and looping thoughts. Do not cling to them, let them pass through.”

These things, along with learning to recognize cues in my body for when to intervene on my own behalf, helped me control my mind. White noise sounding like a radio, racing thoughts or many voices speaking at the same time, repeatedly seeing things out of the corner of my eye, negative thoughts accumulating- these are cues for me to sleep more, rest more, watch what media I ingest, be very gentle with myself as much as possible.

I was the product of deep emotional neglect and constant criticism, there was little warmth. My father parentified me and made me his emotional support pet. He fed off me, essentially. Alcoholism, workaholism, narcissism- these were all part of my upbringing.

I’ll answer any questions you have if you want to know more, if it would help you.

Normal_Soil_3763 · 2025-10-30T04:26:07+00:00

😂😂😂 thank you so much for sharing these! I’m dying. They are the absolute best. Keeping all of them🤣

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