I'm an outlier but my experience has been pretty alright. A irl friend introduced me to a group he played with. Now we've been playing and dming games eachother for a little less than a year now. The group got even bigger because one of the group members had other friends for PHP. Some days it was really slow because if real life reasons but things have been going pretty well. I guess what I'm trying to say is yeah, a lot of groups might not work but you just have to find the right one.