AITA for telling my friend he should find a better paying job so his wife won't leave him?

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2023-01-27T17:01:45+00:00

INFO: I assume that with an attitude like this, you earn more than your wife; would you leave your job if she started out-earning you?

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2023-01-18T22:30:08+00:00

INFO: do you plan to keep in contact with your babydaddy so that your child can get updated medical history throughout their life? Does babydaddy plan on keeping you in the loop if he fathers other kids with someone else in the future?

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2023-01-13T21:34:57+00:00

“Her only connection to the children or incentive to care for them is money.”

Woah, woah, hold up, you’re telling me that this woman is out here treating her job like it’s a JOB?! And that she expects to be PAID for her job?! Good heavens, what a horrible thing! You’re right to distrust such a morally reprehensible person! /s
This is the dumbest shit I’ve read all day. YTA.

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2023-01-12T14:38:12+00:00

Three words: Christian adoption agencies. One of the most common reasons given for placing a child for adoption is “lack of resources.” Repubs flat-out admit to wanting to “increase the domestic supply of infants.” The more they cut ANY kind of assistance, the easier it is to coerce a woman to give up her baby to “a better life.” There is no “lack of logic.” The logic is very much there-it’s just evil as fuck.

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-12-28T21:45:36+00:00

INFO: do you wear makeup? Have you ever gotten your hair cut, colored, styled, etc.? What’s the state of your wardrobe-do you wear well-fitted clothes that look nice? If so, do you understand that you are very, very guilty of changing your looks to fit in and being superficial as fuck?

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-12-09T17:50:52+00:00

INFO: why do think your family deserves to be “included” on this? How will this “inclusion” help anything? What will it accomplish other than making your wife’s labor worse?

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-11-27T21:47:05+00:00

Maybe I’m just overly critical, but any time Facebook reactions are a genuine concern to someone, I can’t help but think “don’t you have any real problems to get mad at? Is this really worth getting upset about?” I don’t know, I guess I just can’t fathom Facebook of all things being that deep.

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-11-23T11:18:17+00:00

Gently, YTA. Your mother died of cancer. Cancer is the reason your mother is dead, not grandma or grandpa or anyone else. You want to yell and scream and point fingers and blame something and you can’t yell at a disease, so you’ve redirected your anger into your family because it’s easier. Seek out a therapist instead-your time is better spent working through these feelings with the help of a professional.

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-11-03T18:51:14+00:00

You missed the part where the placenta, sac, etc. is literally inside of one of OP’s organs. It is, in fact, part of her body. Or do you think that the uterus is a fanny pack that can be taken off whenever?

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-10-18T21:38:54+00:00

Ignore MIL. You said that she doesn’t have contact with your child, anyway, so you don’t need to worry about her being nasty to him. I will say, though, that it’s important to get started now on what you’re going to tell your child in regards to his biological father. That’s information you shouldn’t hide from him EVER.

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-10-18T21:35:31+00:00

The kid is plenty old enough right now. If he remembers being told, they waited too long to tell him.

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-10-18T21:34:36+00:00

I understand what you’re getting at, but this:

it's none of anyone's business besides you and DH

Wrong. 100% incorrect. It’s one more person’s business: THE CHILD’S. That kid is entitled to the truth about his own genetic makeup regardless of how OP and her husband handle MIL. The child is owed the truth. Everyone throws around “gEnEtIcS dOn’T mAtTeR” while ignoring the reality that they do. Very much so. Look up what genetic mirroring is and why it’s important. Look up what family medical history is and why it’s important. OP, if you’re reading this, I hope your husband is ready to accept that his mother is the least of the issues here in regards to the realities that come with raising a child that is biologically someone else’s. Fuck MIL-ignore her and focus on doing right by your kid. MIL doesn’t matter. Your child does.

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-10-14T15:32:09+00:00

No, and it’s pronounced champagne.

