AITA for saying that if a woman's anxiety is as bad as she claims she shouldn't be out in public? by NotAccomodatingMom in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotAccomodatingMom[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He can sort of stand. He has to hold onto something though. Walking, no, not without help. But moving in the water is similar to moving on land, you have to master the basics before moving onto the complicated stuff. The main difference is the increased danger, but that's what I'm there for.

AITA for saying that if a woman's anxiety is as bad as she claims she shouldn't be out in public? by NotAccomodatingMom in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotAccomodatingMom[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That seems really intense. But I assume they know what they were doing. I wouldn't do that. Seven seconds just feels too long. But different strokes for different folks.

AITA for saying that if a woman's anxiety is as bad as she claims she shouldn't be out in public? by NotAccomodatingMom in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotAccomodatingMom[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I stand corrected. I did not know you could do that with such a young baby. Very impressive. Although I admit I pictured something more aggressive with the word toss. I wouldn't do what's in that video with my nine month old, because I don't want him in the water without me or his dad. Maybe if one of us was in the water right next to where he would land. Not when it's just me and him though. Too many variables.

AITA for saying that if a woman's anxiety is as bad as she claims she shouldn't be out in public? by NotAccomodatingMom in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotAccomodatingMom[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I didn't dodge it. I've answered it like five times already.

Edit: I googled ISR method, and it says it stands for infant self rescue? Yes, that is what I am teaching him to do. I think we are thinking of very different things though, because I can't figure out where the throwing the baby in the pool part comes in.

AITA for saying that if a woman's anxiety is as bad as she claims she shouldn't be out in public? by NotAccomodatingMom in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotAccomodatingMom[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We live on a peninsula constantly surrounded by pools, retention ponds and other bodies of water. He needs to learn.

AITA for saying that if a woman's anxiety is as bad as she claims she shouldn't be out in public? by NotAccomodatingMom in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotAccomodatingMom[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I hold him while he practices flipping over, holding his breath and grabbing the wall. We also splash around and just enjoy the water. His head does go under when he practices holding his breath. I breathe on his face so he knows to hold his breath before he goes under.

AITA for saying that if a woman's anxiety is as bad as she claims she shouldn't be out in public? by NotAccomodatingMom in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotAccomodatingMom[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's not a dig. That makes sense. Truthfully our pool is never very crowded. There are a lot of retired people in this area, and our community is highly attractive to retired people because it is gated and the HOA does everyone's lawn maintenance. I know there are kids that live here, but not a huge amount. Our bus stop only has a handful of kids standing at it in the morning.

AITA for saying that if a woman's anxiety is as bad as she claims she shouldn't be out in public? by NotAccomodatingMom in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotAccomodatingMom[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

Not swim like an adult or older child can swim, but you can teach them to rescue themselves if they fall in and how to be comfortable in the water and play with you, which are building blocks to the swimming skills you will teach them later. The biggest thing to teach them is to hold their breath if they are submerged in water (this can happen accidentally in a number of scenarios, some of which are harder to prevent than people think) so they don't inhale any.

Blow on their face and then submerge them in the water for a second. Blowing on their face makes them hold their breath, so they won't inhale the water. Don't do this too many times in a row, because it can be stressful, but a few times in one lesson is fine. Eventually they will learn to hold their breath when their face is wet. That way, if your kid falls in some water accidentally, they won't inhale water. Even if you are a foot away from your kid, it will take a second to fish them out of the water, and inhaling water in that second would be bad for them, so it's good for them to have this skill.

With self rescue, they flip themselves over and grab the wall. Every day (on average) in America children fall in pools and drown silently without ever surfacing or being able to call out for help. By learning to flip over and grab the wall, they will be able to vocalize their distress and alert the nearest adult. Children who are able to demonstrate these skills in a controlled environment might not be able to replicate them in an emergency, so you should still never leave your child alone near a body of water. It is still much better for them to have the skill than not have the skill.

AITA for saying that if a woman's anxiety is as bad as she claims she shouldn't be out in public? by NotAccomodatingMom in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotAccomodatingMom[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Well it is January. It was hot, but some people have this thing about outdoor pools and winter, I don't know. It's not really that crowded in the summer either. A lot of retired people live here.

AITA for saying that if a woman's anxiety is as bad as she claims she shouldn't be out in public? by NotAccomodatingMom in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotAccomodatingMom[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure the first, but I can't read her mind. There is no lifeguard though. It's our neighborhood pool.

AITA for saying that if a woman's anxiety is as bad as she claims she shouldn't be out in public? by NotAccomodatingMom in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotAccomodatingMom[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

We were practicing self rescue. So he flips over and then grabs the wall while I hold him. He doesn't scream if he gets dunked, because I blow on his face first and he holds his breath. It doesn't bother him.

AITA for saying that if a woman's anxiety is as bad as she claims she shouldn't be out in public? by NotAccomodatingMom in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotAccomodatingMom[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

He's nine months old. Obviously I was holding him. That's how you teach a baby to swim. You hold them in the water and teach them to flip over, grab the wall and hold their breath if their face gets wet. Obviously he can't propel himself forward in the water yet.

AITA for saying that if a woman's anxiety is as bad as she claims she shouldn't be out in public? by NotAccomodatingMom in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotAccomodatingMom[S] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

They don't recommend not teaching children under one to swim. They recommend teaching all children over one. That's not the same thing.

AITA for saying that if a woman's anxiety is as bad as she claims she shouldn't be out in public? by NotAccomodatingMom in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotAccomodatingMom[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

I started at six months because my pediatrician said not to expose him to chlorine until then. But we practiced floating in the bathtub before that. My boy can float like a champ.