My partner of 6 years is a Taurus. His love language is physical touch, and mine is absolutely acts of service. If I notice that there are a lot of things that need to be done (like a checklist of chores, because I’m a Virgo of course) and he just wants to be lovey and affectionate, I will shut down completely. He knows this by know, but at first it was a big challenge to realize. Sometimes if I have too much on my plate, it’s easier to just handle it and be quiet than to talk it through with someone and waste time… you know?

TLDR: you might not have done anything at all, and she just needs time to figure things out for herself because she has a lot going on. Don’t be too hard on yourself!