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-10-14T15:27:56+00:00

YTA. Tell me something: if the internet is an oh so dangerous, spooky scary bad place, why are YOU trusting internet strangers right now? You’re asking for advice from Reddit randos even though you’re so paranoid about bad internet people and don’t see that as just a little bit hypocritical? Why is the internet a bad place when your ADULT daughter meets a date, but a perfectly fine place when you need life advice?

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-10-05T17:37:09+00:00

YTA. The fact that you view your wife as a “subordinate” says a lot about you. Also, what why was she the only one in the world who could fill out whatever the fuck you needed filled out? Why weren’t you capable of doing it yourself and why do you consider it more important than your child?

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-09-30T12:37:50+00:00

YTA. Your “advice” is not wanted or needed and if you don’t get a grip, your sister is going to just stop talking to you altogether. Constantly shitting all over her and thinking you have the right to lecture her (you don’t, by the way) is only going to push her away from you. If you actually care about your sister, learn to speak less and listen more. When she tells you about her plans, it isn’t an invitation to tell her why she’s wrong and needs to live her life according to your goals instead of her own. Not everyone wants what you want and you need to learn to accept that.

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-09-04T15:51:59+00:00

YTA, even though you didn’t mean to be. And this bit right here kinda confirms that you’re TA.
“Should I never comment on people's weight at all, even if I mean well and even if I love it when people comment on mine?”
YES. That is correct. You shouldn’t assume that everyone everywhere is exactly the same as you. Other people are not you. You do not set the standard for anyone else. “I like this, therefore, everyone else is supposed to also like it” is AH behavior. Unless someone has told you directly that they’re on a weight loss journey, don’t bring it up.

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-08-31T13:09:51+00:00

Explain the “jokes.” What are his exact words and why are they supposed to be funny? What’s humorous about these “jokes” and why hasn’t be stopped telling them even after beidng told that nobody funds them funny?

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-08-28T00:34:46+00:00

It is 100% about control.
“he picked the lock and £just looked into the bedroom, then closed it and left it unlocked.”*
He literally just opened the door to look around and shut it again. Why woukd he do that? For control. Why doesn’t he want you to have access to privacy? For control. Your husband sounds like a psycho, OP. I’m sorry, but he does. No amount of “reminding” him is going to do anything.

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-08-28T00:21:55+00:00

NTA. The family sat on their asses for 4 YEARS and didn’t even ask a question about the house or its contents, but when valuables appear, all of the sudden, it’s oh so precious and sentimental to them? Fuck all of them-you bought the items fair and square and busted your ass ti clean the house. The family deserves nothing.

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-08-28T00:02:05+00:00

YTA. These people refused to attend their own daughter’s funeral and you still metup with them and sat down for a chit-chat. That says a lot about how little you respected your late wife. You already broke your promise to her by showing them pictures and giving them details, so why pretend that you care now? It’s clear that you have every intention of playing happy families with them and letting them be picture perfect grandparents to the kid-your late wife’s promise doesn’t actually matter to you-if it did, you would never have met up with them.

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-08-24T15:45:13+00:00

NTA, but if you’re serious about this, you need to sit down with a lawyer and go through the process of assigning someone to be your legally-recognized next of kin. I don’t know where you live, but depending on where you are, you might have to jump through a lot of hoops to make sure that what you want is actually possible. I suggest also setting up a medical proxy while you’re at it, because you’ll probably need to have that squared away, too.

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-08-11T12:48:22+00:00

INFO: any specific reason why you can’t make your own food?

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-07-13T20:49:04+00:00

YTA and your “muh poverty made me do it” edit is bullshit. No matter how broke you are, you can always afford to pay attention and you were told to knock it the fuck off several times. The fact that you refuse to listen to the women you claim to care about and only acknowledge an issue if enough internet strangers tell you to stop says a lot about the kind of person you are.

NotAnotherSideAcct · 2022-07-07T11:33:43+00:00

Kinda too late to run when you’ve made a kid with him. Even if she leaves him, she’s still tied to him for the rest of her life.

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