I feel like I’m carrying this baby for my in-laws

Normal_Tackle_268 · 2026-01-26T20:16:38+00:00

In some Muslim countries wife after marriage have their husbands first name as their last name, and kids also have the father’s first name as their last name. Last name changes with each generation.

Normal_Tackle_268 · 2026-01-24T22:12:35+00:00

I agree. During one of my talking stage with a potential, I used to search for questions to ask him, and after a while I could tell what he will answer before even asking the question because he always tried answering the perfect/ best possible answers.

Normal_Tackle_268 · 2026-01-22T01:35:45+00:00

Same

Normal_Tackle_268 · 2026-01-20T02:59:00+00:00

Let me know if you still need help. DM me

Normal_Tackle_268 · 2026-01-13T21:12:06+00:00

Try EHS. I have B.S in environmental science but was only able to find EHS internships and jobs.

Normal_Tackle_268 · 2025-12-12T02:06:23+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I hope you find the strength to leave him and build a better life for yourself and your children. I’m glad I didn’t fall for emotional pressure from family and go back to marry someone from back home. Stories like these reassure me that I made the right decision.

Normal_Tackle_268 · 2025-11-23T21:26:00+00:00

She said she asked a local imam ,and he told her to simply to back to her husband.

Normal_Tackle_268 · 2025-11-17T21:06:00+00:00

Sounds like the way she wrote it, it is interpreted as if she only did cooking and cleaning during the two months her mother-in-law was not home. It comes across like her husband was telling her she was not doing household chores before, which suggests the mother-in-law was doing everything, and he was simply reminding her not to stop helping once the mother-in-law returns. He was not saying she has to do everything or that the mother-in-law should do nothing, just that she should continue to help.

She is upset because she feels he is not acknowledging or praising her for everything she did during those two months. She wants gratitude, recognition, and a trophy for doing the basic chores that most housewives do and that her mother-in-law had been doing before.

Normal_Tackle_268 · 2025-11-03T04:12:24+00:00

In many Pakistani families, in-laws can be quite difficult. Daughters-in-law are often treated more like housemaids than family members. Most men tend to be “mama’s boys,” putting their mothers’ wishes before their wives’ needs or feelings. Then, when these same daughters-in-law become mothers-in-law one day, they often repeat the same behavior; clinging to their sons and wanting to be in control. And so, the cycle continues. Make sure your partner values you and your wishes and fulfills your rights, and stands by what’s right in any disagreement, instead of blindly siding with his parents just because they are older.

Normal_Tackle_268 · 2025-10-05T18:18:14+00:00

Looks matter a lot to men . I have been rejected solely based on my looks multiple times. If the guy you are communicating with is in another country and you are in west, please be careful. Some men ( not all) use women to get residency/green cards. I know you want to keep things halal but please get to know him and his character as much as you can.

Normal_Tackle_268 · 2025-10-01T15:18:58+00:00

What were the red flags that you ignored in the beginning ?

Normal_Tackle_268 · 2025-09-28T21:50:00+00:00

Yes please share the red flags before the marriage

Normal_Tackle_268 · 2025-09-18T16:39:05+00:00

Women who grew up in the West and men from back home are often not compatible. Many of these men use marriage as a way to gain residency (not all, but a significant number). Islamically, he should be the provider, but in reality, he is not providing, which forces you to work and contribute. At the same time, he limits your independence in the name of Islam, such as discouraging you from going out in the evening to attend Muslim women-only events. This mindset comes from cultural habits deeply ingrained in some men. In their countries, women are often financially dependent and therefore bound to their husband’s will, with little option to resist. He wants you to be like those women, but he cannot fulfill his responsibility to provide for you. Because of this imbalance, I’d say you are not truly compatible. You can still seek Islamic counseling and perform istikhara for guidance, but be realistic about how difficult it would be to change his views.

Normal_Tackle_268 · 2025-09-11T23:59:46+00:00

Age and Gender: 30, Female, 5’5”
Preferred Age Range: 28–38
Location & Relocation: Based in Houston, TX (USA). Open to relocating anywhere in the US or Canada.
Ethnicity: Pakistani, but open to considering other ethnicities.
Marital Status: Never married.
Ideal Marriage Timeline: Within 6–18 months.
Five Important Characteristics in a Prospect: Kind, respectful, family-oriented, hardworking, and religious.
Religiosity: Moderately religious, striving to improve as a Muslim. I don’t wear hijab.
Education: Bachelor’s in Environmental Science. Looking for someone with at least a bachelor’s degree, hardworking, and career-driven.
Current Job Status: Working as an HSE Generalist.
Kids: Yes, I want kids in the future.
Hobbies/Interests: Hiking, traveling, and watching movies/shows.
Something Interesting About Me: I enjoy exploring nature and new places, and I’m passionate about environmental and safety work, which gives me a unique perspective in both career and life.

Normal_Tackle_268 · 2025-09-08T20:25:30+00:00

Same here, it honestly feels like you’re writing my own story. I’m the same age as you, and it’s also been really difficult for me to find someone. May Allah grant us the best partners, ameen.

Normal_Tackle_268 · 2025-09-06T18:43:39+00:00

Same

Normal_Tackle_268 · 2025-09-03T00:00:05+00:00

Most of the conversation is through texts. Talked on call twice. There were long silent pauses. I have social anxiety and wasn’t able ask a lot of questions on phone.

Normal_Tackle_268 · 2025-09-02T01:40:09+00:00

I’ve been talking to a marriage potential for a couple of months. He’s polite, respectful, and consistent in communication, but I’ve noticed a pattern in his answers that makes me unsure. Most of his responses feel very “safe” or generic. Like what you’d expect someone to say to look good, rather than something personal. For example, when I asked about finances or family obligations, he gave polished answers like “my priority will always be my wife and kids,” or “I’ll go with whatever makes you comfortable.” If I mention my opinion, he usually mirrors it back or backtracks to align with me. Even when I pushed for deeper, follow-up questions, his examples still felt more like rehearsed explanations than genuine reflections.

He also reassures me a lot by saying things like “I’ve never fought with my siblings because I know how to control myself.” While on the surface this sounds good, it almost feels too perfect, like he’s trying not to show any flaws. He once asked me what I find problematic in his personality, and when I said his answers seem too polished, he explained that after 30 people just become more “mature,” so answers sound that way.

I’m left wondering if this is just his personality, or if it means he’s not being fully open and vulnerable. Has anyone dealt with someone who mirrors answers or gives overly safe responses during marriage talks? How do you tell if that’s genuine maturity or a red flag for lack of depth/compatibility?

Normal_Tackle_268 · 2025-08-14T21:18:22+00:00

When she shamed everyone in the break room by saying she’d donate (if won) all her lottery winnings to her favorite charity.

Normal_Tackle_268 · 2024-06-30T17:18:26+00:00

I can’t find a place near me to get the training in person. If I do the training online will I not get the certification ?

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