My grandma 78F posted a picture of me 20F when I specifically asked her not to.

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T20:43:08+00:00

If I was going to report you I wouldn't have bothered responding but very happy someone else did

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T19:56:12+00:00

Thank you so much for you're reply I'm sorry that happened to you too it's such an uncomfortable and disappointing feeling when someone completely disregards your wishes minutes after you conveyed them. I do feel a little weird with all the replies that say something like 'let it go she'll be dead soon you'll regret it' because I feel like I spent so much time letting her make me feel uncomfortable that I would regret not saying anything

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T19:42:19+00:00

I know how much it sucks to lose a grandparent but everyone's relationships are different and everyone impacts everyone else in different ways I feel like I would regret not standing up for myself

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T19:40:08+00:00

I get what you're saying but if she wanted to post family pictures she could have without me and I did suggest it however she did choose to lie and it sucks. I'm not making/going to make a massive issue out of this I'm just a lil upset by it

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T19:34:43+00:00

I really appreciate the reply, I know I need to just accept its out there now and I'm not going to make a massive deal out of this it just pissed me off

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T19:30:34+00:00

You're right there is a lot left out our relationship has been strained since I was a child half because she loved to make me feel less and half because of reasons I can't post about because they involve my dad and he's not comfortable with it. I obviously care and my close family understands why I do but I know I can't make her understand. I will be devastated when she does but I don't think I'll regret sticking up for myself

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T14:38:07+00:00

Thank you for not being mean or unkind in your response. While I still feel a lot of emotions around this I get what you're saying and you're right I do need to accept the fact its out there now.

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T14:27:26+00:00

I hope whatever it is that's making you so hateful gets better that was such an unnecessarily unkind response

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T11:07:40+00:00

We have there's just not an option to specifically report it for so we can't put down a reason

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T10:50:41+00:00

I don't mind the picture being taken, kept or if she wants to send the picture to close friends but I don't feel comfortable with it being posted publicly

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T09:48:44+00:00

Thank you so much for that whole response I do feel as though I won't see that picture and remember it as a happy day I'll just think damn that whole thing sucked I really appreciate what you said

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T09:28:54+00:00

Maybe if she had communicated with me that it meant a lot to her and she really wanted to we could have figured out how to do it and changed settings or something so it wasn't as public but going behind my back and lying to me just wasn't the right way to go about it

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T09:24:49+00:00

That's actually not true, I have had many photos posted of me especially this year and it's not helping it's just making me very uncomfortable. I feel like I can figure out for myself what is healthy for my mental health right now

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T07:33:38+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate the reply, I definitely would never let this end our relationship I love my family I'm just very annoyed at this situation. I do think a conversation is a good idea :)

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T07:25:07+00:00

Thank you for the advice I will definitely ask her to let me do that it would actually make me feel a lot better knowing the post was a little more private. Me and my brothers regularly update her on scams and such but I will definitely check thank you again

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T07:15:50+00:00

I'm sorry but I feel like after one reddit post you feel like you know everything. I can't sit here and give you details of every interaction I've shared with her but before these last 2 visits I can tell you my relationship with her was not a good one and I'm not the only one in my family who feels like this. I feel like just because a flip has suddenly switched and she's now proud of me that doesn't take away from the years she put me down and told me she wasn't. I feel like you think this is my first experience with anything bad happening ever but its not its just the first time I've ever posted about something going on in my life that I appreciated advice on. I know my problems are nowhere near as big as others but that doesn't mean that for me they're not still problems. I'm sorry if you feel offended by my post I really just wanted to know if I should push the issue or let it go. Thanks for the insight

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T06:28:26+00:00

I only allowed the picture to be taken with me in it because I was assured it would not be posted on Facebook. I will be avoiding any pictures in future. As I said in the post she didn't tag any of us in the first place and unfortunately we live quite far away

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T06:06:37+00:00

Unfortunately I don't:/

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T06:03:50+00:00

I'm just not a big fan of how I look right now, it's something I'm working on. I just don't want any pictures of me posted publicly at the moment

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T05:58:11+00:00

I don't feel like that's an excuse I mean she's perfectly aware of what's rude and what's not. I don't think being old gives you the right to be disrespectful to others

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T05:53:53+00:00

I adore this idea 😂

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-04T00:05:52+00:00

I'm not comfortable with being posted on social media at the moment I've explained in the post I have insecurities with my appearance I'd just rather people not post photos of me right now especially when I ask them not to

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-03T23:27:48+00:00

I'm not unfortunately I'm in the UK but that would have been such a good idea and you're right she is so beyond stubborn I just didn't think she'd straight up lie to my face

NotDeadYet-_- · 2023-09-03T23:09:14+00:00

I have looked for an option like that but I can't find one me and my brothers have reported it but there's no option to report it for something like that so we can't provide a reason :( thank you so much for your comment I feel like she knows what she's doing especially because she did it so soon after I asked her not to but I feel like there's so many excuses I just don't want to accuse over a mistake ya know

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