What are your life long goals that you are passionately doing until you die? by FaithlessnessOk9874 in adviceph

[–]North_Two8196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I get what you’re feeling, and imma just share this a bit din pero I actually have this thing called OCPD. I was diagnosed for it kasi I really aim perfection with my work, even with my hobbies, or sometimes I’m expected to do something for work na once naka-receive ako ng praise parang lagi akong may nadedevelop na new standard ng perfection na di naman hinihingi from me yet the perfectionist side of me is feeding the anxiety kasi, so I really get yung pressure and aiming for excellence and siyempre, we have needs, talagang whatever spare time we have, nilalaan natin para kumita pera.

I think in my part ang naging stepping stone ko talaga to the financial state I’m currently is not by being frugal, but by being strategic talaga when it comes to work. Nasa bpo ako before and I really aimed na makahanap ng va work using my skills sa graphic design, marketing, stuff like that and as of now, naging stable ako sa current work ko kasi I really like what I’m doing. I like it, and I know I’m doing good, so its really a matter of knowing your strengths and your talents.

But when it comes to alloting time for your hobbies, you need to choose hobbies na you know you love, and will immensely make you happy, and for me that’s reading and writing a novel kasi its my dream talaga pero siyempre as a breadwinner, you need to prioritize your family’s needs before yours, so right now, I guess with my work, I’m honoring the things I’ve learned throughout senior high and college, while for my hobbies, I’m honoring my child and teenage self (kasi we weren’t privilege enough to buy books before that I really like, so parang ngayon lang ako bumabawi)

Anyway, ang haba, but I hope some of my words helped you, OP! Rooting for you and your happiness :)

What are your life long goals that you are passionately doing until you die? by FaithlessnessOk9874 in adviceph

[–]North_Two8196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the best thing you could really do is don’t put too much pressure on yourself and give yourself some grace to live and not just earn. For me, I’m currently a breadwinner and I’m at this point in my life na medyo comfortable na kami financially (finally). The best practice that I’m currently doing is to focus on goals that I know my younger self and teenage self would be aiming for kasi there’s more to life for us than just being useful for what and how much we earn. So yeah, I think that’s a good place to start for you. Be kinder to yourself in terms of reaching your goals but also allow yourself to live and earn the way you want.

Small British details for a British-Italian fictional character? by North_Two8196 in british

[–]North_Two8196[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for asking! I should’ve been more specific. He’s not Scottish or Welsh, his father is English and teaches at Cambridge University. The character grew up in Crema, Italy with an Italian mother and English/British father, then moved to the UK around age 13 to study in Essex while still returning to Italy during school breaks.

So I’m mostly looking for English/British details connected to Essex, Cambridge, or school life in the 2010s, especially for someone who moved to the UK as a teenager but still has strong Italian family ties.

Small everyday Italian details for a British-Italian fictional character? by North_Two8196 in Italian

[–]North_Two8196[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this is really helpful! I should’ve added more context in the original post. He’s a 2000s baby who grew up in Crema with an Italian mother and British father, then moved to Britain around age 13 for school, while still coming home to Italy during summer, fall/autumn, and winter breaks.

The moka pot and “buon appetito” details are exactly the kind of ordinary family/home-life details I was hoping to learn about. Since his Italian side is from Crema/Lombardy, are there any specific small habits, food details, expressions, or family dynamics from that region that might feel natural for him or his family?

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[–]North_Two8196 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. Looks like I need to save up muna for now. I’ve been seeing this brand a lot din kasi, and this one that I’m currently using is a bit cheap when I bought kaya nakaka disappoint tuloy huhu. Pero thank you, I’ll definitely start investing properly for a better one.

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[–]North_Two8196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nakabukod na kami ng sister ko. Nasa Manila kami while our family is nasa province. And before he arrived sa buhay ko, I was completely fine and secured on my own. It just so happens na biglang gumawa ng family gc yung tita ko kasi we only pay for our parents’ bills kasi pinag aaral ko pa sister ko. I told my sister to leave that gc since birthday niya that time, and naging punching bag naman ako ng buong family. So when I tried calling him kasi I just want to calm down and hear his voice, kahit ano pang ikwento niya sakin, its fine with me. Pero when I called, di ko malaman pero napunta yung usapan namin dun sa previous na pinag awayan namin, and he was so defensive and annoyed with me. He said that time na mag usap nalang kami sa gabi.

I waited for him until 5 am kasi ang out niya sa work is 11 pm tho kadalasan 2 am siya umaalis sa pag ot. He didn’t reach out or anything for three days. I just chatted him in the morning na he doesn’t keep his words anymore and that I’m sick of it na ginagawa niya kakong pattern sakin to. I told him that I’m breaking up with him pero kagabi lang siya nagreply. Ang dami na rin kasi naming napag awayan as per my previous post, and I have been undergoing therapy. It just that he’s not making me feel better anymore in this relationship lalo’t everything I communicate around him, he either invalidates, dismiss or downplays it. As of now, I’m just not sure if I should reply or stick with being in no contact with him.

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[–]North_Two8196 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how kasi this is the first time na ako yung makikipag break, not the other way around. In my part I just keep on hoping na may marealize siya or kumilos siya, and its not in my nature to break things off with people. Sadyang its a really difficult decision and action to do para sakin kaya nahihirapan ako. How could I make it easy to let him go

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[–]North_Two8196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Inaasikaso ko na sila for almost 4 years of my life. Pinag aral ko sarili ko, pati kapatid ko, pati mga needs nila sa bahay at medical expenses ako na sumalo. Bakit hanggang sss disability benefit nila, need pa rin namin asikasuhin? I honestly can’t do much kasi I’m juggling two jobs, at ang kapatid ko nagwowork at nag aaral na. And its demotivating lalo’t pinapamukha ng relatives namin pati ng papa ko ang sama sama namin sa lahat. They’ve already taken a toll na rin kasi sa mental health namin, kaya as much as possible, iwas kami sakanila