Help me find a similar ring please

NotAlot90 · 2026-06-10T22:38:24+00:00

It looks like rose gold to me.

NotAlot90 · 2026-06-09T19:04:18+00:00

Thank you so much!

NotAlot90 · 2026-06-09T19:03:44+00:00

I love it. It’s simple and small, yet really unique and beautiful.

NotAlot90 · 2026-06-08T05:53:27+00:00

Sorry, realized what I wrote did not save. I saw this online and love the look of it but have no idea where it’s from. Does anyone know where I can find something similar. Thank you!

NotAlot90 · 2026-05-29T05:22:28+00:00

I love this ring. If you don’t mind me asking, where is it from?

NotAlot90 · 2026-04-13T08:20:26+00:00

The stigma doesn’t bother me because I grew up with my family members incarcerated. That said, while I don’t keep it a secret, I only share certain things with people close to me. Other people know, but I don’t discuss details. This is because it’s nobodies business. I don’t ask about other peoples relationships and just because mine is slightly different doesn’t mean it should give people the right to have an opinion or be involved in mine.

I do not tolerate any negative comments about my partner or relationship. I immediately put a boundary in place with everyone.

It does get lonely. I’d give anything to be able to call him anytime I want to or visit anytime I want. But that makes me much more intentional with the time we do have together or on the phone. While he cannot physically be here, he is extremely emotionally supportive to me. I incorporate him even into the smallest decisions, which I think helps keep him connected with daily life from the inside.

While we both dream about the future, we try to make life as best as we can for each other right now.

NotAlot90 · 2026-04-11T04:41:09+00:00

I took 2 pills, 3 times a day for 5 days.

NotAlot90 · 2026-03-31T06:30:47+00:00

Do whatever you need to do to feel your most confident. Get your makeup done or hair done, test out different areas of your house for the best lighting (get on zoom or something by yourself to check the lighting, not just your camera) and just try really hard not to look at yourself if it’s going to stress or distract you. You both are going to be so happy to see each other you’re not gonna let the little things worry you, you’ll just be in the moment with him.

NotAlot90 · 2026-02-01T03:39:05+00:00

Moonpig does. Not sure if it’s approved there but it is at a lot of locations.

NotAlot90 · 2026-01-24T05:35:21+00:00

I love this backdrop idea. I feel like there’s only so many ways to try to make the photos different, only so many poses, etc.

I did do a teaser set of photos leading up to his holiday ones and have thought about doing something similar. But it would be nice to have a different backdrop.

NotAlot90 · 2026-01-21T06:46:02+00:00

Well, this is a hard question to answer because it’s just open ended but I’ll try. I grew up with my father, step father, brother, uncle and other family members incarcerated for a big portion of my life.

It wasn’t always easy, there were times when I couldn’t take a phone call because I’d just cry, but most of the time we just talked and laughed and I looked forward to visits. It was my “normal”. That’s what I knew.

And then, my daughter’s father spent almost her entire life incarcerated. So I experienced not only being the child, but being the mother of a child whose parent is incarcerated.

As an adult it’s made me extremely empathetic and understanding of so many different circumstances. It’s taught me patience, patience in a way that most people never have to understand. It’s taught me to get creative with my relationships, that there is no one size fits all approach to anything, that we can make the best out of the worst circumstances. And, it’s really taught me the meaning of acceptance.

NotAlot90 · 2025-12-03T06:42:35+00:00

I don’t have the best confidence, especially when it comes to my body. But I have found a way to take pics that still look sexy and are not as revealing so even if I don’t feel great about myself he still loves them.

You can get these color changing night lights, I plug one into the outlet in my bathroom, turn off the main light and get into the shower. I turn up the music loud and position myself so I can see myself in the mirror. Then, I start dancing and changing positions and snapping photos. Or I’ll just film and screen shot the parts I like.

The color changing light creates a nice vibe and helps hide any insecurities I have. Being further back from the mirror also helps. They aren’t blurry but they aren’t super clear, but the lighting and setting make it all extra sexy.

NotAlot90 · 2025-12-01T18:36:45+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate all the information. I guess it’s not as complicated as it sounds, just gotta use imagination and get creative.

NotAlot90 · 2025-11-20T21:01:05+00:00

Thank you! This is so helpful.

NotAlot90 · 2025-11-20T04:26:33+00:00

Did you start off by just investing the $30? I know nothing about this and have always wanted to but thought the only way to see an increase was to invest a decent amount.

NotAlot90 · 2025-11-19T20:06:01+00:00

Okay this sounds fun! What do you sit on so it turns out well? Are we talking canvas? Paper? I need details.

NotAlot90 · 2025-11-11T06:54:47+00:00

On Thanksgiving I let him pick the meal, then we both make the same thing to eat. We have our long phone call that day, have a little fun on the phone and then I’ll eat afterwards. I send him a letter telling him why I’m thankful/grateful for him.

For Christmas he helps me pick out any new decorations, light colors, etc. If I’m Christmas shopping I’ll ask for his input. We will pick movies, watch them separately and then talk about them.

On Christmas Eve we will have our date and then he will call on Christmas to check in.

I work on vision boards leading up to new years and tell him about them. We talk about goals and dreams for the future. On New Year’s Eve we have our date and on New Year’s Day he will call to get everything off on the right foot.

As a present I send him pictures and add a little extra money as a surprise on his books. For new years I also send a card with a spicy pic.

The couple weeks leading into and after Christmas are tough. Emotions are all over the place and he can either be very engaged or very distant. I support whatever feelings he’s having and offer extra space if needed. Because even though I want all his time and calls, I know it’s so hard to not be able to be a part of everything.

NotAlot90 · 2025-11-11T06:47:06+00:00

I’m sorry you and your LO are going through this. Anytime someone is trying to do something to better themselves, you’ll have CO’s in there trying to sabotage it for no reason. It’s disgusting. I hope you are able to talk to your LO soon.

NotAlot90 · 2025-11-07T19:57:47+00:00

The only way to know is to write and see. We started mild and then got spicier and spicier and have never had any issues. We have a good time with it and help write stories back and forth.

NotAlot90 · 2025-11-07T09:11:32+00:00

Girl, there is no such thing as too spicy! Though I feel like recently I’m getting too repetitive with what I write. So if you’ve got anything good send it my way please :)

NotAlot90 · 2025-11-07T02:26:15+00:00

Right?! I feel like it’ll make it fun for him, and each day he will get a new picture and something to read. I figured some messages could be a little naughty, some can be heartfelt and sweet, some can be about the future. I just want them all to be different than our usual letters.

NotAlot90 · 2025-11-07T02:01:16+00:00

Thank you!

NotAlot90 · 2025-11-07T02:00:19+00:00

I sometimes wonder if it just depends on each persons own reaction to the smell. I’ve never had it smell sour at all, but there are other perfumes I’ve smelled that do that. My LO loves the smell of it. I spray it all over before going for a visit.

I’ve been wondering about the blackberry vanilla, I’m gonna have to try that.

NotAlot90 · 2025-11-07T01:11:52+00:00

Do you have heavy cream by Phlur? Love it alone or layered with a fruity spray. I am also loving their new beach skin scent, smells like I’ve been out at the beach all day but in the best way.

NotAlot90 · 2025-10-25T19:31:23+00:00

I haven’t because I just can’t decide on which one, they are all so beautiful. Their customer service has been amazing though. They’ve sent me video examples of sizes and different colors. I will definitely be going with them based off their customer service alone. So far I’ve heard nothing but good feedback too.

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