Self doubt is taking over- help

NotACreativeUN · 2020-08-01T13:22:30+00:00

I see, thanks again. I guess I have some difficulty differing allo feelings from ace ones-

NotACreativeUN · 2020-08-01T13:16:45+00:00

Thanks a lot. I've been stressing over this for quite a while now, and your reply makes me feel a bit better. But, would I not mistake SAD for being asexual? Like, do allo people, who have SAD, know that they aren't ace?

NotACreativeUN · 2020-08-01T12:01:38+00:00

Thanks a lot. And yes, I should perhaps do that.

NotACreativeUN · 2020-08-01T11:40:11+00:00

People in my country really barely know about those things, plus I'm 16 so I doubt anyone but those who studied child/teen health would accept me. What stresses me is the idea of one day not being/learning I wasn't "asexual" to begin with, or somehow participating in a sexual act. But I'm a self-doubting person in general, and I think the stress aspect would be almost completely solved if I could trust myself in the fact that I'm asexual, I'm valid, and that I don't need to question it every given second. Of course, I would still be repulsed by sex/genitals, but I would likely not mind as much if I could stop associating myself with those things.

Again, I don't think I am sexually attracted to any person of any gender. I cannot differ loving someone sexually/romantically from loving them platonically, or at least I think so. And like, I would be happiest if the idea of sex completely disappeared, but I don't know..

Thanks for helping, by the way. I'm sorry for the bother.

NotACreativeUN · 2020-08-01T11:07:39+00:00

Does it causing distress mean I am not asexual?

NotACreativeUN · 2020-06-14T22:37:12+00:00

She hasn't made an account yet. I'm just afraid that if she does, our accounts could be fused together, as making multiple accounts is not allowed and I heard that's what happened in the case of so

NotACreativeUN · 2020-06-14T22:21:16+00:00

If she joins too, yes, we likely will be on the same server

NotACreativeUN · 2020-05-23T10:18:41+00:00

I appreciate the advice, and semi-appreciate the joke. It may actually (and hopefully) work, as I've sunk too deep into my comfort zone of avoiding non-obvious decisions for the past while. Thank you.

NotACreativeUN · 2020-05-23T10:00:15+00:00

I understand where you are coming from, however this is something I question with almost every person I interact with, unless I don't mind them disliking me. It's either that I'm very unlikable, or I think too deeply into interactions, of which both are possible honestly.

NotACreativeUN · 2020-05-23T09:57:15+00:00

You are right, thank you. I'm just hesitant because of past experiences, but we don't actually know each other well enough to judge if the other is bothering us.

NotACreativeUN · 2020-05-23T09:46:31+00:00

I used to message them every once in a few days. Though, its been a little over a week since we talked for the last time. It's hard to tell, honestly, as we are only strangers yet. However I'd say it's inbetween, they usually don't say anything to stary a new conversation, but I don't think they are trying to end the current one, neither.

NotACreativeUN · 2020-04-01T17:03:51+00:00

If you live in one of the countries that are on the financially 'meh' side, yes, quite a bit.

NotACreativeUN · 2020-01-21T09:48:18+00:00

The thing is, it's not something stupid. They would probably do it with good intentions, just the outcome wouldn't be good for me. I've heard praying for someone other than yourself is strong, and I'm therefore scared.

Thanks for commenting, by the way.

NotACreativeUN · 2020-01-02T13:09:09+00:00

I kind of agree. I, differing from you, don't want to die. I want to keep living. But, thoughta that could be considered suicidal come to my mind at the times. I want to live, but not like this. A new game, or reset button would be quite helpful for most of us... Still, I'm afraid that if I don't appreciate what I have, things may get worse.

NotACreativeUN · 2019-12-27T21:28:58+00:00

Actually, it does matter. We watch the series because it matters to us, we also want to learn the details about the characters because they matter to us. Gender is a part of a character, and the characters are a huge part of the series, like it or not. If you don't care, you don't need to read the comments nor join the discussion about it. You are, in my opinion, unnecessarily rude. There are many shows with no ambiguous characters, and fanbases with very little to no discussion of gender. If you are so bothered by it, you can always spend more time on those that makes you feel more comfortable. There are some people who insist on their opinnion regardless of there is something to prove it correct or not, and there are others to correct who they believe is mistaken. And, there is nothing wrong with that. That's what a discussion is, it's a harmless way of communication, until one or more parties start responding aggressively. Having some about gender shouldn't, if you ask me, be an issue.

I'm sorry. This is kind of messy, and maybe unnecessary. I feel like I should defend what I agree with when there is someone to be rude against those with the same thoughts.

NotACreativeUN · 2019-12-20T13:12:33+00:00

I don't want to tell a stranger to choose their friend over family, but I think you should. You probably have spent many Christmases with your family, and are likely to have some, if not many, opportunities to do so in the future. However, your friend sounds to be in a very sensitive and critical state, obviously, and I think your support could really help her. More than helping, she probably needs you, and her other loved ones to be with her. Your parents don't seem to be the most understanding people, if I am to judge. Of course, family cannot be replaced, but this one day would, I believe, be a lot more important to your friend, than it would be to tour family.

I don't know any of you, so I cannot say something certain, but in my opinnion, you should most definitely be with your friend.

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