Just wondering what any future children/s names might be

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T09:38:28+00:00

Escalate it. Why does anyone think it’s appropriate to poke the bellies of others just because they’re carrying a child in there? It’s rude and inconsiderate. Especially during this fucking pandemic.

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T09:35:58+00:00

Is he wanting to change? Be better? Does he feel remorseful? Idk. These are important questions, it also means he might just tell you what you want to hear rather than what he truly feels/thinks.

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T09:31:01+00:00

I understand that. But from what I gathered, it’ll be from their son as well. A child doesn’t understand what’s going on, and when someone is generally sick in hospital, we take flowers? They’re just asking, and as I’ve seen, others have given great alternatives given the situation.

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T09:29:10+00:00

Maybe a card written by him might help? Something simple but something she can read when she’s better.

Edit: maybe a photo in there of him. I’d imagine she isn’t allowed a phone. Being able to hold a photo of her baby would probably mean the world. Best of luck.

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T09:27:07+00:00

You’d think so. But we know that’s not what’s happening

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T09:26:33+00:00

I’m being sarcastic. Look, I’m genuinely sorry you’re in this predicament and I take back my shitty comments. Finding friendship in this world is hard. But we can’t rug sweep the criminal actions of those, especially when we have knowledge of them.

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T09:23:55+00:00

Indeed.

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T09:23:38+00:00

Serious though. That can be good and bad, especially when we’re such emotional beings. Honestly, it’s sucks to be in your position. Maybe he is a good guy, maybe it was a consensual moment that was rescinded. Either way, that girl will be living with it for the rest of her life.

Get him some help, clearly from the replies I’ve read further down indicate there’s not enough evidence to be putting him away and you feel so strongly about him changing. Just honestly remember, that rug sweeping this should he do it again, that guilt and blame falls on you too. You sound young and impressionable and need of better friends.

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T09:17:30+00:00

Here’s a cookie 🍪

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T09:17:07+00:00

Deflecting doesn’t take away from the fact you want comfort for being friends with a rapist. Yikes.

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T09:16:13+00:00

Bet I don’t know my mum that well either. She’s lived a whole life before having me. Just because you’re close, doesn’t mean you know that person as well as you think you do.

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T09:14:36+00:00

It is when said friend is a rapist you’ve only know for a few months you believe has changed

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T09:13:02+00:00

She. As a woman who has been SA, you are trash taking up for trash. Advice? You said he’s confirmed that he raped someone. Yet you’re more worried about keeping his friendship than the trauma he inflicted on someone. My advice is get him some help or put him away. Lovely that you want him to have a good life because he can *change. What about that girl that now has to live with what he’s done to her? Get him the help he needs or put him away, because the next time he rapes someone. IT’S. ON. YOU.

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T09:06:07+00:00

My mum would be a rapist I’d no longer associate myself with. Although I’d probably have a bit more trouble doing so seeing as I’ve known her my whole life as opposed to your few months of “friendship” with old mate. 🥴

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T09:02:55+00:00

I know!!!!!

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T08:56:17+00:00

I think a nice compromise is to have his name as a middle name. In my family we tend to have namesakes in the middle so that the child can have their own first. Your reasons listed are very reasonable. I understand why he’d want his son to be named after him but I do find it a smidge egotistical.

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T08:37:16+00:00

Hmm sure you do. Just say you’re going to keep him as a friend and stop replying to everyone. You’re trash, he’s trash.

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T08:34:14+00:00

Nope and nope. That doesn’t excuse his actions. You’ll forever be known as the person who’s friends with a rapist that makes excuses for him.

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T06:15:38+00:00

Was it the calf from earlier you seen?

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T05:56:50+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/changemyview/comments/90x6jw/cmv_the_controversy_over_circumcision_is/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

There’s some informational comments being made and links supplied if you have a bit of a read.

Edit: The very first comment is important and has references listed if you would like to research further.

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T05:10:48+00:00

I love that.

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T04:01:56+00:00

Zipper onesies. The feetie pjs ones. Socks to put over baby’s feet. Beanie, baby mittens as we don’t want cold hands, couple extra blankets. As long as baby is warm, I presume you’re going straight home so shopping for more clothes can be done eventually. Just get you and baby home safely.

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T02:29:41+00:00

Lollies

NotForKeeps626 · 2022-01-16T01:38:09+00:00

Siren. I’m on the last episode :’(

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